Should i tell my boyriend i cheated on him?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out together for 1 year and nearly 8 months now.5 months ago i moved to England to study here and I left my boyfriend back in Romania...
3 months ago i cheated on him with another boy for 3 weeks we were kissing and just spending time together but not more than that...I feel really guilty now cause my boyfriend said to me that to be sincere with each other is really important...I feel really sorry now and i'm thinking why on earth did i do that...?I love my boyfreind so much and i dont want to let him go, but i dont know when im next going to see him because i cant afford to go back in the holidays ....so im not going to see him for quite a long time...
Pls help!
what should i do...?
2007-02-11 11:57:56 · 34 answers · asked by Neacsu v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not think what you did was because of some ulterior motive. I think you were in a new place, away from home and lonely. We all make mistakes. It is difficult to be far from the life ,family and friends, that we are accustomed to.I do not think you should tell him you were with another boy. It would not serve any purpose other than relieving your guilty conscience. Spare him the truth, for it will only hurt him. Being sincere is different than getting the weight of what you did off your shoulders.Do not tell him what you did, be kind and thoughtful for his sake. You will have to work this out for yourself. If this 3 week relationship meant nothing to you ,then you must keep it to yourself. I hope your relationship works out, long distance must be hard. Good Luck.
2007-02-11 12:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as I saw this question, I knew no matter what you had put in the details that the answer would be yes. I did read it though, lol. But why? Because even though it sounds cheesy, it's always going to be better if you go with the truth. If you lie or cover it up (same thing) you're just pushing your luck. He might or he might not forgive you if you say the truth. But if you don't say the truth, it's more probable he won't because he'll know you kept it from him. And he was right, it is very important for you to be sincere to eachother. And that means, you too....not only him! So go ahead and tell him. I'm not saying it will be easy at all. He will be heartbroken and upset that you did something like that. But whats done is done and you can't undo it. Now all you can do is look forward and look for the best choice. No one is perfect and we make stupid mistakes- all of us. Don't kill yourself over it if he forgives you. And even if he doesn't forgive you, just promise yourself you will never do something like that again, and lose a wonderful person for a dumb mistake.
I hope the best for you! :]
2007-02-11 12:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should break up with the boyfriend so you are both free to pursue others as you desire. Long distance relationships don't often work out. This way, if you are both single when you return home, and interest is there in reuniting, then you can do that but no one need feel guilt about anything done in the interim.
2007-02-11 12:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT tell him!!! If all you did is kiss and hang with this guy, and you have no intention of cheating again, just file it in the lessons learned folder, and move on. If you really do love him, maybe it took this experience to see that. It will only create more probs if you spill the beans.
2007-02-11 12:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by SweetGin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him you relieve your guilt and force him to have that image of you for the rest of his life. If you don't you have to live with the guilt but can have the chance to rebuild and strengthen your relationship if you stay together.
You don't need to figure out why you did it - you did it because you were lonely, wanted attention and affection so you found it. Keep your legs together, get tested for stds and be honest.
He may have something to tell you too!
2007-02-11 12:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by crazylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously something is not right in your relationship if you cheated on him. Your probably to young to be settling with one person. It's called dating! tell your boyfriend that you would like to see other people while your away. It helps your grow as a person, and you will have a lot more fun anyways.
2007-02-11 12:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your Boyfriend "So much!", then you would have ever cheated on him? Tell him, and hope that he dumps you kindly. Move on, and start a relathionship with your new boytoy, which I am sure he has no idea you have a boyfriend or had, in the first place.
2007-02-11 15:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jonny5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you didn't do more. You feel guilty about it and I don't think that's going to go away unless you do tell him. Just be prepared for some major a** kissing and apologize profusely. But, he may end things.
2007-02-11 12:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should be honest. Just explain to him that you had a moment of weakness and that it did not go any further than kissing. I think he will appreciate your honesty and it will help with your guilty conscience as well.
2007-02-11 12:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just a one time thing I'd just forget about it, it's just a kiss but this happened for 3 weeks! Obviously it wasn't a mistake, and just a one time thing so I'd tell him and tell him that you love him and all that's stuff.
2007-02-11 12:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by holliexoxo88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋