Ive been in a long distance relationship for a few months now and some problems have begun to surface. My girlfriend has a friend in her state that she hangs out with everyday. Every week they watch a movie together and they frequently eat lunch/dinner together. I trust her completely but the problem is, I dont like this guy. I feel like he wants more out of the relationship than friendship. For christmas, he made her a statue of her. He recently said to her something like "Youre the most beautiful girl I've ever met and I'm really happy when I'm with you". Recently, my girlfriend told him she didnt feel like watching a movie with him one night and he got really sad. He stopped talking to her so she agreed to watch the movie with him. She will be spending a few days at his house (he offered) for spring break so that she doesnt have to pay for a hotel. It seems really obvious that he's trying to "get" with her. She said that he isn't but it seems so obvious that he is. What should I do
2007-02-11 14:50:45 · 18 answers · asked by brian123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is not interested give her the benefit of the doubt before you end up losing her over your own damn jealousy issues. To her you are obviously going to appear insecure and come off as not trusting her. No matter what you say. I would say it if I were her too. If she is not interested in the other man, and you trust her, and she trusts you you need to let her do her thing.
If she has not given you a reason to not trust her than you can't not trust her. You need to be open, free, and honest. I am sure your girlfriend would be respectful of you hanging out with a female friend often.
Her and this guy are probably close on a platonic level. That I can honestly relate to because no matter how girly the girl. Girls a catty. We are selfish bitches to be quite honest and its quite difficult to befriend someone like that. A majority of my close, close friends are males and my boyfriend does not have to like them; he just has to trust me.
2007-02-11 14:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. Persephone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theproblem lies at two fronts
a) How much you trust your girl?
b) How much sacrifice your girl is ready to make for you & vice-versa.
If the girl is mature enough ,she would handle the man even if she is staying with him.This can be an acids test for her, if she does not clear the same, you should have no issues to leave her.
The other way out can be to talk her out of this relationship with other guy ,for that u should be ready to share some financial consequences for the same.
One more thing ,which can be a good pointer in this direction can be that in blind loves people do not care about savings if they know that other person would mind.
Enjoy.
2007-02-11 22:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be completely open/honest with her, and tell her that you really don't think she should go. This guy friend of hers is obviously trying to put some moves on! When will women learn that's pretty much what all single-guys want with women - well hell, any guy in general for that matter. Even if she gets a hotel, you know he's going to be over there. If you can't convince her not to go, I guess you'll have to convince her to let you go with her? Good luck brother.
2007-02-11 22:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by aSchway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that you should be jealous...but you for sure have the right to be, i have had the same porblem with my boyfriend, he had a friend...well the only time she seemed to be around was when we were broke up. You have every right to end there friendship if he is trying to end your relationship, and it sounds as if he is doing just that. You may want to talk to your girlfreind as well, he may be a friend Yes but it sounds as if she knows he would lke to be with her and she likes the attention from him, or she continues to hang out with him because she knows it buggs you, you should talk about it and see the outcome..maybe even talk to this other guy.
2007-02-11 23:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by jessica d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say that u go kick that guys ass and tell him 2 leave ur gf alone.lol. ok seriosuly i think u should tell her that u dont like the whole idea of it and u need 2 explain 2 her how obvious it is that this guy is like in love with her or something.u better move fast becus this guy could very easily move in and take ur gf from u.u should invite her 2 come and stay with u for spring break or u could go stay with her for a couple of days for spring break.i wish u luck and dont let that other guys steal ur girl.
2007-02-11 23:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by emochick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally understand how you feel and you have the right to be jealous. It’s an emotion and you shouldn’t suppress it anyway.
Being away from her, you can’t do much to restrict who she hangs out with. I think the best you can do is to tell your girlfriend how you feel about it. She will also feel treasured when she knows you’re jealous. It shows she means something.
From there, she should have the smarts to decide if she wants to upset you or the guy.
2007-02-11 23:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Angie Pastrami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss your girlfriend goodbye - he is moving in on her and she might get weak and give in, dispite her meaningful intentions. You should get closer in distance to her if possible or prepare for any other man to take her from you. Long distance never works out. She should never stay at his house, WRONG! If she cared about you, a hotel would be fine, money or not. She is teasing him in her own way and leading him on and she might be sorry.
2007-02-11 22:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her that you are worried about this guy coming between both of you and you don't like him. You also have a feeling that he is wanting more than friendship.
2007-02-11 23:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! Every right in the world to be jealous. Dude is trying to move in and scam on your girl and maybe make drinks and ****, get her too tipsy and wham bam take advantage of her. If you need to, go visit your girl for the same time that he wants her over and drop it to him straight
2007-02-11 22:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by forealztho69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u trust ur girl but not him..thats totally natural. but if shes not into him then u should trust that shes not into him. after shes with u and not him. it seems that she spends alot of time with him, maybe u should offer to hang out with them too..just a suggestion.
2007-02-11 22:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by cj872006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋