Why am i getting paranoid??..I am suspicious of everyone?

Question

I had an incident when i was in college.There were 2 strangers who happened to follow me from my bus stop to college..one among them stood in college hall and left when i was about to inform my prof and after some days I used to get obscene calls at my home, luckily it didn't go so far but I was in state of shock after these incident..till now after years of that incidents i feel very insecure ,feel I wont able to face such incidents in future and am gonna breakdown.I feel scared to even think about such an incident.I went to some rehabilitation therapy but it kind of relapses and am not able function efficiently.what do i do??

Answer 1

Unfortunately you didn't add how many years it's been since college. It's sounds like you need to take a look around you and remind yourself that you are no longer in the postition you were in back then. You are a Grown person now and you CAN defend yourself.

Now if this is causing a problem where it is interfering with your everyday life then it wouldn't hurt to have a chat with a Counselor or someone close to you.

Your Question: Am I getting Paranoid?

NO you are not! You have gone through something in your life that has caused you to have a little more fear then other's and for good reason becuase you have gone through it and other's have not.

GL!

'-)

Answer 2

1. Know that you are not alone.
2. Know that you can control your own destiny.
3. Know that your past incident in college has precipitated this and it is not a fabrication of your mind. This is just a natural human reaction to fight or flee.
4. Know that there are some "crazies" in this world and they get their joy in terrorizing people. They are the ones who have the mental issues, not you.
5. Take up a self-defense course or learn how to shoot a gun. It's amazing how much more confident you feel when you know that you can protect yourself, and others as well.
6. You can do it! It's just a matter of acquiring the confidence. Stop thinking that you will be a victim and start knowing that you can be in control and even help others!
7. I used to feel that way before until a friend told me to learn how to protect myself. I now am part of a neighborhood watch and am looking after others with confidence. I am not a victim, I am the hunter!

Answer 3

First off PLEASE do not ever feel ashamed of what you are feeling. Its perfectly normal. Now it sounds to me like you have one of the following disorders. Don't freak about the word disorder its used to lump syptoms together to provide treatment.

PTSD- Post traumatic stress disorder is very common. Many people suffer from this and the treatments range from self help goups to mild mood stabilizers.

Social Anxiety Disorder- Includes fear of public, panic attacks, abnormal dreams, general feelings of personal fear. Treatments usually are the same as PTSD.

These disorders are pretty normal and can effect people as much as a chemical imbalance, or chronic depression does.
My advice is to talk with your doctor make a list of all your symptoms to take with you. It sounds like you had a very scary experience and that your brain doesnt know how to process it. But a trauma can trigger a bigger problem. Taking care of this now can greatly benefit you if there is a deeper problem.
Diagnosis can take time if you cover all bases, taking a few classes for self defense might do the trick. If you give yourself the knowledge your self esteem wil get a boost and it may clear up your symptoms. Many YMCA and WIC offices offer these services for free and its worth a shot.
I hope this helps you. Oh ya sometimes a meditation that you say whenever you feel overwhelmed helps, like the lords prayer or a short poem thats soothes you. This will focus your anxietyand give your mind time to calm. Good luck and keep your head up.

Answer 4

It's understandable why you feel the way you do. But to make yourself feel secure and safe I subject that you enroll in a self-defense class and buy yourself some maze and a keychain alarm. Double-bolt lock all your doors/windows and DONT make a habit of going any place at the same time every day because that's how thieves and stalkers catch us off guard. Empower your world with strenght and courage-dont let FEAR put you in bondage. Just always let someone know where you are going, what time you plan to leave and return. It's just a good idea foor all of us to do that regardless of what's going on around us. I really believe most people are nice and not a danger to others, but it's the UNKNOWN FOOL that makes us uneasy, isnt it

Answer 5

Man ,,, Stand Up and face it ,,, Soon or later Fear will Destroy you ,, so you have to face it now , right now .

tell me , what do you have to lose if you lived this life with a strong heart and a well of steel ?

when i was 15 years old , a stranger man did the same to me ,
he was following me ,, then i faced him and picked a stone and Bam , in his chest ,,, he was moaning and angry , so i took another stone and Bam , in his back ,, before i pick the third one , he was running away ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Yeah , Stand Up and fight , Fight , Fight and remember , those cowards die thousands of times before they really die ,,, Brave people die only once .

my mother used to tell me that she will kick me out of the house , by the age of 12 it was no different till one day , she told me the same thing , then suddenly i said " F U C K you Mother " ,, she was mad and made my father beat me & she did too .

then again she said it again & i Said " F u c k you "

then i left home for 3 days , i went camping and forged my father signature on the permission paper , when i was back , i told my father where i have been so he started beating me , then after he finished , i stood up & went to the door of the house and faced him and Said " F u c k you " and left for a walk... & i got back after a nice walk , & then they all of a sudden stopped abusing me cause they know what i will do & say ...

So , open your Window and take a deep breath and shout to the World " F U C K Y O U " ,,, it's crazy Cool , try it , it really works .

Answer 6

Sit with yourself once and for all. Face your obsession, get hold of it. Jerk it right out of your system.
You may go to Unicef or Helpage sites to find out how many people in the world are suffering MUCH more than you for so many serious reasons. That will make your 'problem' pale into insignificance.

Answer 7

Ask your therapist if you can EMDR . It is a therapy for people who have experienced trauma, as you have. Take this problem seriously enough to seek help now. You deserve to feel safe!
Good luck!

Answer 8

hmmm that is a toughy. sometimes our instincs kick in to protect us from harm. if it just does not seem to go away you may be suffering from a phobia. i am doubting you are paranoid or paranoid schizophrenia!

Answer 9

talk to a counselor or seek medical help u could need both

Answer 10

get a friend to watch out for you, he shoudl be able to beat the **** out of them if need be