I married a woman that Ive been with for 7 yrs.I married her because I knew that she would make a really good wife, mother etc....I love her but Im not in love with her...Been like that 4 yrs however there is this other woman who I am certain that I do love...But she doesnt possesed the good qualities that Im looking for..Like she doesnt have a good job, she doesnt believe in hard work, cooking..However her good qualities r of course sex, she's very attractive, a good listener, she's the cleanest person I know,she's like my best friend and she's church oreiented. Also she's doesnt like the situation and she wants me to make a decision.What ever am I to do?
2007-02-11 16:32:50 · 14 answers · asked by Transformed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, looks to me like you judging the situation all wrong, just from you discribing it it seems to me like youre only in it for the sex, and if i was your wife i would dump you on the spot! be careful
2007-02-11 16:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have made your own problem, buddy. Marriage is too important to be basing it on choosing someone who you know will make a really good wife and mother, who you only love, but are not in love with.
You are "really" in love with your jobless best friend, who is attractive, a good listener, clean, free for sex and church oriented. Interesting combination. Let's see does the fact that you have cheated on your wife with another woman mean that you should be more church oriented?????
You are not in love with anyone, including yourself. You are acting like a young boy with his first sexual playmate. Grow up, be a man; decide to admit to your wife that you have endangered her life by having sex outside of the marriage and hope that she throws you out without to much time passing so that you can be with woman number two; of course she will eventually be replaced by number three and on and on, since you are not an adult.
Sounds like you really need a maid, a cook and a sexual partner, not a wife or a woman that you are going to be man enough to make a commitment too.
2007-02-11 17:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you all having sex?! Honey, how "church oriented" can she be if she's having an affair with a married man? Do you and your wife have kids? If not, go ahead and divorce her. Set her free to go find a man that will love her like she deserves to be loved. Marry this other woman and end up supporting her for the rest of your life (remember, you said she doesn't believe in hard work or even cooking) or at least until she finds another man with more money. Because if she isn't willing to take care of herself then she must be looking for a man that will. And heaven help your kids! If she even lets you have kids. Kids are hard work and she doesn't believe in that.
2007-02-11 16:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by HomeGrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cautious! You said the other woman has no job? Well she might just want you to make her life better or easier. Maybe you thought you love this other woman but if you married and accepted her despite that she doesn't meet your standards then after some period of time you would realize that you don't love her because she doesn't possess your qualities. Make a choice and take the consequence, balance the situation, don't be such impulsive or you might just end in a huge mess.
2007-02-11 16:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in a pickle. Well I think you need to talk to you wife and try and work things out. I bet you don't tell her how you been feeling and that's why she don't know or why your cheating which is a sin and i don't see how the other woman can be all church oreiented and comitting adultry with you.
2007-02-11 16:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for specific your no longer taking issues incorrect?? that's no longer appropriate under any circumstances to flirt or do something sexual with a married woman. no longer purely will she be commiting adultry you will too. in case you cant think of of it that way then think of of the years spent in that marriage and the affection and doubtless toddlers in contact. that's incorrect so stay away and positioned them of their place and cause them to sense gulity sufficient to run to their husbands no longer you.
2016-11-03 05:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar position last year. My wife and I were almost in 3 years of cold unfulfilling marital suffering when she packed up and left. We did a "trial separation", she said she'd wait for me to change. I didn't. I got back together with my first girlfriend when a was 17 a european exchange student. I got a divorce 6 months ago and I have a beautiful pregnant wife. (If I had children I probably would stay for them)
2007-02-11 16:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you first need to be honest with your self you marry this women
for the right reason but the feeling for her was not what it should
have been,but only you know what you need to do, every women
will have diffent quatities that you may want in a women. but
you are marry and you need to deal with what going on now
time to talk to someone about how you feel but as they say
the grass may not be greener on the other side.
2007-02-11 16:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why ever did you get yourself in this prediciment? you shouldn't have messed around on your wife in the first place. if you don't love her, then cheating isn't the answer...make up your mind about her and only her. the other chick is just adding to the main problem.
2007-02-11 16:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that the flame wont end with this woman after a while? you dont have to stay with someone you dont love but just make sure you're not jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire.
2007-02-11 16:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋