i've got to tell her that im a virgin and that recently ive decided i don't want to be a virgin any longer. i like this girl so far and i would like to ask you :
"what do you think would be the best way to let this girl know, without scaring her away, that im a virgin but due to recent life changes i no longer feel the need to save my virginity?"
Help me out people, thanks!
2007-02-11 14:58:09 · 17 answers · asked by spanish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude I'm the same age and also a virgin, so I know how you feel. I wouldn't scare her off by telling her. Maybe after you guys get to know each other more and when the time comes where you guys are going to become intimate, then tell her, maybe. Honestly if you tell her or not is something I can't answer, because I'm still wondering myself if I'm going to say something or keep my mouth shut. I do think that telling her now is a mistake. Just play it cool, be yourself, get to know each other first, then take it from there, and like someone up above said, don't let being a virgin define who you are.
2007-02-11 15:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by zoompity2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly it would not sound like your overly prepared on him, to be honest. basically make certain he's legitimate. people can quite fake their someone they are no longer on line. have you ever seen him on webcam or some thing? in case you determined you want to fulfill him, do it in an open, public position, and make certain someone knows the position you're going (in reality, an effective theory is to have some different person there.. they do no longer must be with you, yet say as an get mutually you meet in a bar.. get some your associates to bypass there and they could keep a watch on you from yet another table to substantiate you're ok). Oh and it is a good theory to have an destroy out route planned.. as an get mutually, a pal ought to telephone you at a particular time, and in case you want to bypass fake they are ringing because you want to be elsewhere. in case you want to stay, you are able to basically reject the decision. It sounds slightly tragic, yet basically in case you experience the want to get away :) -- he's possibly only a common guy, yet I basically intend to substantiate your wondering about your protection. EDIT: neglected the area once you suggested people were telling you that you need to not date him. Is it because they understand him in my view? if so, i'd a minimum of think about what they say. in the adventure that they do no longer understand him, then bypass on your human being emotions. as long as you stay secure, that is as a lot as you :)
2016-12-04 01:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a hurry? this is not a race...
Anyway you said you really like this girl, right? So take some time and get to know her well. If she likes you too, then your virginity will not matter...what I mean is, I dont think she will cry,yell, throw you the chair or slap you in the face if she knows youre a virgin. Am sure she will understand and will like you even more because you have total control....a very rare trait to find nowadays =)
AMEN to you!
2007-02-11 15:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Espanyol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her calmly about it. Tell her exactly how you feel, gently. And let her know that you don't want to scare her off. If she can't understand it and decides not to be with you, then it wasn't worth it and you should keep looking. Always remember both partners must keep open communication and agree equally on decisions that involve sex. I mean, make sure you're both ready to take on this part of the relationship involving your virginity.
2007-02-11 15:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Roxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi (whatever her name is) I have a question. But... before I ask I want you to know that I have dated (X) number of girls and I was never intimate with any of them. I was wonder how many boy friends you have had?
Hopefully she will follow your lead and tell you how many boy friends she has had and... if she was intimate with any of them.
DON'T BE SHOCKED WITH HER ANSWER! People today think nothing of keeping intimacy special. I am glad to hear that you are not cheap. And... when the time is right... I hope it is the right person that you are intimate with.
I was lucky. My HS sweatheart whom I dated for five years is also my wife of 27 years. She is and has been the only women that I have been with. You should see the faces on women when I share this fact with them. It's like... jealousy, envey and then... I wish a man loved me like that. Or, she really has you trained well. You see... the fact that we have only been with each other makes it so special... it's perfect, not cheap.
So... don't have sex just because you want it... (Hey! Everyone wants sex!) But make sure its right... that she is the right person.
Make sure you make her feel special
:o)
2007-02-11 15:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's way to soon to tell her anything about your sex life. You are letting the fact that you are a virgin define who you are. If you tell this girl now you will scare her off. You can't tell someone you don't want to be a virgin anymore or they will think you only want sex.
2007-02-11 15:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to tell her anything? If things progress between the two of you where you have sex, go for it. Telling her of your virginity makes no sense. Just let her let you know if she wants sex, don't bring it up or you might chase her away. Let nature take its course and keep quiet.
2007-02-11 15:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's way too soon to worry about telling this girl all that. I know what you mean about "before it becomes awkward", but that just tells me that you aren't ready to have sex with her. I'm not being prudish about you having only been on that one date with her, it's because if you aren't ready to have a conversation about sex with her, then you aren't ready to have sex with her. Until you know that this relationship is worth taking to that level, I don't think you need to tell her all that. When and if you two are getting pretty cozy, then tell her there's something you need to tell her. Then let her know. If you guys are ready, then it won't be awkward. Good luck!
2007-02-11 15:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better wait a while until maybe she shows you that she even wants you in that way. Why do you assume she does? It is beautiful that you are the way you are. Too bad you just want to be a dime a dozen by losing it. Why the change, it won't make you a man!
2007-02-11 15:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scary, scary, scary. Sorry, but if you told any girl that she would have every right to turn and run.
Why not get to know a girl first, develop a relationship with her, and then discuss these more important issues? Dumping your issues on her on the first date is a sure-fire way to make any girl run away!
2007-02-11 15:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋