I've been hanging out/dating this guy. We have great, flirtatious conversations on the phone, but in person, he doesn't talk much and he barely looks at me. He won't make any sort of move physically either. I know he's not shy; he's very confident. Is this a lost cause? Do you think he just isn't very interested in me?
2007-02-11 15:04:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him and ask him
2007-02-11 15:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to go on the assumption he likes you.
I am like that. I can talk on the phone and go for hours. Get that same person face to face and we barely speak. My best friend and I talk on the phone a lot. Once in the while we go out to breakfast or lunch together and I can't converse like I do on the phone. I have come to the conclusion I am shy to some extent. I am not confident when I face people. Yet get me on that phone and I am Mrs. confidence and yappy. Might be the same with this guy. It may be up to you to work on the talk till he feels more at ease.
I remember when I met my hubby. I was at my daughters. We knew ea. other for several years and truly enjoyed talking with each other. Then one day he asked me out and I went. We hardly spoke, rather I hardly spoke. Now he and I (of course) can chat up a storm with each other about almost anything.
2007-02-11 23:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a lost cause at all, he just sounds shy and respectful. Nothing wrong with that. Just come out and ask him why he's so shy around you. Even if he's super shy, he'll be forced to answer your question which will probably disarm his shyness. Let him know you like him and if you really want to, make the first move physically. There are very few guys who will freak out if you make the first move. It takes the pressure off them.
2007-02-11 23:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be just shy because he isn't comfortable around you yet, but he may still like you. I am pretty outgoing online and sometimes even on the phone, but then I am with people in person and I am shyer. Just make sure he doesn't have a gf and isn't only acting that way over the phone cause he thinks that's okay, but acting that way in person might get him in trouble. (that's just a side note, not saying that's the case)
He may be confident and outgoing around his friends, but maybe to you he's not cause he likes you and is shy about it.
2007-02-11 23:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by pizzagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahah what's funny is that I've been acting like the guy you're talking about. Maybe his just nervous around you.. in person. At least that's how I feel whenever I'm near this guy.. we e-mail eachother and have very flirty conversation, but I never actually tried to make a move on him in person. In other words, I think he likes you.
2007-02-11 23:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I think he's just shy, despite what you say. Or maybe he's intimidated by you or something.
If he didn't like you, he wouldn't answer the phone (often) in the first place, much less have fun conversations.
The trick is getting him to come out of his shell in person. Some guys like different kinds of dates. Have you tried group dates w/ his friends? Dates in public places? Dates in private places? Maybe he's just not comfortable in the environment you're putting him in.
If that doesn't work, ask laughingly and teasingly, "Why won't you talk to me? Don't you like me?" Say it with a playful, giggly tone, but pay close attention to the answer. ("Yes, I like you, BUT ____")
2007-02-11 23:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. hmm. thats tough. well it could be that he does like you, alot. and thats why he's shy. i know that when i like a guy, i am really shy around them. But I am normally a confident person. maybe you should just ask him if he likes you or not.
2007-02-11 23:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nic.Marie<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is giving you mixed signals? Have you been together long, maybe he is losing interest? Maybe he just likes flirting and not dating. Talk to him or it isn't worth worrying about.
2007-02-11 23:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's not interested in getting physical at this point in time.
2007-02-11 23:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of those times when you just need to be upfront and ask the guy whats going on... if he wont say in person then ask him over the phone.
good luck.
2007-02-11 23:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could either not have those kind of feelings for you, or he wants you to make the move...i would say its the latter.
2007-02-11 23:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by Ttech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋