Me and her had been together for a year, been through two pregnancys-niether went to term, her filing false police reports, her putting all of our business in the public, me disrespecting her by looking at other girls while she was there and we argued a lot ovre petty stuff. When i decided to try and change for the better she left and i found out a few days afterward she started dating someobdy i thought was my friend and a two weeks later she called my crying saying she messed up made a mistake and wants to be with me again. She kept calling so i turned off my phone, the next day i had 7 voicemails, all of which were tear filled apologies from her saying she was sorry she messed up, etc. But should i give her another chance or go ahead and be with someone else?
2007-02-11 13:31:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the sounds of it, both of you would be better off with someone else AFTER you take time to grow up. Bringing someone else into your life, when you've not processed and grown from this, will generally only result in the same type of outcome. Unless you change something within yourself, you are likely to seek out the same type of person. If you are one to have such a wandering eye, your best bet is to stay single. It's not fair to the girlfriend for her mate to behave in such a manner.
2007-02-11 13:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like both of you have put each other through a lot of pain. At this point I think it would be better for both of you to take some time off from each other, date other people, and work on how you treat the people in those relationships. Take a long break from each other (maybe a year) and maybe you'll both grow to a point where you can get back together. But at this point neither of you have had enough time to change what about each of you made it so the relationship didn't work in the first place, and if you get back together right now I doubt that anything will be different. Also, if you talk to her about this, don't put a lot of emphasis on the idea that you may get back together in the future. That might make it harder for her to move on and she may just keep pushing you to get back together before you're ready, if you ever are ready to be back with her again.
2007-02-11 13:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you both are not ready to be a couple. You are both very capable of much damage to yourselves and each other! Learn to like/love yourself before you try to love another. Both of you have issues that are in need of addressing.
It is so easy to look in other yards to see others we may wish to play with. The reality is a bigger slap when we do go over the fence. If we burned the ladder we used, to get over that fence, we have to realize we may not be able to go back!
When people try to change other people, it is often because it is much easier to blame someone else for our faults. The problem comes when the one they blame voluntarily changes, the reality shows their own faults are now in sharp focus! If they are made to see they were wrong then they will try to "go back" to the way things were!
Keep a cool head. I suggest clear, truthful conversation. I also suggest that you both concentrate on working out /thru your own issues. It could be the very same issues that drew you together!
I would keep an arm's length from each other and seek some counseling.
Good Luck!
2007-02-11 13:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question ,you all ready know the answer.It did;t work the first time ,it won't work the second time ,Life is problems ,together you conquer,not break up and go to ones so called friend.Heal your self first ,if its still on your mind ,in time try to talk ,just not to soon.
2007-02-11 13:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I personally think you guys should move on. But, I pity the girl though. I think you should call her and tell her that you guys should be friends instead. I think you guys should move on because of the negatives through your relationships. Still, she really seems sorry, so I think you should forgive her. ^^ Good luck!
2007-02-11 13:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by IcANsEEyOU 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you both have too much to get over in the passed. I think if you have to ask the question than leave her alone. She sounds like trouble.
2007-02-11 13:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sasasa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask yourself "Do I really see myself spending the rest of my life together with her." Think real long and hard.
2007-02-11 13:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Just Waiting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you dont go back out with her.
she dumped you
and she is putting all your business in the street
she sounds like a very
bad girlfriend
i suggest you find another girl friend
2007-02-11 13:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You should run the other way.
2007-02-11 13:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that's tough you've been through alot but i think you should try to find sum body else cuz ot dont sound like this chick has got a clue what she want's
2007-02-11 13:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by scott 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋