I am a foster parent who is in the process of the adoption of my 4 children. we live in a very small town in north carolina. we seem to keep running into family members of my children. and i want a fresh start for my children as well as my husband and i. should we relocate somewhere else? what is the best thing for my family? someone please help me 2 decide?
2007-02-11 15:37:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like a GREAT idea. your new children don't need to be reminded consistently of their past. Plus as they grow older, seeing their birth parents, will get even worse for them. Just make sure your adoption is complete first. Adoptive parents are some of the greatest people on this planet. Props to you for adopting.
Good Luck
2007-02-11 18:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they are still foster children are you even allowed to move?
Once you have adopted the children it may be an option. I think you need to keep in mind what is best for the children. Have they developed a positive relationship with their bio relatives? IF they have or if you think there is the possibility of them doing so, it may not be wise to relocate so far that the occasional visit is impossible. Perhaps you could move to where there is no longer the 'running into' form of contact but still the possibility of controlled visits.
I think the age of the children is a factor as well. How old are they? What do they think?
2007-02-15 03:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends largely on why the kids were taken from their birth parents and the attitudes of these birth family members toward your kids and vice versa. There is no reason to relocate for the sake of relocating if they are not a negative force in your childrens' lives and I often advocate for openness in adoptions, especially with older children. If, on the other hand, there was severe abuse, the kids seem scared of these relatives or the relatives are rude to you or the kids, perhaps a move is in order.
2007-02-12 00:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoptive mom of a foster child,I can say I wouldnt want to deal with the family of the adoptive children if they wernt haveing a posative and active roll in my kids life eather obsouvliy none of theim was eather willing or able to care for your kids so they shuld step asside.This is not alwase the case.Iv had family tell me I shuld and shuldnt do thing I knew were in best intrest of my child and I feel like saying how deair you!In your case I would relocate.I nevor got to meet my daughters mother but do know all the issues she had and as a result my daughters sibblings were adopted by anouther family and they relocated sighting they didnt want contact with her becouse of her disablitys.I have no idea where any of her birth family is or even how to contact theim.May be its a blessing in descise.Please feel free to keep in touch
2007-02-11 18:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by christine h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the family that you keep running into. Are they bad people? Are they protesting the adoption? I think if they are trying to interfere with the adoption yes. but if they are concerned about the kids well-being and are not trying to interfere than no. It never hurts to have family around the child. Have you considered "open adoption" where the birth family can still have contact with the kids? I think thats the best thing if possible.
2007-02-11 15:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are they bad people? If they are then I would move to another town. like butner creedmoor if you want to get away from the city. If you want to move to another state try the midwest, It's cheap to live since you have 4 kids. Like you could buy a house that's worth 400,000 in virginia beach for 80,000 in nebraska, or kansas. I would move. Your husband might be paying less money out of his pocket each year. Or you could move to Elizabeth city, NC it's close to civilization and you will have good schools and cheap living.
2007-02-11 15:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 01:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move. These birth parents could undermine your parenting. It is a very bad situation. Leave the state.
2007-02-11 15:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for the children and if that is moving then move.
2007-02-11 15:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they may resent you for taking them away from their family . It depends on what the reason is for you not wanting them to see their family
2007-02-11 15:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋