What should I do about this text msg?

Question

My ex broke up with me almost a month ago. (It was a total shock--he always talked about us getting married) He is now dating one of his friends that he met at work. It was not a nasty break-up, although he really didn't explain himself much other than there were a few things that bothered him and he felt our careers were going in different directions. I asked for a second chance as I felt we were strong and could make things work, however he said no. So, I decided to cut off contact. About a week ago, I txted him asking if we could be friends (I am friend w/ my other ex-b/fs--I think its silly to burn bridges). His reply, "yeah, we can be friends but not right away, i don't want things to be awkward and i don't want you to question what happened between us." First, how do I respond and what is that supposed to mean? Second, after another week of no contact, he txts me again asking how i am doing and if i heard about a job offer. Do I answer? Just looking for others opinions

Answer 1

Sounds like he might either second guessing himself and he is trying to break the ice or he is trying to be friends. Really I would just not respond give it more time before engaging in idle chit chat or any kind of contact. The best way to heal a wound it to give it time to heal with out picking at it to see if it still hurts. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, I think you did better by not contacting him. He broke up with you for "no reason". There was a reason. He was probably seeing this other girl he's with now and doesn't have the courage to tell you. He's not very honest and he's already trying to hide that fact from you. He's not only self centered (not wanting things to be awkward, etc) he's also dishonest & probably a cheater. Is that the kind of friend you want? You should really just cut your losses. He wasn't man enough to tell you the real reason he wanted out and now he's not man enough to be honest with you about what really happened. It all sounds really fishy. You're better off just letting this ex not be a friend. You don't have to be friends with all your exes. Some really aren't mature or honest enough to be friends with. Ignore any contact from him and move on. Be glad Mr. Different Directions is gone and wait for him to cheat on his new girly.

Answer 3

i think deep down inside he still has feelings for u.especially since what he sent in that second text.ok i think u should not reply 2 that second txt for a few days make him think that ur too busy to talk to him becus he will wonder what it is that u are doing that makes u so busy that u dont have time for him.ok i would say dont talk to him for awhile and just ignore him then here in about a month call him sometime just 2 talk. give him some time 2 see what he lost. trust me it works i did that 2 get my boyfriend back when he dumped me and now me and my boyfriend r back together and r very happy.there is something about that second text though its almost like he is letting u know that there is a job offer and is hopeing that u didnt know about it so he can call u or something just 2 tell u about it.its kind of weird of how he asked how u were doing it seems like her cares if he wants 2 know how u r doing.but yeah thats weird but just take my advice it will really help u and good luck.

Answer 4

I think you should still give your friendship some more time. It's going to be too hard to be friends with someone that you were just so recently dating seriously. Especially if he's dating someone new already. It's nice to be civil of course, but the friend thing gets complicated if there's still an attraction. I'm assuming that you still want that second chance, but give him time to fully explain himself and chances are you won't want to start things back up again anyway.

Good luck honey and DON'T let Valentine's Day make you do anything rash. Proceed with extreme caution in ALL February relationships.

Answer 5

It replace right into somewhat overkill, surprisingly as I have been given the message and so did a number of workmates and we live in Tasmania, curiously Telstra will no longer be able to distinguish between the two That being mentioned that's often a solid element of be arranged and confirm the final section is sparkling and characteristic a solid fire plan, interior the previous few years the Tassie government has been proactive on fire risk-free practices

Answer 6

Jill, Jill, Jill...
Sadly at the root as men we are all liars, cheaters, and dogs. Chances are he was seeing this "friend" a while before he called it off with you. Thus the reason why you can't question what happened because the new girl would find out he was lying to her as well as you. I would cut all contact. It is hard enough to stay friends with an ex, without adding repeated heartache.

Sorry

Answer 7

Depend where you want to take this relation in future. If I was u & the reason for earlier break-up was due to him, I'd never go back to him. Seems he may use you as a stop-gap between relations.
Sometimes we are folled by our emotions. Take a break, wait for few days . If he gets into another relation , then no need. But if he still persists , try once more

Answer 8

First you contact him asking to be friends. You opened that door. He was straight with you in his response. What dont you understand. You cant respond to his. Read it from a third point of view if you have to. No explanation necessary.
Second, yes answer him. If another friend asked you the same question you would. You said you wanted to stay friends, Start acting like one.

Answer 9

Sure answer him. He still wants to be friends. Maybe he needs a little time to get over the feelings he had for you thats why he said not right away. Just take it easy and just keep talking to him

Answer 10

He sounds like the kind of guy who will string you along. Just cut your losses and move on. If in a couple of months you still have the urge to be friends....then give him a call!