For the past few years i've been dating and all of my relationships have ended horribly because my girlfriend has eathier cheated on me or was so with me that she drove me crazy. now i'm afraid that if i go out with another woman that my relationship will just end the same way. how can i get rid of these fears and get my confidence back?
2007-02-11 15:39:05 · 10 answers · asked by Scott 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out and keep going.
The more you worry about this the harder it will be to find a good one
2007-02-11 15:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I wish, I could help you by giving the exact answer but the thing is that, me myself am not having much confidence to enter into relationship in fear to face the same things that had happen in the past. I've been hurt as well. When we are being loyal, honest and sincere, others tend to take advantage of our kindness. Somehow, people like us lack of confidence and doesnt want the old thing to happen again, right? No matter what happen, you must pull yourself through.and learn to trust yourself that you won't be hurt anymore. Be strong and believe that you can have your own happiness 1 day.
2007-02-11 15:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by freezing lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it in stride, don't get your hopes up. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years now, and if she left me right now, I'd be over her by tomorrow. It's not that I don't love her, just what's the point of dwelling, it only hurts worse, just move on, don't feel sad, it happens, the best thing is to move on. You are taking it too seriously, if she doesn't have a ring on her finger, don't worry about it. You probably won't be spending the rest of your life with her anyways. Some people don't meet the "right one" until they are forty, so don't think you'll be single forever if you don't shack up with someone tomorrow, it's no big deal.
2007-02-11 15:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I i don't have an answer for you because I am feeling the same way. I just realized it when this person gave me their phone number and I almost had an anxiety attack. Is it worth it? I want a nice relationship but I am scared of getting hurt again, so I am right there with you my friend, I am waiting for some answerers insights too
2007-02-11 15:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My relationship used ta be the same way, i just found out every boyfriend that i have had has cheated on me. But the one i'm with now it's real hard to trust him just becuase of my past, but this is how you start a relationship, you know how a lot of people say don't trust nobody, well dat's wat u gotta do. Make her or him build up trust N if it starts to go well then maybe you will feel better about trusting somebody.
2007-02-11 15:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by jackie O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, you are just like my current boyfriend.... He is terribly afraid of ruining our relationship (which I don't think is much of one, really).
The fact of the matter is, you have to get over it. I know it sounds really cruel of me to say this, but it's true. How will you ever find the great girl for yourself, if you're too afraid to even go out with her?
You know, the really great things in life, ALWAYS involve a risk.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 15:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that there is a way to totally get rid of all these fears that u have..
all you can do for now is to take things slow.. try starting out as friends first so that u will know more about the girl.. hopefully you might be able to guard your heart better..
gd luck!!
2007-02-11 15:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by cfrozty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and wait until you naturally hook up with the right girl. It will happen and when it does don prejudge her from your past relaionships and bon't be overly paranoid that she is going to cheat.
2007-02-11 15:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
test the waters. what i mean do't start dating the women if you don't have confidence in her before you start dating then you will get to know her better when you spend more time with her, remember it will be better for you do some research first.
2007-02-11 15:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by I have the true answer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find out let6 me know
2007-02-11 15:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋