My mom never listens
My best friend I KNOW doesnt believ me about certain things
And my ex-boyfriend keeps trying to ruin my life
How do I deal with all this?
I feel like I have nothing left....
2007-02-11 14:59:49 · 9 answers · asked by Elise. 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Talk to a school counselor or call a teen hotline in your area.
They are both trained to listen.
You may have to go to court and get a restraining order for your ex-boyfriend. Talk to your counselor about this issue as well.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-11 15:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a mother with the same problem. Your best weapon is acceptance: You need to accept the fact that you are unable to connect with your mom the way you'd like to. That doesn't mean there isn't someone else out there that will listen to you, but understand that the person isn't your mom.
Take a closer look at whats important to you, and take a closer look at your friends. If you need to make some adjustments, you have the freedom to do so, don't be afraid.
If your boyfriend is harrassing you, there are some legal ways that you can deal with him to get him off of your back. If you are 18 and living on your own, you can always plan on moving to a different town and starting a new slate.
2007-02-11 23:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see a councilor.
If you cannot afford so like i cant try writing things down in a book/diary where no one can read it and you can reflect on all the things. Your best friend isnt a friend if she dont believe you. I would be more then happy to listen if you would like to email me at love4bushy@yahoo.com.au
Kayla xx
2007-02-11 23:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone outside your family & friends. Is there counsellors at your school, a youth minister/pastor, the kids help line or a teacher that you like that can guide you.
Unfortunately we really can't help you in this forum because you need to talk to someone one on one in person.
Good luck & don't give up.
2007-02-11 23:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find someone to talk to. Perhaps a school councellor? Teacher that you trust? Other family member? Or even talk to your parents about setting up something with a therapist. I hope everything works out for you!
2007-02-11 23:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by ~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you didnt tell what you did wrong to be treated like that by nearest persons in your life. im here for you, thats why i wanted to know the reasons why your mom never listened to you e.t.c....there must be reason behind all these... right ?
2007-02-11 23:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by zagi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok everyone always says "councelor" btu thats total BS. do you have another frind someone you can count on? a sibiling? or your dad? if not, email me. i know what its liek! get better!!
2007-02-11 23:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counselor and your a teenager I'm guessing i love these years hang in their there are worst things out there than you plus your in hormonal stage its not as bad as you think!
2007-02-11 23:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Britanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is God's Way of showing you that he wants you to have a relationship with him!? The Bible says: Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:6-7) Praying to God and Jesus also helps boost my self-esteem: The Bible says: Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Phil. 4:6-7) I would encourage you to not let hatred control you, no matter what others do that causes you to get angry. You would only become guilty of the same sin that afflicts them, and nothing would be solved. Instead, I would encourage you to have a relationship with and open your life to Jesus Christ and let him give you a new love for others. Let Him show you ways you can help bridge the gap between your Mommy and best friends misunderstanding and your ex-boyfriends control, and let him help you in every area of your life to live for Him! What are you accomplishing by losing your control in your own mind? I say give your misunderstanding and the people and things that make you upset in life and give it to Jesus Christ! Because He already died for your anxiety and sin! Let me fill you in to a secret about releasing anxiety! I know how you feel but the second you feel anxiety coming on, Ask yourself is this really a battle in your mind that you have to win? Is it really worth it? How can you make this situation your in life better? I tell you NOTHING AND I MEAN NOTHING WILL RELEASE MORE ANXIETY AND ANGER than>>>FORGIVENESS!!!!!!!! That is why Jesus said: But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you! (Matt 5:44) The Bible says: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Jesus Christ God forgave you. (Eph. 4:31-32) If you do not know the story of Jesus I encourage you to pick up a bible sometime and start with the gospel of John there you will read of a man named John the Baptist that paved the way for another man named Jesus. Know that Jesus and God loves you! God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16) You see Jesus was flogged or beaten over 40 times, as Jesus stood silent, he was humiliated, degraded, mocked, striped naked, had jammed a crown of thorns on this head and was then nailed to a cross only after he had to walked nearly a mile with a heavy crossbeam to his back! Why? You ask: The Bible answers that? For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in his steps, Jesus who committed no sin, nor was any deceit found in his mouth; and while being reviled, he did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting himself to him who judges righteously. (1 Peter 2:21-23) Christ hung on the cross for six hours before he died, He was there from nine in the morning until three in the afternoon. In spite of such enormous discomfort and indescribable pain, Jesus ONLY spoke words of genuine forgiveness to those who affiliated so much pain and anger to him! From the cross Jesus Spoke: "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." What? I know if that where me I would be very angry and not be forgiving men for doing all that to me! But, the fact is the Jesus was God in Human form so Jesus is perfect, he died for are imperfectness, sin and all the anxiety's we face in are lives! So, I would encourage you sister to develop a relationship with Jesus because he knows how you feel! Give it to him and offer forgiveness to all that you do not understand and try to ruin your life! And by all means TELL THEM!!! You will find that it makes a big difference!I would like to recommend a great book for knowing how to gain self esteem and purpose in Life! It is Joel Osteen's Your Best Life Now! Let me give you a little taste of what is in the book, on page 3, chapter 1 Joel says: "We have to conceive it on the inside before we're ever going to receive it on the outside. If you don't think you can have something good, than you never will. The barrier is in your mind. It's not God's lack of resources or your lack of talent that prevents you from prospering. Your own wrong thinking can keep you from God's best." Now you say that your ex-boyfriend is trying to ruin your life? I believe he hates you because he is still bitter about your past relationship! Make him know that you forgive him and move on but learn for the next relationship your in! Ask yourself these questions the next relationship with any guy your in a relationship with: 1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29.To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.You see you can find lot of questions in God's word (the Bible) that you might have about your life. Also to know and have a good relationship with God and Jesus or anybody you meet in general. I would like to encourage you that another great place to develop your relationship with God and Jesus and to meet other people that might offer you words of understanding and encouragement is Church where Jesus is taught. A lot of Church's also have support groups, small groups like bible study and some even have single groups. This is a great place to meet people that might be able to help you and have been though what your going though now. I will be praying and I would encourage for you sister to pray that Jesus will give you wisdom, truth, and forgiveness for all the people that you misunderstand and give you great anxiety and maybe even anger in your life and you give it all that to Jesus! In Jesus Name Amen
2007-02-12 00:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋