can a women leave her husband for verbal abuse?

Question

I have a friend that he treats his wife like a slave,i mean a prison would treat her better, she wants to leave him but she cant find any scripture verse saying its ok if she i getting abuse from her husband,Does anyone know of such a verse?

Answer 1

She doesn't need a verse. She needs to get out because he's abusive. Just think of it this way; if your god is a loving one, would he want her in this situation?

Answer 2

"Can a women leave her husband for verbal abuse?"

God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate, and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry, or the death of the husband or the wife..

In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?

One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.

Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.” Psalm 11:5.

Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality, one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate. Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.

However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.” Matthew 5:32.

The Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not. Matthew 5:32.

After telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)


Marriage involves two people with differing personalities learning to develop common interests and working together toward common goals. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not a casual agreement that can be lightly abandoned. In many countries, divorce is not difficult to obtain, but in the eyes of a Christian, the marriage relationship is sacred. It is ended only for a very serious reason. (Matt. 19:9) Christian spouses can avail themselves of wise counsel from the Bible, support from fellow Christians, and a close, prayerful relationship with God. A successful marriage endures, and over the years, it brings happiness and contentment to husband and wife. More important, it brings honor to God, the Originator of marriage.

Answer 3

When Christ was asked what the most important commandment is, he replied "Love the Lord, God with all your heart" Then he added that the next most important commandment was a new commandment from Christ himself "Love one another as I have loved you." Her husband is disobeying this commandment. Also Paul addresses how a husband is suppose to love his wife in First Corinthians. If her husband is not behaving this way she can leave him with God's blessing. Paul states that he is to be good to her and love her above all else. I will put her in my prayers tonight. may God give her the wisdom and perception she needs to know that He does not want her in a home that will eventually destroy the beautiful spirit He gave her. Love to her and love to you for caring about her. Just remember, pressure has never led someone out of an abusive relationship. Support her so she learns she is worth more than what he is giving her and there is a good christian man who will love her if she can break free.

Answer 4

The verse that springs to mind is the one that says a man is to love his wife like he loves himself.Verbal abuse is as bad or worse that physical abuse.Bruises heal words last a long time.Jesus would not want her to suffer this way.You are not required to stay in a marriage that is this bad.Common sense says leave especially if there are children.

Answer 5

I couldn't find one, but any type of abuse is a bad thing. She needs to get out. Verbal abuse can escalate to physical abuse, and if there are kids involved, it can bleed onto them. For her sake, she needs to get out. If she can, have her talk to a religious leader about it. If she doesn't have a trusted leader, have her call her local abuse line. They will tell her where she can go, and how to get out. Most abusers will alienate their victims, tell them that no one loves them, that they are nothing. They isolate them from family and friends. If you see this happening, call someone to help. Divorce in this instance is totally waranted and totally called for. I would never let anyone treat me like this.

My friends brother is one of these kind of men. He has been married 2 times and they both divorced him. He says they are crazy and they need to be educated in how to make a man happy. He says women are there to be maids, cooks and sex slaves. They aren't there to give opions or to have a mind, just for the mans wants and needs. He tried to get me to do everything for him, he would call me names, tell me I was useless, just because I told him no. He even raised his hand to hit me once. I told him that if he ever touched me, he would be in jail so fast his head would spin. I told him that he was an idiot and ignorant and that he would never meet a woman that would agree with him. I told him that I had a mind, and I was going to use it. I wasn't meant to be under a mans control. No wonder the women divorced him!! He wouldn't have lasted a week. His whole idea of himself was that he was God's gift to women and they should bow at his feet. He said he was the best man that ever lived as far as the bedroom goes. He's dilussional, and so is this guy.

Tell her just to get out and cut her losses. It's better then what she will be getting.

Answer 6

Keep in mind that the Bible came from a time and a culture where women were the property of their husbands -- and it reflects that view. In my opinion, you won't find anything in there that backs up modern advances in human rights, including womens rights.

The arguments to use in this case are arguments of common sense and common decency. Abuse is toxic -- it kills the spirit. She needs to get free. Surely if the Christian God is a God of love, He would want her to be safe and happy, not locked into a loveless marriage and suffering for no good reason.

Answer 7

No. The only biblical reason the bible gives for divorce is adultery or desertion. That being said, a woman does not have to endure abuse of any kind. She just must remember this "a woman is not to leave her husband, but if she does, she is to remain unmarried". That is if she wants to walk completely with God, by His word. Many people do divorce, for not biblical reasons, and remarry. That is their choice, and between them and God, but His word says otherwise. And since you asked specifically about what the bible says, that is what it says.

Answer 8

Matthew 12:31-32 (NKJV) "Therefore I say to you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven men, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven men. Anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man, it will be forgiven him; but whoever speaks against the Holy Spirit, it will not be forgiven him, either in this age or in the age to come."

There are plenty of passages that vehemently states that God HATES divorce. Malachi 2:14-16 (NKJV) Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the LORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant. 15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 16 "For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously."

And he didn't CHANGE his mind in the New Testament: Matthew 19:3 (NKJV) The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"

But remember, that sin is forgivable. If she is being treated in such a way that it has caused her to take on maladaptive behavior, then for her own health and safety she should leave. But, if the two of them are fighting a lot, and all you are getting is "her" side, then the two of them should really attempt marriage counseling.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Thw time she spends looking for a scripture verse can limit her chances of escaping from a bad relationship, and many times verbal abuse escalates to physical abuse leading to tragic consecuences.

Answer 11

No, there's no verse, though I wish there was. The bible only says things about there being sexual immorality. She can go to the law with it, of course, but I don't know what scripture can do for her, unless you take her husband to Timothy or Ephesians (I can't remember which, but one of them speaks of the loving husband and how he should be in a relationship)