I feel like I'm drowining. My mom, brother and sister are all gone, and I live alone with my father. He loves me, but is always away drinking and smoking. He is lonely. The house is falling to pieces, and I have given up caring about it. The pets have died, there are maggots in our dishes, and I find i don't care. I've lost all interest in school. I skipped 8th, grade, gifted class, doing so well. and I no longer care. I have taken up so many activitys that I no longer have time to eat, or sleep, leave for school at 6:30 am and don't get home till 9 at night. The friends I make I chase away, and I am convinced that I somhow want to be miserable, but I don't. Constant thoughts of suicide, not to get attention, I just want to rest for once. But I don't want to give up. On anything, but I feel like I'm drowning in the air. And I've never told anyone that. Not untill you people, right now. What do I do? I want to get out. I want that feeling to go away. Can somone help?
2007-02-11 12:05:27 · 10 answers · asked by Tsukiko27 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are overwhelmed -- take a deep breath, step back and look at the situation if it were a friend not you. You are not your dad's caretaker, you love him and want to help him, but YOU CAN'T HELP OTHERS UNTIL YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. You are smart and can make friends. You are just going through a rough phase. First thing, talk to your school counselor first thing tomorrow morning -- make this your fresh, new Monday start -- you are doing something very common, running away, it's a coping mechanism. Then, take time to just tidy up, doesn't have to be perfect, you will find that it also helps unclutter the mind and is easier to keep up. Your counselor is trained to help and will probably refer you to an adolescent or teen therapist that specializes in this type of thing. You will come through this.
2007-02-11 12:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would like to start by saying that you aren't alone... LOTS of people everywhere face horrible circumstances that are far beyond your control. The key to facing adversity is not to give up. You sound like a really bright young woman with a future equally bright, and have alot to live for. What you describe is called clinical depression, and you should seek treatment... To start I would call the following number for support:
1-800-784-2433 It is toll free and open 24/7 it would be a great resource for you to use... even if you just need to talk to someone about your feelings. After that, I would try and improve your standard of living by just straightening up your house a bit. It sounds like the environment you live in isn't all that healthy.
I have great faith in you... I wish you all my best, and I hope that you can overcome all that is bothering you.
Adam
2007-02-11 12:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds tough, but life is what you make of it. I've had friend who have nothing, but are the happiest people I know. Then I have friends who are spoiled with a loving family and wish they were dead. So life is what you want it to be, you get thrown a curveball every once in a while, you deal with it.
While I don't want to say it's a phase, but you'll get over it, a counselor will help. I used to get depressed, looking back now im ashamed of how I used to be. By not getting help you're only setting yourself up for failure, you can be happy.
2007-02-11 12:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats difficult, but not impossible to get through, you're not responible for your father, just yourself. you need to talk to someone regularly and advise you on some things - a school counsellor perhaps? Suicide would be a waste of your life, you have gifts, this is the only chance you'll get to use them but take some time out, some "me" time to relax and breathe deeply... Definitely a human to listen to you would be a move in the right direction.
2007-02-11 12:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by ke7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a school counselor. You are using "busy-ness" as a coping technique to gloss over the ache in your home life & heart. This is a common technique used by many people.
Not until you slow down your life will you make the time to take action in those things that really matter to you.
You ARE in control, but are not making healthy or wise choices right now.
2007-02-11 12:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can one of your grandparents help out? an uncle or aunt? You need adult help. This is way beyond what you can do yourself. Your dad needs help too, but not the help a kid can give. If you do not have an adult relative to turn to (and believe me, almost any adult would want to help a kid that was going through what you are) then you will need to talk to a teacher or school counselor and have them look up some resources for your family.
You must ask an adult for help.
2007-02-11 12:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon,
I'm so sorry that you're going thru such a terrible time. I know of a site that might be a good,supportive place to get your feelings listened to and support you in your journey out of your dark time.
You can go to:
Suicide4
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/suicide4/
Best Wishes
2007-02-11 12:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by moonstruck_ru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from a major depression which is a curable disease... Medications and counselling usually improves the condition in a week or two...Do consult a doctor ASAP!
2007-02-11 12:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Marla82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a cool therapist. make sure you like he/she right off the bat. you will be relieved of mass stress.
2007-02-11 12:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Allison O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call your local crisis line.
2007-02-11 12:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by TD1HOGY2K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋