Please don't be rude when answering.
I am seeing a Psychologist. I see her again Wednesday but I am feeling a bit down. I would like to know why I think people have hidden motives when wanting to spend time with me or even complimenting me. My self-esteem is low I'm sure this is the cause, but why on earth would I think that? Is it because I don't like myself very much? And I'm not confident in myself?
2007-02-11 16:03:57 · 18 answers · asked by Missy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You definitely have self esteem issues. For some reason it seems that you feel that you are not worthy of compliments or friends or having people want to be around you.
I'm sure you are a very good person. We always see ourselves differently than others see us.
Good luck with this! I hope the psychologist can help you to understand that you are worthy of friendships & that people do not have any motives other just wanting to hang out with you.
2007-02-11 16:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let the good old shrink sort it out, but it does sound like a self-esteem/self-worth/self-confidence issue. Seems like you don't have enough confidence or a high enough sense of self-worth to think that people would want to spend time with you JUST to spend time with you, that you might actually be a person worth spending time with. The compliment thing is definitely a self-esteem issue, I can't take a compliment either, even when I know the person saying it is genuine. Good luck with the psychologist, I'm sure she'll be able to give you more insight and maybe a remedy as well.
2007-02-12 00:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe sometime in your past something may have happened to give you the idea that there is a motive behind a nice thing. This is also a part of depression, I have been there and with help and prayer things will get better. Depression is a mind thing, this may sound stupid but when you get up in the morning and before you go to bed at night. Look in the mirror and give yourself 5-10 compliments. Your mind will be trained to think this of yourself. When your confidence boosts then this feeling will go away. Most people don't have an alterior motive behind compliments or hangin out, but if they do then its there problem, your a good person and if they don't realize that then they can get on there way. Not everyone in this world is nice, so just take the good in with the bad. I hope things work out for you. X
2007-02-12 00:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh gee, this is hard. Who can say why? But you're on the right track, it is due to low self esteem. Its great that you're seeing a psychologist to help you figure things out. If you really want to have a better life, you've got to do what your psychologist suggests (not blindly though!) . You can't just sit there--you are going to have to work to challege these negative thought patterns you have.
Good luck, life really can be better for you. God Bless you.
2007-02-12 00:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by preciselyright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're answering your own question. It does sound like you feel that way about yourself...you really don't have a lot of feelings of self-worth maybe. I think this would be a good question to take to your psychologist this week.
2007-02-12 00:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you had an event in your life, especially when you were young, possibly from one or both of your parents, in which you felt like you needed their affirmation and didn't get it. That could have transferred into your adulthood. Give the therapist time. It will all come out. Good luck.
2007-02-12 00:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have trust issues. Just keep going to your psychologist and hopefully you can get it worked out.
2007-02-12 00:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with them.They are only what you perceive them to be.You project out of yourself onto others so you can place the blame.Forgive yourself and you will awake from this dream.
2007-02-12 00:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by warpigs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write down these comments and questions and take them to your appointment on Wednesday. Best wishes.
2007-02-12 00:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way when it comes to some friends... sometimes you just cant help to wonder what they are doing hangin around you... but you know... friends come and go... so I say it is what it is and if it isn't .... ahhhh **** it. LMAO
2007-02-12 00:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋