Am I taking this to serious?

Question

Me and my girl have been going out since 1-11-07, though she's on my mind night and day. I wonder, is she okay whats she doing, does she miss me as much as I miss her? I trust her, I'm just worried for her. Also, I always talk about what I'm going to get her, and it sounds really romantic. I have a different side than wrestling, football season, and reptiles though when I show my side that has my love, no0o0o0one takes me serious, though I am. Am i changing myself for her? She says she loves when I kiss and hug her, though everyone else says "you do this and that too much she probably feels uncomfortable." Is their a limit were most girls get weird feeling. I also like buying her stuff that she want's (she doesn't ask me, I know she'd like it). Am I ok? Am I changing myself for her? Am I taking this to serious? I love her sooo much and I only want the best for her.
Thanks and remember, best answer=10 points
Nick

She told me tht she likes what I do, I just don't know...I mean this is our 1st relationship for both of us so its new. know her ok, I've had a crush on her since she moved here 2 years ago from PA so I know her pretty well...

Mr_wall2005- Na i can get angry... just not at my girl. I got 2 days of in school suspension because a kid named dan said he f***** my Girl, so I threw him threw a bus door lol

Answer 1

man i can sympathise. i've been in a similar situation with a girl stuck on my mind. there's nothing wrong with that but i understand why people don't take you seriously. let me guess the people that aren't taking it seriously are mainly your family (immediate mostly) and your male friends?

i hate to break it to you but your family isn't likely to take it serious becauses they'll likely see it as nothing serious and guys will rip on you for it because we don't express feelings like this to eachother. so don't worry so much about that and it doesn't sound like your changing for her

with the hugging and kissing maybe she's just not used to it. i wouldn't stop completely but make it less frequent, only do it when there's meaning and reason to don't just do it out of no where until she gets more comfortable with it, all girls are different , some will love stuff like that and others will be uncomfortable, the more you're around her the more you'll get a feeling for it.

as far as buying things go it again depends on the kind of person. i'd be careful with that. alot of girls would be embarassed by it and feel like you're spoiling them. i'd suggest you only buy her things on holidays or special occaisons... maybe once in a while as a nice little gesture but probably only small things.

i don't think you're taking it too serious and the statement that you only want the best for her means you're mature about this sort of thing and trust me girls will respect you ALOT more for it. i don't think you're taking it too serious. it sounds like you've got it right but if the relationship ends (which it probably will eventually) don't take it too hard and keep the 'i only wnat what's best for her' in mind. relationships, especially while a teenager aren't meant to mean too too much but are an excelent learning experiecne. make sure you walk away from this with something.

Answer 2

Since Jan 11th 2007---> You are not i love right now your in a new relationship and you need to take it slow. Ya kissing and hugging is nice, but take it easy. Don't try to buy her affection with gifts, find out what she likes and do it. Movies, picnics, zoos, dinner, etc. Talking is important as well this is the time when you should be learning more about each other that's how you find out what she's all about and what she likes. Remember slow it down and have a good time take things as they come don't force it, in time she'll come around.

Answer 3

yes I think your taking it way to seriously you just got togthere not long ago you have to give it time there is soo much you two dont know about eachother yet you never know how ull feel in a few months. its nice you want her to be happy and get her things she likes I dont see anything wrong with that unless ur trying to buy her love that never works. I say chill out and see what happens. Dont change yourself for anyone thow thats never a good thing to do its not worth it and if she is with you now then thats because she likes you now!! There should be nothing u need to change.

Answer 4

Well this is sweet and no your not changing yourself to much for her. Love does that, we have no control over that. But, I do say this....its cool you buy her stuff because when you love someone you want to give them the moon. But....it can be done to much to the point of making someone un-comfortable for many reasons. They may think if they keep taking they will owe you something, or you are trying to buy them. Or, they may feel bad they don't have the money to buy you something back. Don't over do it buying things if it appears it may make her un-comfortable.
You sound like a jewel, good luck.

Answer 5

1st of all SCREW THE 10 POINTS!! lol any way as for your girlfriend I think that what your doing is NOT too much. I'd love it for a guy to do all that for me. I'm sure she loves you just as much as you do. Forget what others say you do what you need to do with her if she don't like it she'll let you know or she'll reject you. (like try not to hug you) and your not changing yourself as long as you still like all the things that you do before y'all when out and not stop liking them cause of her then your not changing yourself well I hope i explained this as clear as possible

Answer 6

nick you move fast... you sound obsessive (which is never a good thing). don't try to buy affection - you'll get nothing more than instant gratification and people will respect you more. i don't think you're changing for her, you probably change for everyone you meet.

Answer 7

awwwww you care about her thats sweet....listen dont listen 2 what other people say about your realationship ....if doing nice things for your girl makes you happy then keep doing them and good luck with your relationship you really do sound happy with her i hope it works out for you

Answer 8

Slow it down, you have only been going out a month

Answer 9

You = perfect boyfriend for her. Don't stop doin what your doin. If she didn't like what you were doing, she wouldn't be going out with you now would she? High five!

Answer 10

You need to slow down.