please help me out?

Question

me and this guy had sex for the first time. he was NOT a virgin but i was. beforehand, the guy knew i was a virgin, but he didnt believe me at all..and kept saying no youre not, no youre not..but i really was. the first time we had sex together he was gentle, but he didn't talk much, he fulfilled my needs and it was amazing. he layed with me afterwards and spent the night. the next day he came looking for me to hang out. however the second time, he constantly asked me if i was alright and physically helped me out. he even said "you said you were a virgin right"..and he wasnt drunk the first time, he remembered us having sex. he told me to tell him when it hurt and when i wanted him to stop. he basically treated my second time as my first time.

1. why did he say "you said you were a virgin right," when he remembered the other night happening?

2. and why did he really not talk the first time but he still pleasured me, but the second time he constantly asked if i was alright and was more caring?

Answer 1

As you said, the first time he didn't believe you, but probably realized that you actually were about half-way through.

Why did he treat you like one the second time? I'll bet that the idea of him having "popped your cherry" really turned him on (especially since you enjoyed it). He's probably trying to recreate the experience for himself.

I don't think that he's necessarily asking the questions because he's being more caring, but rather because he wants to hear shudders in your voice like you're nervous which may play into his fantasy of recreating your first time.

This doesn't mean that he's a bad guy...he stayed around for the night at spent time with you the next day after all. (That's what great guys do!) It just means that he really enjoyed it the first time. This is just my humble opinion.

I strongly suggest that you ask him this same question since he'll be able to answer it best for you. If you're interested in a healthy sexual relationship that is pleasing to the both of you, make sure that you can talk about it thoroughly when the two of you aren't in the act.

Congrats on your first time, use a condom so you can live to enjoy lots of sex;)

Answer 2

He may have thought you were not serious the first time and thought that he did not need to handle you with kid gloves the first time. But being with you again he knew that you were and he wanted to treat you the way he should have for your first time. He may have even felt guilty because some guys do not want to be a girls first. I also hope that you were safe and used protection.