My loved one is severely depressed. He is angry, frustrated, losing weight, headaches, has no sex life, is tired, cannot cope, is always tense, has aches and pains that the doctors have even said there is nothing physically wrong! He thinks he is worthless. By the book clinically depressed! He refuses to acknowledge it. He refuses to get treatment or help or even consider it. He is so angry all the time that he demanded separation. How do I help him realize that he needs help!
2007-02-11 15:49:23 · 6 answers · asked by Christina M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Boy do I know this feeling and the feeling of dragging people down around me. I lived with it for too long.
What helped me? I admitted that I felt worthless and was afraid I couldn't take care of the problem thru counseling. I really didn't want to take drugs but found no help without them. It did take several medications before I found one that was a good fit but today, I am great!!!
I suffer from chronic depression. Every once in awhile I go off the meds because I feel so good and within two weeks, I find I am slipping back down and things get hard again.
I hated the idea of having to take pills. I hate the idea of being mentally defective. However, I love feeling better and if a small pill, once per day is an answer - I'll swallow it! Good luck.
2007-02-11 15:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
my heart goes out to you both, this is a very hard thing to deal with, for both of you. I have depression, which is control since my being on medications. usually when women notice something amiss, they run for help. men, on the other hand, resist it, they think they are less of a man to ask for help. yet,he goes to doctors for his aches and pains? but won't for this... so he is not opposed to seeing doctors. by the way, he is not a hypochondriac about those aches and pains. he no doubt has them..deep muscle pains, from holding himself tight and tense for long periods of time. a doctor won't see that. everything you mentioned points right to depression. unless he has experienced a traumatic event that is causing this depression, then it is brain chemical imbalance. and therapy and medication is what he needs, the sooner, the better. pick just the right time to have him sit down with you and talk... a time when he is not severly down... and will converse. tell him how much you care about him, need him... and how very concerned you are about him. tell him he is not worthless, then see if he will acknowledge that he is not happy with the way his life is going right now, in the wallows of depression. see if you can get him to make a deal, a promise, anything... with you, to go see a doctor. (therapy comes after he gets on the meds needed). pray for him, prayer is SO powerful, as i have seen. explain he doesn't have to suffer like this, he can be happy again. but he has to take these steps for himself. tel him you will go with him, if he wants, and that you will stand beside him, if he wants. i hope he agrees to seek treatment. if he mentions suicide...call 911, he will then be forced into 72 hours care and assessment at an inpatient psych ward, after a basic physical at the hospital.
i hope it all works out okay...truly i do.
2007-02-11 16:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is worthless, theres alot of depressed people out there that are.
He has to want to get help. Quit feeling guilty, get away from him dont wait till he hurts you. Sometimes they have to hit rock bottom before they will get help, in the mean time you cant let im hurt you. Its sad, but you have to get tough.
If he suggests suicide, then call 911
2007-02-11 15:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, I was depressed for a long time as well. (Now I pretty much live off of anti-depressents) There are two ways, convince him any way possible, or court order. It sounds severe, but if he hurts himself, I'm sure you would feel guilty,(even though you are not) and depressed yourself
2007-02-11 16:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried being honest with him? Tell him he must get help Life isnt that bad there is allways someone out there who has it worse than he does try to tell him that. So sorry I know its hard my mom is depressed every day and it hurts me.
2007-02-11 15:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by lisa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did any of the doctors throw any pills at him? He needs to get on Paxil or one of another 30 pills for depression.
Wake up and smell the coffee.
2007-02-11 15:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by P W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋