Girls Help???

Question

Hi girls.....I just want to know how do you like guys to approach you???....Well, I am a shy guy but lately I have been trying hard to talk to girls in college and ask them questions about lectures or something but they just answer the question and they dont talk more when they do that I try to ask them more questions (like what are you majoring in or something) and again the same thing happens......I am just so confused and I dont know what to do really when talking to girls??....Well, I like shy, smart girls so if you see my question just tell me and girls in general just give me some advice.....I am good looking as some of my friends say so I dont think it is about looks...Thanks

Answer 1

Well...you could ask them to go for a coffee and discuss the lecture you attended together, see if they would like to get a study group going with you for exams, or just plan ask if they'd like to go see a show with you over the week end.

Answer 2

I'm a shy, smart girl and if i had a guy approach me asking about lectures or anything "college" related i would think that this dude's life revolves around college. Ask her about anything not college related. maybe about movies, music or other social events. Try not to be so shy yourself. Shy girls tend to go for the not so shy guys because they themselves wish not to be shy. Just loosen up and try not to stress it too much. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Sounds like your doing fine to me too. Just keep it up and eventually you will find the right girl. Once they have answered your question how does the conversation progress? Do you ask more questions? If not, you should. For example, you ask, "What are you majoring in?" They respond, "Art!" and now your respond, "How cool, I .... ( fill in the blank with something you like about art). Or anything interesting that links you to art. and So the conversation begins. If it goes well ask her to go to an art exhibit with you or whatever she is majoring in. Compliments always help too.

Answer 4

You know, if you were sitting next to me in a lecture and asked me a question, I would probably also just answer the question, then get back to what I was doing...

Perhaps if you asked a girl if she would be interested in studying with you, it appeals to her desire to do well in her subject, as well as showing interest in her...

Might be worthwhile talking about things other than study (at apropriate times ofcourse)... After lectures, etc.
Find a uni event that interests you, like a band, event, etc, pick up a few fliers and ask her if it interests her...

Initiate conversation other than study...

Might be worthwhile joining some social groups through your university... Attend events which have more social emphasis rather than study...

Good luck!

B.

Answer 5

Ususally the girls you are talking to are just as shy as you. Keep that in mind as you make casual converstion. And try not to come on too strong, because that turns them off. Be confident yet not condesending, and talk about more meaningful topics then you are. Most girls might actually get bored.

Answer 6

Hi..its a common question but not that easy to answer... Well. i think its depends to the situation and who are the girl who you want to know...some girl like boys flirts them, while some dont! Some girl like a romantic approach, may be keep sending her cards or roses; and some hate to be treated like that! The physical look doesnt take much account for girls. Well... to be short, most girls like men who dont really fast when getting to know them.. its ok started with discussion about study...then u build the relationship from that stage. Need time, girls need time to crush on somebody. It is like u filling up a bottle with water, slow and steady.. when the bottle already fill up with ur kindness, ur attention, .....then she will closed the bottle and already to accept you ... U may send her sms once in the morning, once at night, that will be sweet. Gud luck handsome!

Answer 7

I'm not a girl, but I got a really working advice for You. Find a middle man, who doesn't mind to tell the girl You like how You are feeling about her. Make it look like You don't even know.

Answer 8

first off pick up lines rarely work!! 90% of the time they are corny, and have probably been said to everyother girl, which just makes us feel.... well, like we're not worth your time to think of something better to say. be confident, girls can tell when your not and sometimes its a turn off. offer to help her with something, but at the sametime respect independence. when you compliment, then mean it. smile when you talk to her, but make sure its a real smile. are you involved? i met my boyfriend through a soccer program. i'd had my eye on him a while but never talked to him, and later he said i was kind of intimidating, even though i didn't mean to be. sometimes we can come off that way and not mean it. oh yeah, and don't be obnoxious! if u are all over her constantlly its annoying. not sayin u are just givin some advice. anyway i hope this works for ya, hang in there and good luck!

Answer 9

READ MINE!!!!!! ok so what i think is happening is it may be akward for the girl. dont try and just approch them and attack them with a whole bunch of questions make it smooth.if theres someone you like and want to talk to her just casually go up and make it seem like a friendly hello. give her a hug and ask how she's doing. then after just say you'll see her around. if you think she is good for you then i say then next time ask if she'd like to go get luch or whatever with you. dont freak her out and make things go quickly but be smooth and make her want more. i hope i helped!!!!!!

Answer 10

Maybe they get alittle nervous too.
I'm shy as well..and if a guy asked me that..I might just answer it and that's all..not trying to be rude..just he might make me alittle nervous.
I think you should keep doing what you're doing..but talk about others things as well as school.
If they can't see what a great guy you are..just remember you'll find someone even better.

Good luck!