I'm been friends with this guy for about 3 years and 6 months ago we started casually slepping together.Now he tells me he's fallen for me and wants more than meaningless sex.What the hell is wrong with him?What guy in his right mind would pass up sex every second day with no strings attached?I'm looking to have fun and would hate for our arrangement to end.We're only 21 and I'm not looking for a relationship.
2007-02-11 16:35:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you don't want a relationship then stop having sex with him.
2007-02-11 16:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Christina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh how I wish I had your problem. You could just tell him that you're not ready for all that right now. Though I have found that saying nothing at all when sex is involved works too. He may forget all about it if you just avoid giving an answer. Still you might loose him. If he's ready to have a committed relationship he might start thinking of you as a waste of time. Don't get me wrong I'm sure he likes having sex with you but, He can have sex with the woman that is ready to commit. If it were me I'd tell him not to stress it to just let things take there own coarse. Give you some time to make sure that it's not just going to be a relationship of convenience. You know what I mean? Like since you guys already have something going it's just easier to make it official. Tell him you want to make sure he's not just falling for you because he thinks he should or because it's the easy way in. That should hold him for a while.
2007-02-12 00:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that. Let him chose if he wants to keep things as they are or move on since his heart is obviously in his actions. What is wrong with him. . . he has feelings. He happens to see sex as an expression of affection as oppose to an every other day exercise routine he can get that from Bally's. What guy in his right mind would pass up sex every second day with no strings attached. . . obviously one that sees more in you than just a sex partner. Sounds like a good guy who just picked the wrong girl. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 00:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Unsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds easy, tell him "no" and that's it. If he persists, and you're not interested in a different relationship, then it becomes his problem, not yours. Of course, by asking the question you open speculation. Why ask if you aren't concerned about maintaining the relationship with him. What is it in you that wants to keep that relationship. You put your finger on it, so to speak, when you ask what guy wouldn't want regular sex without commitment. So you know you will have no trouble finding someone else to have sex with. But if you want to maintain the relationship with this guy, look inside yourself and ask why?
2007-02-12 00:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with him. he just fell in love with you. let's just say that he got tired of all the meaningless sex. now he wants lots of loving feeling with sex. i think it's great. well if you only want to have sex with him, then tell him you're not ready for a relationship yet.
2007-02-12 00:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, Jesus. Sorry, hun, but you've got no one to blame but yourself. What kind of guy is he? A nice guy, and you've just screwed him up more than you know. If you don't want a relationship, I suggest you tell him that and stop seeing him. You want to sleep with somebody for fun, next time I suggest you find a guy whoose more of a jerk.
2007-02-12 00:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by rvcort 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not looking for a relationship, then cut all contact with him now. The more you have "intimate" contact with him, the worse it will become. Some peeople just don't know how to have fun!
So, chica, you go have fun!
Aloha!!!
2007-02-12 00:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking with the wrong head. Men fall in love and marry. Women marry for security and sometimes fall in love. Just tell him, you love him to death, but you are thinking of becoming a Nun.
2007-02-12 00:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did get in a relationship you would wear the pants...heck I would not turn down sex like that...he might be gay..probably not though...in reality hes probably too sensitive.
2007-02-12 00:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't have started sleeping with him. most people want a connection to someone else. sex isn't suppose to be "meaningless". its suppose to be an emotional connection between to people.
your about to learn from your mistakes
2007-02-12 00:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Erik N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋