What is the proper spanking technique to discipline a child?

Question

In case they get out of line.

Answer 1

Pants down, over the lap = red tush

only use spanking as a last resort, but when you use it, make it count! Also never spank in anger, and give lots of kisses, and hugs afterwords. You owe it to your children to teach right from wrong, so have a long talk about what they can do to avoid spankings in the future.

Good Luck

Answer 2

There's a thin line between discipline and abuse. But they say for social services guidelines that you can spank on the butt or smack the hand but can't leave any scars, bruises, marks, welps, anything like that. Use time out too, and if they still actin up then I would spank. I got spanked when I was a child, and I'm not emotionally distressed or anything then or now, so getting your butt spanked comes part of life for many children. But punches, burns, cuts, broken arms and legs is a different story rather than a sore backside... But spanking doesn't work all of the time, so just use different methods like time out, taking priveledges, stuff like that.

Answer 3

According to child protective (I am a foster Mom, foster parents can not spank) you can only "spank" on the buttocks, and you can not leave as much as a red mark that does not go away within two minutes. Where you "hit" must be below the waist line, and it must be above the line at the crease of the buttocks. Basically where underwear go. While your kids won't get taken away for a slap on the hand, or face, if there is any other suspicion of abuse it will cause them to come at you full force!

Answer 4

It feels like your mum and dad did no longer use spanking properly and that i'm sorry approximately that. in the event that they curse at you at present, it fairly is incorrect and that's referred to as verbal abuse. It feels like they have anger issues. Spanking a new child out of anger is by no potential ok. there's a brilliant difference between a rapid pop on the backside to snap your new child out of a habit, and wailing on them just to vent your anger. while you're certainly hurting your new child sufficient to cause them to scream/cry in soreness (no longer purely via fact they have been given in worry) then you definately are abusing, no longer spanking.

Answer 5

You just opened a can of worms, buddy.

Against the law blah blah blah...

The bottom line... I was spanked as a child, my husband was... a whole hell of a lot of people I know where and they all came out fine.

People nowdays are teaching parents to "compromise" with their children... or be "friends" with their children. As far as I'm concerned, BE A PARENT. what the parent says should be final.

When did parenting become so wrong?

I'm not saying go beat your children... People just need to be parents. If the child doesn't listen, put them on restriction... send them to their room.. anything. Just don't let the child think they can rule the parent.

Answer 6

Well I do not like to spank my children. But when they get really out of hand I have to. Legally you cannot swat your kid on the butt more than three times, and you have to use your hand. Using other objects such as paddles, hangers, or any other objects is highly illegal. Usually spanking doesn't real help me though, i have to use other means of punishment like time out. Time out WILL NOT work unless you enforce it. Any punishment does not work unless you enforce it. Don't threaten just do it. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Parents just need to be consistent!!! That is the key. Don't be hard one day and soft the next! Don't ignore the kids one day and be all over them for everything the next day!! Children Test their parents EVERY TIME they can!! That is their job!! ( to learn to know what will happen in life everyday) That way if they do something wrong, they KNOW what will happen!! (spankin, no TV,etc....)

Answer 8

Explain to them why they are getting spanked and what they did wrong, and tell them how many swats they get.
Then put your hand on your tailbone so your thumb is on the tailbone, so if you miss you'll get hurt .
Spank JUST below your hand.
This lets your kids know what they did wrong, and that they are loved.
If you spank a kid out of anger, then you're just a child-abusing a$$hole and don't deserve kids !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

A smack on the hands for when they won't listen and repeatedly disobey your directions.

The goal is to hurt their pride or feeling more than inflicting any physical pain.

I was smacked as a child and I think it is a great way of discipling children in moderation of course. Overuse can lead to abuse or watering down the "Oh no now I really screwed up" effect.

Answer 10

I would highly encourage you to read as much as you can about parenting and forms of discipline instead of trying to figure out an appropriate way to hit your child. Dr. William Sears, a Pediatrician out of CA, has some wonderful books on parenting that you should be able to locate in the library. Most of the time, if parents are honest, they hit due to their own lack of self control over the situation. Often times, if they allow themselves to calm down, they'd not pursue hitting their child. Something to think about....best of luck!