im 13 and i reallly really reallly love him alot ive known him for 11years and ive never had fellings for him until now but i think im too young but i dont want anybody else and and i dont want to in the future
2007-02-11 15:46:09 · 29 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think that you can love someone early on...I just don't think that it means it will last forever...
It is o.k. to love...just don't forget to leave your options open for the future...
and don't get to carried away..and forget about your future...
2007-02-11 15:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. You are still a child and should enjoy being so. You have a future to work on and you can't do both at this time.
When I was about 14 I thought I was in love with a neighbor boy that I had known since I was 7 in first grade. We hung around together (lived in country). We did tomboy things like hunting snakes and frogs. Catching cray fish in the creek etc.
By 14 my horomes kicked in and so did his. I used to get this feeling when ever he was around and I could tell he felt the same way. Today kids call it love. It was just an hormone awakening. He tried to give me a kis and I didn't like the way it made me feel. Made my stomach flutter. It wasn't love. t was a sign to leave it alone and go back to being a kid.
Don't think you're in love you aren't. Those kicking hormones give off that signal
2007-02-11 15:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie you're only thirteen. One of my friends, has friends who have been together since seventh grade about your age and now they are in their 40s. Sometimes love finds you at a young age. But if this love isn't mutual than it isn't love. Love is never forbidding, and always reciprocated. That's what I believe. So if you're the only one, than chances are it isn't love. Just give yourself some time before you decide to go and marry this guy. People change a lot from 13 to whatever. I know I have, you will too and so will he. So just give it some time. Focus on school if it's true love then it will happen. There's nothing you can do to stop it and there's nothing anyone can do to change it. Good luck sweetie!
2007-02-11 15:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've known him for eleven years? Wow.
Well, I suppose it's a closer bond than the usual friendship, which is nice and all.
But, no offence, I seriously doubt that it's love. I thought I was in love a while ago, and I was mistaken.
I really don't believe that people were made to fall in love at a very young age. We already have to handle so many confusing and difficult things at a young age, so the complication and dedication required to love someone, would only make things much more complicated, unneccessarily. (sp?)
Anyway, sorry, but no. You do seem too young. Enjoy the butterflies in your stomach while you can, and enjoy the lovey-doviness of it all, but it's not serious love.
2007-02-11 15:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this in a condescending way, but you are far to young. At thirteen you can not have a clue what love is and the jump from infatuation to physical intimancy will drastically change the way the two of you relate to each other.
If you want to be unhappy, and add a touch of fear, pain and resentment to you relationship, then go ahead. But if you really do think that you are in love with him, wait until both of you are mature enough to handle the change in your relationship.
You may be ready by age 15 or 16, but he will not be until at least 17. That is the way boys are, and try as we might, there is no way to change that.
Talk frankly and openly with your parents. They have been there. And they will be there for you.
Ken
2007-02-11 16:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ken B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 13 is too young for a relationship. You could be friends and build up that relationship until you turn about 15 or 16, THEN kick off a relationship if you still really like him.
2007-02-11 15:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOve doesnt require any age... It is in the way you love the person. There are more younger person who fall inlove but of course you have to show it to them in a respectfull way do not just go immediately to second base since you are young wait for the right age. as for now tell him how you feel I know he can understand about it. Just have fun with life and explore your still young...
2007-02-11 15:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Princess_dian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother married when she was 13. She had her first baby at 14, another by 16, one more at 18. Then her husband left her. She thought she was in love at 13, by 20 she realized that it wasn't as strong as she thought. You need to just relax and enjoy being without responsibility. It will come soon enough. Good luck. My mother met a man when she was 26 that was willing to love her and her kids. They were together until they died.
2007-02-11 15:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by T C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think you're in "love". You probably just really really really like that person, but it's not love. There's a difference. I'm like you and where I'd get extremely infactuated with someone and I'd like think about the future and sometimes I'd even think to myself "maybe he's 'the one'", but eventually I'd fall out of it... so I realize it wasn't love.
You may fall in love later on, but not now... you're still a little too young. Love is REALLY hard to explain, but don't judge whether or not you're in love so instantly, no matter how long you've like them. Just take your time, you know? No need to rush. :]
2007-02-11 16:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by tsukino 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your 13. I know, you may have known him for a long time, and you have these feelings for him. Does he have the same feelings in his heart? probly not. If you start to love him, and he doesnt feel the same way, it will hurt you. I wouldnt want you to ruin a good friendship of 11 years over something so trivial. Good luck.
2007-02-11 15:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jonny5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are entirely too young. Although you don't believe it now, this boy that you are dying over now will be just a distant fond memory in the future. Enjoy your youth while you can because once it's gone it's gone forever.
2007-02-11 15:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋