This is the predicament of predicament. What should I do?

Question

I'm a college freshman. There is a girl I'm really interested in, but my concern is that we haven't known each other for a very long time. In fact, I talked to her only once in my English class on Friday. She seems somewhat interested in me too because she looks at me quite often. Valentine's Day is coming up soon, and I am worried if someone will try to "snatch her up" on that day. That would be more painful than rejection. I feel that I should give her something on Wednesday to get more attention from her, but the time just doesn't seem right. I need to get to know her more. So I'm in a dilemma. I really don't want to lose her to some other dude because it took me great balls to break the ice. It was hard because she's not outgoing. Is it okay to give her a V Day card? I have a class tomorrow and another one on Wednesday. I guess I should talk to her a lot tomorrow and wednesday-my class is going to the library. I need y'all's suggestions because I can't make my decision.

Answer 1

Talk to her

Answer 2

Hey- I totally think a card is a great idea. Sooo sweet. Just make sure it's not too sappy or romantic since you barely know her. Maybe even slip a Hershey's bar in there to make it special. About you saying "I guess I should talk to her a lot tomorrow and Wednesday"... You should totally keep up the good work with breaking the ice, but don't go overboard. You'll be fine with just a few comments. Don't talk too much or you'll seem like you're coming on too strong, then with the card on Wednesday, I think it'll be overwhelming. It's just a crush so far, so take your time. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. How about finding a funny card, or short cute flirty card, and in the card asking her to go have coffee or a pizza or something? But really, don't come on too strong. If she's into you, it'll come out in these mini-conversations, and you'll be able to tell. And make sure to give the card to her yourself, don't tape it on her door, or her car or something. Big points if you hand deliver it yourself. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

If you are interested in her, and you think that she might be interested in you, then don't wait until Valentines day. Ask her out for dinner or a movie or something tomorrow. Then also give her a card on Valentines day. Just casually ask her if she would like to go see a movie with you this weekend or have lunch or dinner with you sometime sooner, because you want to get to know her better. If she says yes then get her a card for Valentines day but not a gift or a really, really mushy card. You don't want to seem like your coming on too strong too early. Most importantly, just be yourself, because if she is interested in you it is because she liked what she saw in you when you were just being yourself.

Answer 4

First you have to strike up a conversation- a comment about class or question about her opinions of the class will do. Ask her to coffee or breakfast or something (both are very low key), but if you've had less than a handful of conversations with her a serious valentines card might be over the top, so go with the ambiguous general sounding card and ask her out! A similar thing happened for me last year and it ended up being loads of fun!

Answer 5

You should go for it! If you're both single, why not? Don't get her a card. Personally, I find cards cheesy. Get her candy. Everyone loves candy. Something simple like a small box of Dove chocolates or something. Nothing heart shaped or anything with the word "love" on it, that way if she's not 100% into you, you can just say that you gave all your friends a little something for Valentine's Day, not just her (total lie but it will save face).

I'm pretty sure there are Valentine themed things for friends. Just find something along those lines. You can really never go wrong with candy. If you get her a card, it means you thought about it and she might get freaked out. Same with flowers. Candy is safe and it's pretty thoughtful. Just tell her you like her and that you thought of her this Valentine's Day. Keep it simple & non commital. She won't get freaked and she'll be touched by the thought. Good luck!

Answer 6

A long time ago a chick gave me a small note, but she used those little sweetheart candies to say some of the words. She glued them on the paper in between her words. It was very original at the time, caught me off guard, and showed originality and humor.
I don't know if you can get away with this since some of the hearts say things that may be premature...for instance "hug me" or something goofy like that still may be too soon if you haven't even talked to her that much. But try it out because in this world, those who snooze, lose.
I would hate for you to have to go into that class everyday and see her smoozing up to some doofus besides you. So you must ACT. Good luck.

Answer 7

Definitely try to talk to her more this week and why not ask her out to lunch on Wednesday? It would be more casual than a dinner date so you both may be more comfortable. Then you could give her a cute card....not too romantic. Just be yourself and go for it. She's probably hoping you'll ask her to do something. See how it goes in class and make a firm decision then. Good Luck!

Answer 8

i do not recognize how a lot solid this answer will do you, yet........you style of sound to me like you're beating your self up somewhat, and that per chance you sense like you've failed by some skill to be a "finished mom." in case you do have a baby and fairly love your toddler, provide on your toddler, and allow your toddler recognize this, then you're an excellent mom. i actually am no longer a mom, nor do I care to be a mom until eventually i think certain that i'd be a very in charge figure. yet being that I artwork with children each and every of the time and help mould them I do kinda have an theory of what its opt for to be a figure. the biggest difficulty right here in the U.S. in the present day is that folk do not fall in love anymore, they purely form of fall in warmth, and function this theory that relationships are all about sex. I actual ought to admit that i think very reluctant to make sure to get married in any respect in view that that is the case. I sofa both the male and lady for the duty of the youngster's existence.

Answer 9

yeah, give her a valentine's day card, tell her to meet you somewhere, if she's into hanging out, tell her you just want to hang out, cuz you dont have nuttin else to do. Be casual, if she's not outgoing, she is more likely to say yes to hangin out rather than a date. You guys can go see a movie, and that way, if there's nuttin to talk about u can bring up the movie. And if the 'right' time comes, you'll both kno and maybe u'll hit it off.

if not, at least u actually gathered enuff balls to take her some where

Answer 10

Don't worry about someone who can be snatched up. You are competing with an invisible dude. Give her a comic valentine and ask her if she would like a to share a pizza or whatever next week. Do not be desperate—you don't know this person.

Answer 11

If you haven't even dated yet, there isn't much you can do but ask her out, you don't want to scare her off. Yes, you could get her a Valentine's Day card but not a real mushy one. Break the ice before that day and ask her to go out to dinner or something.