hi, freinds please help me?

Question

I am trying to make good solid list of things to look for my next relationship. Past one was a completelly nasty relationship that started as too good to be true. And maybe because I never had a list.. I just went with the flow and keep saying hey he is only human so what if he is broke..so what so what

but I always wanted to have a long lasting relationship help me build a list that you have learn from your relationships or just life

Answer 1

Get to know them first and yes this takes a long time, don't give your body away to them until you know them, if they aren’t willing to wait then no loss move on to next.
Things to look for to help you know who they are.
Are they well educated if not do they have common sense? [Means won’t ever be rich but that’s ok.]
Do they have a good job [need a good job to have a family, doesn't have to be super high pay]?
Do they seem to have a good heart [are they kind]?
How many X's do they have and why didn't it work out?
Do they have kids if yes know that you will always be second?
Do they save 10% of each check, shows he looking to future.
Do they waste money on stupid things [shows he has no common sense]?
Do they have a good sense of humor?
Do they have best friends and do they seem to be good people?
Do they drink to much alcohol or do drugs? [Means you will have no quality life together.]
Do they want you to meet their family? If so then great and if not well let’s just say there may be more than they are willing to share, either dig deeper or move on to next.
You can add on from here it is just everyday common sense and yes you will find more losers but keep trying there is someone waiting to be found.

Answer 2

To tell you honestly, I dont have a list. I dont set standards on who or what should be my next relationship like cuz if you set standards, then you just get disappointed.

Start within yourself..Like they say, it takes two to tango! Maybe you need to change something. Dont blame the guy or how the relationship ended, look within you..maybe you need to change something...

Also past mistakes are not big disappointments. Instead, that should give you a lesson so you can start your next relationship armed with more knowledge and expertise.

Answer 3

it sounds like you're expecting too much. Not that you don't deserve it, or won't get it, but making a list seem a bit much. Keep an honest,open heart and mind, and be prepared to grab it when it comes. If it isn't right, you can always try again. If he's not up to your list, who's to say he won't be in 3 months-6 months- a year-20 years? find happiness, but let it come to you

Answer 4

-Sense of humor
-Mindful of others (thats, mindful of you!)
-Passioniate
-Honest
-Calm,confident and collected. Chances are a guy who is all over the place is not going to provide the greatest partner and long lasting relationship
-Patient. Life can be stressful sometimes, so make sure your interest can deal with it! Stress can ruin a relationship
-Creative. I know it sounds picky, but it keeps things interesting. You want someone who will, say, surprise you with flowers after a long days work!
-Attentive. Make sure he hangs on every word you say! You don't want to be with someone who can't pay attention!

Answer 5

A list isn't going to solve your relationship problems. Next time, just go with the flow and if you start seing only flaws, then it's time to end it, my friend. Respect your personalitly and be with someone who also respects it.