We have been "dating" for about 3.5 years. I met her right after my wife and I split up. We've had a lot of fun together and GREAT SEX. but I don't feel like I'm in love with her and she is, although she won't say it. She had a bad marriage a while back and another bad relationship since. She refers to me as her boyfriend, but I have never acknowledged this or called her my girlfriend. I did go out with another woman during this time and now she won't trust me even tho' I have not done anything to make her think I've done anything qith anyone else since then. I can't seem to win. We "broke up" Saturday night, but she still calls me asking me to give her a reason to hate me since it would be easier. I don't hate her. What is this? Do I stay or is this a dead end? If I call her I'll end up telling her what she wants to hear just so I won't feel so bad. I will miss some things, but i won't miss the 20 questions. What do I do??
2007-02-11 11:35:37 · 12 answers · asked by Idunnowhy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Decide if you want to go on using her for great sex, even though you don't think of her as a gf nor do you love her. If you do, lie to her and tell you she's your gf and you love her.
If you don't feel okay about playing with her emotions, email her the exact question you have posted here--- That would be the honest thing to do.
You know it is a dead end--- If 3.5 years and great sex haven't done it for you, nothing is going to change. Give her a reason to hate you, if that is what she thinks she wants. Tell her the truth.
2007-02-11 11:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore of her time break up with her and do her a favor. The longer you put it off the more you are going to hurt her. She will be sad for a while but it will be worse if you wait. Aslo it is selfish to stay for the sex if you don't love her.
2007-02-11 19:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple enough. You want sex and a friend when you want it. She wants more. She is trying to get you to make a committment to be a couple. If you don't love her, tell her it's been fun but I am not the marrying type. Then leave her alone.
2007-02-11 19:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder if you love her.
Take a break to see how you feel.
2007-02-11 19:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go if you dont love her you will be hurting yourself and her dont answer her calls ignore her she will get the hint and leave you alone I hope .lol
2007-02-11 19:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants a reason to hate u then tell her u dont love her, just move on
2007-02-11 19:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already heading down the road, keep going.
2007-02-11 19:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep the whole relationship honest. tell her the truth that you don't feel the same way that she feels about you.
2007-02-11 19:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thatis confusing but just say im sorry i dont like you but i am still your friend
2007-02-11 19:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont love her leave her alone
2007-02-11 19:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋