I'm 16 and i want to move with my fiance. But how to get my mom to like that and let me actually do it?

Question

I want to move out and live with my fiance as soon as possible ... it would be in the same apartments but i dont know if my mom would say yes ... how can i make her say yes? and is there any laws that can help me? i just dont want to be mad at each other if i move..!

Answer 1

your 16 and engaged...im on your mother side NO

Answer 2

Run away in the night and rent the apartment the next day far, far away from your family because you know your mom's not going to like it. Be sure your honey has a good job and can pay all the bills so you can finish school. Otherwise you're putting yourself up s>>>>creek. Next thing you know you'll be having a baby. Uhhhh, don't you value yourself much? Why would you dive into living with a guy and risking everything? Don't you realize that being confident, smart, and pretty as possible will lead you to the land of opportunity? It's a little hard to get to Opportunity when you first have to climb out of a rut you got yourself into.

Answer 3

Slow down little girl! Yes, I did say little girl. I know you don't think you are but take it from someone who made a lot of mistakes at that age, you are a little girl. I kept telling my mom that if she didn't let me get married at 16 I would get pregnant and she would have to let me. So she finally gave in and I got what I thought I wanted. I got a 17 year old kid and then I did get pregnant and had a baby by the time I was 17. I really thought he was the love of my life but really he was more screwed up than I was. How long do you think this will last? Young love is a learning experience but not something to put your whole heart and soul into because this will not be the love of your life. Don't even focus on him for awhile but learn about yourself. Find out why you want to do this. Do you think it will make you more mature. Well, you're right, you will have to grow up really fast. Too fast! And you think it's going to be so fun to cook, clean, do laundry, worry about bills, all those things you don't know how to do yet. You have a whole lifetime to be a grown up so enjoy being a kid as long as you can. Do you want me to tell you how much fun it was being a welfare mom trying to take care of a kid and go to school while he was gone off with the next pretty girl who was not sick in the mornings and getting fat around the middle? This guy is nothing but a blip on your life's radar screen. When you are really grown up you will wish someone had slowed you down until you could make good choices like college. You could have so much fun the next few years. I know this is not what you want to hear and nine changes out of ten you won't listen to me because we all have to make our own mistakes but I wish you could live in my mind for about an hour. Good luck and God bless. I hope your mom is tougher than mine was.

Answer 4

You are 16, and that makes you a minor. I think you should wait 2 more years before you decide to get married and move out. That way, you mother will not be able to object against your age or your decision to get married and move out.

By the way, getting married at your age may not be the best idea. There are many marriages that end in divorce because people think that getting married will solve all problems. In fact, the opposite is true - there are twice the problems when people get married - you have to be more responsible and be able to handle the trials and tribulations of life by yourself and together. And then your troubles will grow when you have children. If your 'husband' is not mature enough to handle child-birth, then you will have to handle the troubles alone. So, think carefully before you get into a serious relationship such as marriage. It's definitely not child's play.

Answer 5

howdy, your plans sound stunning. yet one element you would be able to desire to undergo in strategies is that even however you have this all planned out now - plenty can chang in 3 years. i would not difficulty approximately your mum, that's nonetheless a mutually as away so i'd basically shop telling her and at last while the time comes it won't come as a marvel to her b/c you will have been speaking and making plans it for soo long. In fairly some places the criminal age for shifting out of house is sixteen - do a splash learn on the internet. on the top of the day once you turn sixteen and in case you incredibly desire to go away then your mum and dad will no longer be able to bodily quit you. I moved out of domicile with my bf while i replace into 17... i admire my bf very plenty and we've an brilliant relationship, besides the undeniable fact that shifting outisnt all its cracked as much as be... that's incredibly high priced, and at considered one of those youthful age employers do no longer pay very plenty, so which you will kiss solid bye paying for new outfits, bags, footwear cuz you would be making barely sufficient to pay the lease and purchase the nutrition, and remeber you will even have charges coming in. the different element is, you do no longer likely comprehend somebody until you reside with them... yet do besides the fact which will make you happy :) solid good fortune with all of it and prefer i mentioned do no longer wprry approximately your mum for now!

Answer 6

Wow at what age did you meet? and do you know that it really is love? and how old is this guy? How does your mum feel about it all? First you should think of your mum, she raised you and probably also wants you to go through your teen years and enjoy them while you can, getting married and committed at a young age, you may find your not as happy later, men are sometimes in the same boat, he may feel he wants to marry you now- what if he decides he doesn't like it after all and decides to leave you, he might not like you when you grow up and mature more, your just a baby and you have to think on all sides and theres a lot of what ifs, you will grow up one day and may not be happy, then you will say I should have listened to them! Good luck on your decision anyway, lets hope you make a grown-up decision.

Answer 7

If I was your Mom, I would get you in my house so fast that your head would be spinning. What do you at sixteen know about Life? you are starting to live, why don't you enjoy your teen yrs. and meet not only this guy you want to live with, but other guys as well. Do you really think that you will be able to convince your Mother, to let you, go and live with this guy, I doubt it a lot. I got Married when I was sixteen but, there is a difference in you and me, because I got Married in the fifty's and back then a girl that was sixteen yrs. old had knowledge as to how to keep house, cook, and be at the beck and call of her husband. I still am that and much more, because most men do not grow up. if a girl wants to see her Marriage work, she has to put in more than fifty per cent, to the relationship. Do you know your boyfriend? and do you know his habits or if he is going to be the jealous type and would not let you go anywhere, unless it is with him. Think about it, do not believe that being together is going to be all you dreamed of it being. Reconsider your decision, and I hope that you would think long and hard about it.

Answer 8

You didn't say where you live. Where I live you have just described a case of statutory rape. Your fiance, or whatever you choose to call him, is guilty of rape, since you are 16. Your boyfriend would be in jail before sunset in my part of the world.

Instead of worrying about losing your relationship with your folks, why don't you focus on what's right with that relationship? There's also a quick way to tell if you are ready to move in with someone.....are you capable of paying all your own bills?

Third, you aren't old enough to move in with anyone yet, since you are asking "how can I make her say 'yes'?"
When you are truly mature enough, you don't need to ask your mom and dad for that type of thing. They would be more than happy to see you move somewhere if it would benefit you. Obviously, this is not the case right now.

Answer 9

As much as I hate to say this, cause I sound just like my mother, I'm going to anyway! At 16 you are not ready to live with anyone other than your parents or guardians. I left my mom's house, after much fighting when I was 17 to be with someone my mother didn't approve of. I just knew I was right and she was being overprotective. Turns out I was wrong. I didn't finish high school like I had planned, I got pregnant a year later, even though we were "careful" and I realized that after only two years I had made the biggest mistake of my life. The only good thing I got from it was my daughter. So please listen to advice of your mom she loves you more than you can imagine. Wait till you finish school, and have more time to make sure what you want out of life. Cause it only gets harder once you are on your own. Lots of luck sweetie.

Answer 10

I was in your situation years ago. I went with my emotion and married the guy. I was a mother at 17, and was divorced by the time my son was three. My father tried to tell me to wait, that I was young, that I didn't understand life yet. But, honestly, I remember thinking "you're old and you're just jealous that this is my life". How wrong I was...

Don't rush it! 16 is young, enjoy being young and free! Think about it, you could get pregnant, get an STD, and, at the very least, it will most likely end. You have soooo many years ahead of you, take it easy and enjoy your free years.

(And, in most states, having sex with a 16 year old is illegal.)

Answer 11

NO u should NOT move with this dude CUZ ur way 2 YOUNG and u don't know the real world yet!!!

OMFG!!!!!! 16!!!!! you're not even in college yet!!!

think about ur future and dont waste it on some dude that just asked u 2 marry him when you're only 16!!!

HOW LONG HAV U KNOWN THIS DUDE???!!!!!

think about your future kids, they'll hav a hard life cuz YOU wont earn enough money and i bet ur fiancee wont be so successful as u could hav been if u did go 2 college!

think about this whole marrying thing!!