my famliy cat just passed away and i have a ten year old that dose not know yet how do i tell her?

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss, sometimes losing a pet is like losing a member of your family. I would hold her close & explain that even pets have to go away. Tell her that her kitty is in heaven,which I believe to be true & will always be watching over her like an angel does. I would also get her another cat,preferably a rescue because these animals know they will have a good home & someone to love them & they will return the love. Say a prayer for her & I will do the same. God bless you & yours-Elayne

Answer 2

Don't just "get her a new cat". That's stupid. Cats have individual personalities and can't be replaced.

Tell her the truth--that the cat died. Don't beat around the bush or lie to her. Just say, "I'm sorry, honey... but [cat's name] died today." She'll want details--how it happened, why, when. Give them to her, but don't get graphic. She may ask whether the cat will go to heaven... You can tell her "yes", "no", or "I don't know", as your conscience dictates... the truth is the Bible doesn't say anything about animals' afterlife, so it could be just about anything. If you are an agnostic, you can tell her that her cat will live on as long as she remembers it... That's cliched, but she's ten; she can't be that jaded yet. And anyway, it's true, in a way.

Whatever you do, don't lie to her or pretend it didn't happen. At the age of ten, your daughter is learning abstract reasoning skills; her mind is beginning to change from a child's to an adult's mind. This will be an important lesson to her, in learning to deal with grief, to understand death.

When I was nine, my mother tried t have my cat put to sleep without my knowledge. I overheard her talking to the vet, and cried for six hours straight, and off and on for the next few days. The grief at losing my cat was worsened by a sense of betrayal because my mother had tried to hide from me, and guilt because I wasn't allowed to be there to say goodbye, as I could have been if I had been told.

Your daughter will grieve; and chances are, you are grieving too. That is normal. A cat is not human, but it does have a unique personality which only tha particular cat will ever have; and it forms attachments and receives love just like any other person. Losing a pet is a real loss, and don't ever belittle your daughter (or yourself) for being sad when it happens.

If possible, you will want to have a funeral in your yard; if not possible, give her a memorial picture--you can photoshop the cat's name and dates of birth/death onto a scanned picture of the cat, print it on photo paper, and then put that into a nice frame.

Your daughter's grief will be normal. She may be angry or simply sad. Whatever she does, just support her. If she's angry--maybe at you, for not saving the cat--don't get angry in return. She's got to get her emotions out somehow, and anger is one way. Spend time with her, tell her you'll be there for her, tell her you're sad too, and that it's OK to be sad and angry and scared when a pet dies. If she hasn't already asked a lot of questions, be prepared for theological inquiries about her own death, or yours--kids at this age are often just coming to terms with the idea that life ends.

Feel free to get another cat--maybe a few months into the future--when your daughter's grief has abated and she is able to talk about the cat without crying. Or else, get another if your daughter requests it. But remember that the new cat is not a replacement for the old one--it fills the same role as the family pet; but it's fundamentally a different creature.

Answer 3

i'm so sorry on your loss. It must be a poor feeling to lose a newborn, i can not even initiate to imagine the soreness you're feeling. i imagine out of those 3, As I Lay Me Down is the most ideal decision. Ut is about demise, and being so close that demise is not any impediment. i does no longer propose the different 2 besides the undeniable fact that. different songs that are solid are: a million. One sweet Day - Mariah Carey/Boyz 2 adult men. 2. You enhance Me Up - Westlife. 3. Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton.

Answer 4

I am sorry for yoyr loss. Just tell her the cat has passed away. I know how it is, my 8 year old lost a rabbit a few months back. She took it very hard. So just be ready to comfort her when she needs it.

Answer 5

Get a kitten and tell your child that when your cat knew it had to go on it made arrangements for a special kitten to take care of you and spent a good amount of its remaining time telling the kitten its duties.

Answer 6

I would tell her that the cat has gone to a wonderful place
called the rainbow bridge, and the cat is healthy having fun playing,
and no pain and is very happy
chasing yarn (or what ever your cat liked to play with
and s/he will be waiting for us when we get to heaven ourselves

Answer 7

Sit her down in a quite room, and tell her that the cat was sick, and God came down to get her, but she will always be her as her guirdian angel. Sometimes we get sick and God takes us to heaven and makes us better, but we are now an angel watching over our loved ones.

Answer 8

I think you should start by explaining the simple facts of life and death first, then break the news gentley. Your child will still hurt, but he/she will feel better soon. Children heal rather well and get over things soon. Don't get another pet until you feel your family is ready.

Answer 9

At 10 yo she should be old enough to handle the truth. Tell her what happened and be there to support and comfort her.

Answer 10

Just tell her that your cat got called to Heaven, and it went.