What are some of the unforseen or most dramatic changes (positive, challenging, negative, joys) that parenthood has brought to various aspects of your lives and realtationships? Thank you this information will be used in a school project...
2007-02-11 11:19:20 · 8 answers · asked by Licha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There have been plenty of cliches that I have encountered but when you actually face them yourself it almost comes as a surprise.
Everyone tells you that the moment a baby is born is a miracle. My first baby was born after hours and hours and hours of labor and I was fairly well medicated - even still it was the most amazing miraculous moment of my life. Just before the birth of my second child I was worried that I might not be able to love this child as much as I did my first child (who I adored). But the second delivery was very smooth and almost easy in comparison and the split second that my second child was born it was truly the most amazing feeling. A wave came over me - it was clear that this child was his own special self with his own personality.
When I was about to go into the hospital with my third I thought to myself that this would be old news...fairly routine...after all I had already had two children. I was pretty sure I was prepared for what was ahead. And even though it was a relatively simple delivery it was still the most amazing and miraculous moment when she was placed in my arms for the first time.
One more miracle and we decided that was enough.
Flash forward 18 years. Another cliche. The beginning of the empty nest. My oldest is heading out for college. I haven't quite resolved all my feelings about this but it has caught me by surprise a little that even though I had several years warning that this was going to happen I still don't know exactly how to deal with it.
So, ultimately I would say the most dramatic changes that parenthood has brought are those moments of release. The moment they left my body and the moment they step out the door to move out into the world on their own. Both miraculous, thrilling and preceded by great apprehension.
2007-02-11 14:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Stayathomemom.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 20 I moved to Las Vegas after ending a long time relationship with my husband. While I was there I started doing drugs and drinking alot. I was there for 6 months and decided that I would move back to my home state. When I got back i could not shake my bad habits. Through the course of my partying I almost overdosed 3 times. But for some reason I did not care I just continued to party anyways. Well, on October 10th I found out that I was pregnant. That was what I needed. My daughter saved my life. If it had not been for her I probably would not be alive today. Kids can be a very big blessing when you are least expecting it. She is now 21 months and she is the love of my life! I am now remarried to a navy man who just adores his little girl too!
2007-02-11 19:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children has really put a positive outlook in life for me. I feel like I am motivated by my kids to do better and work harder at everything I do such as school and work. I have seen my husband's positive effects of having kids too, as soon as we had our first child, he got a great job and worked so hard, and it was just amazing what motivation kids put on you. There is really no negative effects, just maybe too much money spending and time, but the time you spend with your kids are always cherished. Having kids has also improved our marriage and keep us together through those hard times when we just want to part. We think about our kids and then our problem just seems so little. Sex has lessen because there just never seems like a good time to do it anymore. I recommend everyone to have kids because they are the greatest joy of your life.
2007-02-11 19:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by whateva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never knew love like this- it is a wholly different experience. Everything I do, say, feel, is a direct result of my having kids. I want them to have the best that life has to give and I am challenged everyday to set a good example for them. I need to take care of myself (never a high priority before!) so that I can take care of them. Whenever, I feel like being lazy, I jerk myself back into reality, because I am Mommy now. I must be responsible 24/7. Those little ears and minds sure do process alot! The downside of course is the balancing act- trying to make time for their father and your friends. It's tough, but as long as you can keep in mind that you also owe your children a well balanced mommy, you have the motivation to do it.
2007-02-11 23:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by sophialrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never did I ever expect to love someone so absolutely completely. Having children is hard---it's the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, and yet it brings me more joy than I ever thought I could ever feel. That in it of itself is pretty amazing.
My life has taken on so much more value than I ever thought possible because I know how important I am to my children. I take care of myself, don't take chances, etc. because not only do I want to be here to see my children grow up, but because I cannot bear to think about what it would do to them to grow up without their mom.
I never expected to be so fearful of the world. I have a new awareness of the evil that is present in our world, and it chills me to my very core at times. A news story about a missing child will keep me from sleeping at night. Someone once said that having children is like letting your heart walk around outside of your body. You are forever vunerable, forever wanting to protect them..... I pray a lot more.
2007-02-11 19:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by josie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THe best thing and a the thing that made me realize that I was really a parent was when my 15 month old told me "Mommy you are beautiful" and I was in my pj's and just woke up smelly,. etc. She was so sincere! The other thing was when we ventured out for the first time and someone approached me and asked if I was Julia's mom. I said yes and realized this is real! The most heartbreaking is when you have to tell them no for their own good. It breaks your heart.
2007-02-11 19:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most drastic change is the fact that for most people it's when they finally care more for someone else than themselves.
2007-02-11 20:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by elmar66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they'll pretend to love you for a while. Then they'll hate you, and steal your money
2007-02-11 19:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋