Do you think people throw the term 'abusive' around too much?

Question

My mother will make comments such as 'someone could report you for taking your daughter to work for that evening shift'. (I only took her to work for a 3 months stint in between babysitters.. maybe a total of 10 shifts). I asked a question on here and I had alot of positive repsonses.. and then one where someone said 'that is neglect and abuse' Is it just me, or are people throwing that word around too much? It almost makes you scared to talk about parenting unlesss someone disagrees with your style. When I was a kid there was no car seats. All of the famers left their kids in the house for hours to do chores. So many of our generation were spanked until bruised and scared of our parents. So many things have changed and their are so many rules, I am afraid of breaking one and getting reported because I didn't know about some new 'abuse'. What happened to parenting being common sense?

Answer 1

i do think sometimes it can be used to loosely. Unless you work at a chemical plant or something of that caliber I wouldn't think it was abusive. Some parents have little to no support or help when it comes to child care. Using good judement about when and where to take and leave your child should always been done with the best concern and safety of the child.

There are some parents that are just neglectful and naive to parenting commonsense and do's and dont's.

Use your best judgement and hope everything works out well.

Answer 2

I grew up in a house well- without going into to many details, but basically I had one parent who abused me, and I mean abuse, such as being burned on the arm with an iron for leaving it plugged in, one time I fell asleep "too early" (I was sick) and was tied up in my sleep, then beat & kicked down a staircase, I could go on and on... my other parent was military and not in town a lot, but when I didn't do chores, back-talked, etc. I got spankings, and that was NOT abuse. Anyway, my situation was complicated, however as a mother now, I do intend to spank, and I think it's crazy when people call spanking and similar actions abuse. If my child runs in the street after I tell her no, I am going to spank. And if she back talks me as a teenager (more than shut- up) then she will get slapped. I think anyone who thinks those things are abuse ought to be left alone with an angry drunk 3 times their size for a couple hours so they can learn what abuse is.

Answer 3

People throw abuse out there WAY to much. WHen you think of abuse you think of physially hurting someone. Yes you can damage a child by not hugging them, telling them you love them and wahat not but that would be classififed as neglect. Like the spanking thing. That is CRAZY!!!!! That is why this generation of kids is soooo crazy is because mainly parents dont care. Some of the stuff that I see kids doing I wouldnt of even thought of or else I would of been spanked hard. I agree with spanking. I think is shows the children that you are in control, but also you need to explain to your children why you spanked them and tell them you love them afterwards. Just go with it honey! There will always be someone who thinks that it is okay (for example) If a child hits you, as in the child MEANT to hit you on purpose. There will alqays be someone who is crazy enough to think that they shouldnt spank them.

Answer 4

Take a look around. The world is in the toilet. The parents of the previous generation obvious didn't do such a sterling job.

Answer 5

You're right, there's alot of stupid people out there who don't use common sense when parenting. I think abuse can be the parent never hugs their child more than one who takes their child to work with them.

Answer 6

It's way overused. It brings attention to the most trivial items.

It's neutered most parents and created a society of children that have no respect for authority.

Answer 7

Yes I do.

Answer 8

no- in fact many people arent aware all of the aspects of abuse and how damaging it is-- its too bad people arent more away of the MANY forms of abuse.