A question for the guys?
I am single. I have been married. I have a wonderful daughter that I love very much. Been divorced from her Mum a long time. Before meeting her Mum and since we were separated - I have "known" a lot of women.
This does not relate to her Mum. There was no adultery, we just drifted apart.
It relates to my life now. I am a warm and loving guy, I like female company. I am not a love-rat. I meet someone, usually we "hit it off" and then some time later - there are some small problems? I am a workaholic and I give her some room to doubt me (I always try - but sometimes, my days are very intense) . Sometimes the lady - is too clingy? Possibly - all is not right in the bedroom and I become restless? (I dont mean that to sound bad - it isnt).
I've known some wonderful ladies and some remain very good friends ;-) I fear that - I have created a perfect woman in my head.
This is not normal. How many women have you "known? .
2007-02-11 12:49:53 · 10 answers · asked by ~Mustaffa~Laff~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to "misadvent..." nice answer, thankyou :-)
I am not causing hurt. I would hate myself for that. My marriage failed and I was probably the guilty one. It taught me a lot. I am a better man as a result. I think so. I really - do hope so.
I just want to be totally in love again. This time, I want to devote all of my time to her. I learned to cook and to keep a nice home.
You have an experienced head on a pair of young shoulders? you gauged my question very well - thankyou :-)
2007-02-11 13:24:32 · update #1
I'm not a guy so sorry for answering this question. It seems, underneath it all, you're questioning whether or not you should chase perfection. Who the hell knows? And does it even exist? You don't sound bad, don't worry, but then I'm not one of the women you've been involved with. Maybe I'd feel differently if you offered a lot and then, for one of many reasons, no longer wanted me. If you're causing hurt to women then I guess you should be careful. Also you have to question whether, to some degree, you're not drawn to women, to sex and to romance 'au general', in which case it's the idea that pulls you in, as opposed to the reality.
I can identify, I think, with what you say. I'm mid-twenties and I've had succession after succession of boyfriends. I find them imperfect in some way, and so it always ends, sometimes far more destructively than other times. It's like I like the wrapper and I just want it, then find it's not as spectacular as I thought. I've slept with twenty something guys, so am no angel. Somewhere along the line I'll have to question what it is I'm looking for.
It sounds like you're made up of contradictory parts - someone attracted to women, very sexual, romantic, with good intentions - yet distracted, hard to please, and maybe a little ruthless?
Don't really have any suggestions, hope you meet someone who is close to the ideal you have created.
2007-02-11 13:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by misadventure 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The great thing about what is going on with u is that u r honest about what is true in your life. I'm there myself. I'm still in love with a young lady who I dated for five years and believe me I have had many. I'm a caring and sensitive man and strong minded. May be it is the fact that U may be still in love with that person and that the fact is u will always love her and one thing that I know is that u have a daughter and that will never change. Anyway it is normal because u just want to be with the right one and instead of playing game u r being true 2 yourself. There is no perfect anything and every relation on either side it take work. Just fine someone u r compatible with and be honest and free and if it is meant to be so be it. Just be real and free. I john C has a saying and that saying on this day to u is I rather be by myself for the rite reason than to be with someone for the wrong reason.
2007-02-11 13:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by John C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-11 13:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fella, I'm a soldier so woman in every port sketch for me but feel your pain. I was married but spent so much time away on operations it killed my personal life. There is a woman out there for you just have to wait to find her
2007-02-11 12:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by moomintroll77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on the ladies that are your very good friends.I have Known more women than I could count. I 'm big down there.
2007-02-11 13:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not normal because usually people don't get that much "eperience" Don't worry about it and keep looking.
2007-02-11 12:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by qtpie16707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in USA , most women are to eaten up with themselves.
2007-02-11 13:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Charles R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a few.
Keep doing what you want & you may find someone suitable.
2007-02-11 12:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound a bit paranoid - just sleep with women you really like!
2007-02-11 12:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* none.....
2007-02-11 12:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋