Alright..At this moment in time, I don't quite like anyone. I'm looking for a serious relationship and willing to wait it out until the right guy comes. That is not my problem. My problem is as follows:
There are a few guys that come to mind which seem to fancy me. No outright like me as in they want to date me but fancy me. I don't like any of them back.
However, I still find it interesting to lead them on. I'll play nice and see if they do something for me and then be rude if they say a comment that I would normally wouldn't take offence to. I do this just for the heck of it - to see their reactions. To see how much I can manipulate them.
Sometimes I'll even be really flirty with a random guy cashier to see how he reacts. See if I can make him blush.
Is this a really bad thing? I do not do it often - it is not an every day thing. However, it is slightly addicting. It's nice when I'm "successful", as it were and manage to get my way.
If it's bad, how do I stop?
2007-02-11 11:28:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright then.. Since what comes around goes around, how do I stop?
2007-02-11 11:44:05 · update #1
It really does depend on what you are manipulating these men to do. If you are manipulating them to buy you expensive gifts that you never planning on using - then that is quite wrong. If you are manipulating them to buy you coffee - I don't see the harm.
However, you did admit that this is addicting. If it is not an every day thing, it could become one. I would stop yourself mid-way if you find yourself being really flirty. And do not even start flirting with say, the cashier.
It may be hard but it will be quite worth it. The above posters are right - what goes around comes around.
2007-02-11 11:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Basiate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should never manipulate anyone. Just remember what goes around comes around. If you treat men like this don't be surprised when you get hurt really badly by a guy. And when that happens don't say what did I do to deserve this? These guys that fancy you should know flat out you are not interested. Games are pathetic and you are playing them. You are not going ot get far in life that way.
2007-02-11 11:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that what you are doing its because women like to be admired by men!I think its alright to flirt .And I think its not a bad thing what you are doing
I myself am a girl and i feel really nice when boys fancy me and i like playing with boys although i ve got a stable relationship with a person i love and id never give up ....but its really nice to be admired isnt it and you feel really beautiful and powerful when you see you can manipulate men...
Just be careful not to hurt them because you wouldnt like to be hurt by a men that you fancy...
It alright to do it but dont be too mean to men!
Enjoy!
2007-02-11 11:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Neacsu v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never lead anyone on that you like them if you don't how would you feel if someone did that to you and it was some one you really liked and had feelings for but they didn't have feelings for you they were just goofing off to see how you would react.think about it.
2007-02-11 11:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide if you think its bad or not --- and perhaps one day this will backfire and someone you think you dont care for will suddenly become important to you just after you blow them off --- you have control -- if you dont want to do it any more dont do it --- best wishes
2007-02-11 11:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋