My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, he recently joined the army and is about to attend his AIT course(which is two months), soon after that he'll get deployed(stationed) some where for three years, there's a small possibility that I can move with him if he doesn't get placed in a war zone? Is this long distance thing capable of working? Any suggestions to make it better?
2007-02-11 12:08:19 · 22 answers · asked by +Mz. Dee+ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everything deserves a chance. sometimes you must give to recieve.
2007-02-11 12:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Star and Moon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on how committed you really are to the relationship.
I met my wife to be on the Internet in an October (she was in the US, me in the UK) - 8 hour time difference.
we visited each other in the following months and by the July were married, with her moving to the UK a couple of months later when the Visa's had been sorted out.
It's a tough place to be, especially over the length of time you will be apart potentially, but if he is the one and he believes you are the one and you are willing to make it work. I see no problems.
Just make sure you communicate as often as you can, by phone, email, letter (always cool to send the odd snail mail), but don't let it rule your life, go out and enjoy yourself too, that way you don't get totally wrapped up in the relationship, that's a dangerous game to play.
If you have the money and the time, before he gets deployed, go and surprise him, I am sure he will be happy to see you!!!
There is no guarantee these relationships will work and it is very much based on trusting the other to commit to the relationship, but if you both do, I think you will find it will work.
Good luck!
2007-02-11 12:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by carlsberg72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if he's deployed somewhere you cannot or do not go, the chances of y'all maintaining the relationship for 3 years apart is slim...marriages that have one spouse away for periods of time often become strained or end, much less a relationship that isn't that serious yet.
See what happens after his AIT course but if y'all can't be together when he gets his assignment, then it may be time to part ways so you can each have the opportunity to meet someone you can be together with...
2007-02-11 12:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it to work, it CAN work. A close friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for years, and he is in the army deployed in the middle east right now. He's been there for almost a year, and they've both worked through it. He calls her whenever he gets the chance and it always brightens her day when she hears from him, even if it's in the middle of the night because of the time difference.
If you really love him and support what he is doing for our country, you can definitely make this work. Just make sure you talk things through and communicate with him, because if you can't physically be together communication is key.
2007-02-11 12:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by lalalauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is deployed in a war zone, be prepared, it is hard on him and you...Long distance can work, but you have to make it work. When my guy was out for a few days I would send him cards, and I emailed him everyday regardless....Things are different it is not what you are used to.....but if you really love him you will make it work..Send lots of pictures, buy a bottle of your perfume and a bottle of his aftershave he takes the perfume you take the aftershave, that way when you guy's are talking via computer or phone, you can incorporate another sense.and well if you can't touch him at least you can smell him...Make sure if he gets deployed to Iraq or something that you have support...Know as much information as you can and have him put your name down on his contact list...There will be times you won't talk to him for awhile, having the support will get you through it...I wish you guys the best....real love will always find a way to work out....
2007-02-11 12:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by beans 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for three years while he was in the marines. we are still together, and i have been in the UK and he has been in the US / Japan. We have had our ups and downs. it got harder as time went on, temptation to be with other people, things like that, but it is possible and if you love each other you can make it work. you need to find a way to have your relationship from a distance, letters, emails, phone calls, photos, gifts. always tell him how you feel for him and if your upset do it in an email, because the phone exagerates things. like the other day i said i wanna leave here, and he thought i said i wanna leave him. so you gotta reassure each other alot but if you both want it to work it will.
2007-02-11 12:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It worked out for me although I had been through a few failed relationships first, two of which were long distance relationships. Give it a chance.
2007-02-11 12:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you want it to work out then yes long distance relationships can work out. But if one of you aren't being truthful with the other then no, the relationship is doomed for failure. So you need to talk and see if he wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.
2007-02-11 12:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love one another, you can make it work. The only long distance relationships that don't last, are the ones that aren't meant to.
2007-02-11 12:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't work and 99% of them end
2007-02-11 12:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the people involved, but my son started going out with his gf while in boot camp via letters, but we'd known her for a while, needless to say 4 years of active duty and many years later they have been married for 8 years.
2007-02-11 12:11:48 · answer #11 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋