We had a mutual break up. At first he said he didn’t want to end up in a loveless relationship and he was just thinking about stuff. He said we could try to have a relationship again later. A week later he said he knew two weeks prior to us breaking up that we weren’t going to work. Then he said we weren’t meant to be together, we didn’t mesh well, he didn’t love me at all, and we would never get back together. The most recent thing he told me is that he still loved me when we broke up and that he felt he couldn’t do anything right for me. He would always say we were still friends though. Thing is he hasn’t been acting like much of a friend. He won’t really look at me. I’ll wave or smile at him but he’ll stare right past me. He won’t sit next to me in the class that we have together anymore. He won’t talk to me unless I ask him a direct question. I told him to have a nice weekend. No response.
2007-02-11 12:26:36 · 7 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know we aren’t going to be together again and he doesn’t want me, and he knows I think that. So why is he trying to distance himself from me? We have mutual friends and when were all hanging out he’ll talk to everyone but me. In the hallways when I’m walking with our friends he just runs on ahead instead of walking with us. He doesn’t even say bye. He acts normal but avoids me. Why can’t I just be his friend? I’m not flirting with him or anything like that, I just want him to talk to me the way he does everyone else. We haven’t been together for a whole month. I would think he’d be able to start acting normal by now. Why can’t he just be my friend?
2007-02-11 12:27:02 · update #1
Whew, maybe he is going through something at the moment, or maybe you did something that offended him, but more than likely he doesn't want to get your hopes up and let you think there is a chance for you two. I think that he probably led you to believe that there was a chance some where for you two, and he probably thinks that you still want him, or maybe he is just a jerk and took what he wanted from you, and now is kissing you off. If you can't get a direct answer from him, quit wasting your time, maybe later on you two will be friends, he might not know how to be your friend after dating you, sometimes things happen that way. Don't push it, if it's meant to be that you two should be friends it will happen in time, if that's what you really want, nothing more, he'll figure it out once you move on.
2007-02-11 12:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just confused right now, he hasn't been friends with you before, and if he has its a huge change to go from loving you to back to just friends. You are only in highschool, there will be alot of heartbreaks on the way, I wouldn't let this bother you... just smile alot and have fun, don't seem down... guys like what they can't have especially if they already had it and can't get it again. If you guys have mutual friends you'll work things out sooner or later it's just a matter of time... don't be mean to him that it just lame and makes you look like a worse person. Always be friendly, but act like you don't care much about the break up because to be honest you shouldn't if he's going to be immature. That's good that you're trying, i would just try less and let things work it's way out... my biggest problem is being impatient, i think thats the same for most girls... we just want it to all work out right that second. You can't just not love someone anymore, if he just stopped loving you it would be easy to talk to you... things are just awkward right now.. time will tell
2007-02-11 20:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
High School Drama is correct. Seems the guy just wants to be finished with you, he does not want to give you one ounce of a idea that he even wants to get back with you. You should not expect him to keep being friends until you back off. Sounds to me like, he wants to distance himself from you. Give him some space and let him do that. If he wants to communicate with you again, he will, but right now, do not keep pushing the why can't we still be friends thing. You know yourself just like he does, that this is NOT what you want, you are trying to get him back and he does not want you back. Leave the poor guy alone.
2007-02-11 20:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. He is not Tom or Brad for you. By the way, you will block his chance for a new relationship. You are still so young. There is a song for you if you can remember the Corrs. Try to listen to that song, so that you won't run away with him.
2007-02-11 20:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this boy is just trying to get over you and by doing that he avoids you. You should try to ask him why and if he doesn't answer then don't bother with him anymore. Soon enough he will try to be your friend again.
2007-02-11 20:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by tay tay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for whatever reasons u've not mentioned he doesnt think the relationship will work out in the long term. maybe your goals are different, maybe there's no spiritual connection and he feels its best to move on a different path in life. peace
2007-02-11 20:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ne needs time to adjust to it..even though it has been a month...maybe hes just scared about the situation and you intimidate him.?
2007-02-11 20:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by cute as a button!.♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋