my girlfriend slept with some guy!! wut should I do?

Question

my girlfriend and I went out for 8 years N we had a 6 years old kid. Couple months ago I find out my girlfriend slept with some guy 3 years ago N they slept twice, but she told me they didn't have sex, the second night they were all drunk N sleep together. I don't know should I believe her or not. She told me the reason why she do that cuz I always miss around with gurls N don't care about her. but she don't gotta sleep with guy rite. I don't know wut to do man.. Can yall gave me some advise. THANK YOU

Answer 1

This happened three years ago. It's the past. Let by gones be by gones. Focus on your relationship now and your child together. Don't dwell on the past and resent her for it...it's long been done and over.

Answer 2

In the first place, she needs to be sleeping at home, not around with other guys. She has not business in the same bed with one , much less this. Cheating is cheating, no way to sugar coat it. You two really need to get some counseling and understanding for the sake of the child. The child needs both parents. Will take a lot of love and understanding, but the child is worth the time to straighten things out. I would not continue to put up with type actions from her , but since this was 3 yrs ago, and she has not done it again, why bring it up now after all these years. You could be making her feel insecure in the relationship by messing around, as you called it, with other girls. You need to stop this also. Sounds to me like you intentionally try to piss her off, so stop being a jerk, be a man, leave the other girls alone, built a more secure relationship, or one day, she may decide that if you want them other girls and cannot stay away from them, then you can have them, and she will be gone for good.

Answer 3

First of all, you both need to make up your mind that you are going to be faithful to each other. Apparently, by your own words, you are not being 100% faithful to her. So, I think you should both sit down and have a serious and mature talk. You have a child. You need to think of this child's welfare and future. You also need to learn to spell and learn how to use proper English grammar. As far as forgiving her? I think it would be best for 3 reasons, one you are guilty of worse, two, she is the mother of your child and you supposedly love her, three, this incident happened three years ago and it is in the past. It is over. Forgive her, move on with allowing your relationship to be healthy and raise your child in a loving and healthy environment and get married. Statistics show that unmarried couples with children more often than not end up in divorce. You don't want your child to grow up dysfunctional, do you?

Answer 4

If you dont think she'll change or you cant trust her I'd break up with her if I were you. But if you still really want to be with her, you're both gonna have to be honest and get the truth out there about what you and her both have done in the past. Then come up with some solutions as to how you're going to do things differently in the future and what you guys want in a relationship. You're also going to have to work at learning to trust each other again. If there's still love there you can do it, but if it's too much for you to deal with just end it so you can start fresh.

Answer 5

Well the fact that she feels that way tells me that you're doing something wrong, obviously you two aren't as "committed" to each other as you thought. It was a long time ago and you need to do what's in the best interest of the child. The child needs both of you, so what you do is stop flirting with other women and make her feel loved. You need to spend all your free time together until you both learn to be mature and control yourself. Good luck!

Answer 6

Are you one of those molesters or something did you sleep with someone like a little boy or some defenseless gay man? Any way what it is a failure to communicate and life takes a lustful turn a "bam" you find yourself in a victim reck. Look out cause Karma is coming to take you to the funny farm have a good trip! and watch out for dogmas they bite.

Answer 7

Lets see, she's not married, her bf is flirting with other girls when we have a KID, yeah, I might not have the guts to, but I'd cheat on you too.

#1 Don't get back at her, then it will just go back and fourth, think of your kid! Is this how you want him brought up?

#2 SOMEBODY has to admit they were being stupid or it WILL continue. Admitting it sucks and all, but atleast it'll all be over right?

#3 Do something REALLY special for her this valentines day, I'm not saying propose right off the bat, just something to let her know that she's yours and you are hers. (and for heavans sake, don't go for the classic chocolates and flowers, MIDDLE SCHOOLERS do that, and they have like, what? 1-week relationships?)

#4 Good luck romeo!

Answer 8

I don't know about you, but I think trust is a MAJOR part of a relationship. How can you guys be together if neither one of you trust eachother?
I think the best thing for you to do is sit down with your girlfriend and have a VERY long talk. Bring out everything in the open. . .clear up what she thinks you have done in the past and what she has done. If you guys can't put the past in the past and move forward with ultimate trust. . . . .then you shouldn't be together. . .not even for the kids sake.

I wish you luck....

Answer 9

obvisouly you and your girlfriend must really have a special connection. You even have a child. This really puts you in a very akward position. You have to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone you can't trust. How do you know if she's not going to do it again. But if your really in love with her you have to make sure that you can trust her and you have to be able to forgive her for her mistakes otherwise you relationship will be very hard and will put both of you in a very complicated situation

Answer 10

Think about your 6 year old child. Are you having a troubled relationship?? Try and figure out why she would need anyone else but you. Maybe its something youve done, and maybe its something you can do. I know some women always depend on a man for something. and when one man cant do- she sometimes relies on another.