I have a 1 year old daughter and my baby's father and I are finally going to be together. But my parents don't like him. Am I making the right decision? Because this is my first and biggest decision that I am about to make in my whole entire life. I'm 24.
2007-02-11 12:36:47 · 13 answers · asked by ~Amor~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
YES YOU ARE. It doesn't matter what your parents think. Your a adult now, your parents shouldn't influence a decision that will effect you for the rest of your life. Now unless he is abusive, or a danger in some way to you or the baby this is the only man you should be with. It should be him or nobody. He is her father, and sounds like he's stepping up to the plate to take on his responsibility. So I say go for it.
2007-02-11 19:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you already made the biggest decision of your life - you had a baby. From now on all your decisions must factor in that little girl.
What kind of man is he? Will he be a loving, attentive, supportive, responsible father who will provide not only money but a strong family environment for your daughter to grow up in? Will it be a house WITHOUT drama but a home of peace and security? And, most importantly, will it be a home of love?
Will this new husband allow you to grow into the woman you want to be? Will he support your education and need for life experiences? Remember, there are no such things as prince charmings... princesses who take responsibility for themselves are happy princesses in life.
I'd also be curious why your parents don't like him (other than contributing to your pregnancy.) Sometimes parents have a very good take on things and they may be right because 24 is very young to get married.
Ultimately, this is your decision and, regardless of what your parents say, only you can make it.
good luck
2007-02-11 12:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! we are in the same boat, just a LITTLE different, i have a 6 month old and my boyfriend(my baby daddy) and i were living in my parents house and we just recently moved out. he has had am extremly bad past and my parents have been begging me to leave him ever since we moved intogether.
But you got to think, you are older now and starting your own family, your parents are great and everything, but you have to let go and live your own life. plus ( i know this sounds bad) but anything could happen and even if you do make the decision to go be with your babys father, its not like you cant change your mind if your not happy!!!!
some times you just have to give things a shot!
2007-02-11 12:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by jiggamaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not enough to make a relationship work. A kid is not a reason to keep a crappy relationship together. Why don't your parents like him? You've got a lot of thinking to do. Be honest with yourself and do the right thing by your kid. It's not about you anymore. Why haven't you been with the dad all this time? What was wrong with him? Do you think he's changed?
2007-02-11 12:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by lew22204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 24 it is your life to make YOUR mistakes, decisions and happiness for YOURSELF. Just because your parents do not like him does not matter, I am sorry to say that it is YOU that will have to live with him, share your child and bed with. They will move on and either love him because you do or get along with him because they love YOU.
Follow your heart...nothing else matters. I married my DH after being told by everyone that he was bad news...10 years later he is a better person for being with me, and I for being with him. Noone can run your life for you but you...
2007-02-11 13:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by ChelYox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right for you and your baby,most likely your parents won't ever like anyone that you bring home.If he is good to you and the baby that you share and you know this is someone you truly love and don't want to live your life without,then I say go for it.But if this is a man who hits you doesn't work and treats you like crap then listen to what your family is telling you because they are truly looking out for you. good luck.
2007-02-11 13:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by crystal powell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually keeping the baby instead of having an abortion was a much bigger decision, and you did just fine there... :)
Trust your instincts. If you're wrong that's why there are divorce lawyers on every corner, you won't be the first!!
2007-02-11 12:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult...if you believe that being with him will make you happy and is what is best for your baby, then go for it! Don't let your parents live your life for you.
2007-02-11 12:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by BakaBaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, they are not the ones that are going to have to deal with him. If you truly love them, then they shoudl accept your wishes. They are not marrying him, you are. It is your decision. If you truly love him and he feels the same way, go for it. Good luck! :D
2007-02-11 12:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Okay.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your parents like him? Are there reasons valid? Are they based on old information that has changed? If there are red flags, don't be wooed by love.
2007-02-11 12:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋