My best friend is the only one who knows about my depression problem. He tries his best to help, he even drug me into the counselor's office. but now i feel as if i am tearing him apart. He cant stand to see me this way, because nothing is helping. i feel so terrible because he has been feeling worse and worse everday, and i am the cause. what do i do? please help..
2007-02-11 15:23:58 · 14 answers · asked by Milly 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
he is there to help, and he probably wants to help you or else he still wouldnt be there. just keep trying to get better, then you and him can be happy! your lucky to have such an awesome friend!!!!
2007-02-11 15:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I know this feeling and the feeling of dragging people down around me. I lived with it for too long.
What helped me? I admitted that I felt worthless and was afraid I couldn't take care of the problem thru counseling. I really didn't want to take drugs but found no help without them. It did take several medications before I found one that was a good fit but today, I am great!!!
I suffer from chronic depression. Every once in awhile I go off the meds because I feel so good and within two weeks, I find I am slipping back down and things get hard again.
I hated the idea of having to take pills. I hate the idea of being mentally defective. However, I love feeling better and if a small pill, once per day is an answer - I'll swallow it! Good luck.
2007-02-11 23:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take control and get the help you need. Depression can be crippling and you may need some medication to help you through this bad time. Get yourself to a doctor to be evaluated and see about getting into a gym or dance class. Something that is physical and will help you keep you active. You have a caring friend which is more than a lot of people have, so, help yourself so you can be a better friend to the one you have. Depression isn't an easy sickness because you don't look sick and people can be insensitive to this. Don't expect most people to understand the pain you may be in at the time. Get to the doctor and start living your life. It really is too short to let this get you down. Good Luck with your treatment.
2007-02-11 23:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few people can understand depression unless they have truly had it or cope with it on an ongoing basis. (I can speak from experience.) You do need to seek some form of help and you are very lucky to have a friend who is willing to stand by your side and try to see you through it. People whom I thought would be there for me disappeared and my friends weren't strong enough to weather the storm. Friends just want you to snap out of it with a short, quick fix but that is rarely the cure; thus your friend is starting to feel bad because it's not an easy fix. Thank him for his strength to stand by your side and let him know it means the world to you. It won't be an easy flowing path to follow for him, but it is his decision whether to stand by you or not. I found that after I sought treatment, there were a lot of people in this world that suffer from depression for various reasons and getting either medical and/or psychological help is THE best help. Take life a step at a time and set a daily goal of just one thing to accomplish that day. Good luck on your journey!
2007-02-11 23:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by lann977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor. Even primary care docs can Rx anti-depressants. Also- you can try going to HerbalRemedies.com and seek out natural mood stabilizers. You can buy them on line or just research and find out what you wanna try.
Depression is real and it is serious. You can be happy and still be depressed. Most times it's only temporary. A chemical imbalance. So, you don't have to feel bad. Just knowing you are depressed is a major victory. Above all know that you are loved. Be blessed.
2007-02-11 23:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by SisterHazel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there...and in fact, at times I have held in what I am going through mentally from my loved ones because I do not want to worry them or upset them. From their perspective, they cant stand knowing what you are going through and even more their inability to do anything about it. He wants to help, but doesnt understand that there is nothing that he can do except listen and support you when he can. Do you know what is causing it? I have been to couselor and therapists and it didnt help until I was ready to not feel that way anymore. As depressed and down as I was, I wasnt willing to do anything about it at that point.
I think it is important to try to get to the bottom of it and even if you don't know what is causing it, try to talk it out with him. Assure him that you are not going to do anything to hurt yourself and maybe that will give him enough confidence that you are going to get through it at some point. At least if he knows that, them maybe it might allow him to just focus with you on the issues. For me, it helped to try to do something new...even though I didnt want to do anything except lie on the couch and feel down. I would try to do something outside, like a walk or other exercise. If you are into sports, try doing something like that or just something to get your focus onto something else.
Your friend obviously cares a lot about you and if you care about it, you will do what you can to try to get better...for him. Seeing someone is a very good idea, it just may take a couple times of seeing the counselors to feel comfortable and to open up. It is not uncommon for the first few sessions, but don't give up...they can truly help.
It will all work out.
Good luck
2007-02-11 23:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been feeling depressed for a long time and i havent told anyone, its true im always in a bad mood but i tell my friends that im just like that. It hurts to hold it in but you have to deal with it and get professional help as hard as it may be because you are hurting your best friend and you will eventually lose them so talk to him you are going to handle it and that its hurting you even more to see him upset so tell him to back off a little and in time youll get the help you need ... hope i helped Good Luck!
Izzy
2007-02-11 23:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,i am one who is on the other side of depression,my husband has it also other things,but i just want to say if you care about him at all get some help for you and your friend,it wont make all the pain go away but it will help alot,it is so hard to deal with depression by yourself,you need support and he sounds like he cares deeply for you,talk to him,maybe you guys can find something together to help you feel better. i hope all goes well.
2007-02-11 23:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by appleheavenjade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try making the best of everything. My brother suffer's from it also. But when times just get down, we laugh and have the times of our life's! Just being there together will help. Try getting out more, or exercising. Hope all is well!
2007-02-11 23:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny i have struggled with depression and anxiety problems and you need to worry about yourself first. It should be a good motivator for you to get better so your friend dosent feel this way anymore.
2007-02-11 23:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by ryan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to a dr. till they can give you the right medicine that will help you with this problem. I think that you have a great friend but there is only so much that he can do.
2007-02-11 23:28:38 · answer #11 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋