We have been dating for the past 3 years. last year we were talking about marriage late this year. on Saturday i found nude photos of her which i took & were precious to us, with another guy on the net. I asked her about that and she lied. Upon further investigation she sent them to that guy.not only him, but him & 2 other guys.she has been chatting to him since october last year.any time ask her if she's okay she would say yes (while clearly she wasn't) Before we used to talk about anything. so when i confronted her about the messages & emails she said they were just talk (though they were very graphic). she says she doesn't love me like she used to. Should i stay with her or just leave now & avoid a major heartbreak?
2007-02-11 16:28:13 · 11 answers · asked by kyambati 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GO! She's already let you know by her words and her actions that you no longer occupy the same place in her heart that you once did. You deserve so much better than this. If this all hasn't been a major heartbreak to you yet, I surely don't know how much more abuse you have to take to hit bottom in this "relationship."
2007-02-11 16:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all strong relationships, love and trust should never fade away. If she can't be honest with you and becomes upset by the mere mention of what she did, then she's obviously hiding something from you. Could be she's just holding on to you while seeing what else is out there and when she finds what she's looking for, you'll be left in the dust. Could be that she needs to hear from another male that she is attractive. Could be a number of reasons. The only way to find out is to ask her. Since you already have and she won't tell you, then there's your sign! She's not worth the love you have in your heart for her. Share it with someone that will reciprocate. Good luck!
2007-02-12 00:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally I think that the fact she was sending her pictures over the Internet put you both at risk. These men now know what she looks like and you never know what other information she gave them. The fact that she lied is a deal breaker. I would recommend counseling if she is willing to save the relationship. IF not....you have your answer. Sorry you are dealing with this, but you may want to be tested for STD's. You never know what else she may be lying about.
2007-02-12 00:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and break it off. She has been lieing and cheating. What other reasons you need and plus she even said she don't love you anymore. There is nothing you can do. I say breakup with her even if she may cry but i dobt. And find someone who won't take your love for granted. Good luck you sound like a good guy and don't deserve to be hurt. She should of told you all this instead of going behing your back.
2007-02-12 00:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't be upfront and honest with you now things are going to get better when you marry. Even to send nude photos to other men you don't know on the Internet is not acceptable when you are in a serious relationship.
If things are not as good as before get out now before you marry and have children and end up miserable your whole life.
If she doesn't love you why waste your time with her. good-luck
2007-02-12 00:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love her much more than she loves you but its probably best you force yourself to leave rather than try to savor those few final moments together. The sooner you get outa there the sooner you can get over her and find someone thats more suited for you.
Heartbreak is one of the worst pains in the world. thats how i see it, ive never suffered any physical injury that made me hurt worse than losing my g/f. Seems like the greater your love for someone is, the longer it takes for the pain of heartbreak to go away.
2007-02-12 00:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about those pictures... I'll delete them immediately j/k
Really you should save them so that when you do break up with her you can put them up on limewire. There are thousands of them. Emily was right on target about everything else.
2007-02-12 00:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her now and avoid further heartbreak, you can't change the way she feel so move on and find someone who will appreciate you
2007-02-12 00:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by phxtiger30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now,,,b4 its too late..theres no trust now..nor will there ever be...find someone whos totaly trustworthy and respectfull..anyone who sends strange men nude pics of herself is not worth a cent
2007-02-12 00:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN don't walk!!!! How many red flags do you need!!!!
2007-02-12 00:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by arcticsunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋