been with my girle 3 years.she attacks me mentally putting me down every time we argue.i hate arguments and dont know what to say it fustrates me so much i start braking things.please help me
2007-02-11 11:45:25 · 11 answers · asked by BXER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take a deep breathe and count to 10. Then calmly tell her that if she continues to belittle you then you can not stay with her. you love her but you love yourself enough not to be treated that way.
2007-02-11 11:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a toxic relationship & if it has upset you so much you have started to break things it can be dangerous!!
If your girl has no mental problem you need to talk serious to her when you are not having a tiff & explain you wont put up with this anymore & if it happens again you will leave
but make sure you do leave because if you don't nothing will change.
Set some boundaries & say you don't want any name calling ever again & no blaming each other for their anger etc & for her to leave the room when she is mad or you leave the room if you are mad & not to follow each other because that makes it worse if you can't get away from the anger!!
If she loves you she will stop being mean
good luck
2007-02-11 20:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think 3 years is way over the time limit to leave this abusive relationship.Emotional abuse ,I think can be so much worse than physical abuse.But both are NOT right. I know it's so much easier said then done,but, if you stay and allow this I have a feeling it will just keep escalating.
You deserve so much more, a happier future, healthier relationships.I wish you all the best.
2007-02-11 19:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by moonstruck_ru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she starts an argument, kiss hr to make her shut up. Kiss her senseless. I know that's not the best advice, but since you don't have anything to say, kiss the argument right out of her. Stop breaking stuff, they may be valuable in the future. Kiss her and have the upper hand for a change. Good luck.
2007-02-11 19:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Girl-In-Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I don't know what your specific problem is but it sounds alot like mine only i'm in a lesbian relationship and my girl is bi-polar but she attacks me mentally everytime we argue too in fact i just back into town yesterday and hoped we would share some intamacy but instead argued and we are still arguing today I'm at wits end don't know what to do either . Good luck I wish we had answers
2007-02-11 20:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by Candi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have to wait to settle down ,talk things out like adults ,maybe this is not the right girl for you .Talk and talk until you find out ,whats right for you .The best of luck to the both of you.
2007-02-11 19:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years is enough,hit the door as fast as you can.She is making you turn MEAN and that's no good.That will just give you jail time.
2007-02-11 19:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek mental help get in a mental institute quick kidding don't really
2007-02-11 19:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by joelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that relationship. its not healthy for you and can be putting your self esteem down
2007-02-11 19:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that relationship its not good mentally or emotionaly
2007-02-11 19:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Linda Lou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋