I have allways maintained my responsibilties and live somewhat of middle class lifestyle. My goal in life right now is to stop my addiction I have been in out of rehabs. My hooker girl freind is awesome person when she is not using and I love her very much and dont want to end the relationship. She tries to do the right thing in life but ever time she uses she abuses me and wants to go back to prostitution. We live in the country now but i am looking for a place in the city because of my work. Should I plan the move with her or without her? This move will put her in a about a not even a 2 mile distance from where she work the street as a prostitute.
2007-02-11 10:54:04 · 19 answers · asked by parkavemike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to figure out what is the most important thing in your life right now. any successful recovering addict knows that staying clean and sober is a priority above EVERYTHING else. if that prostitute is a threat to your sobriety then stay away from her. if you cant stay clean and sober for yourself then you cant help anybody else.
by the way it is very dangerous for two addicts to try and get clean together because if one falls off the wagon the other usually follows. if i were you i would get farther than 2 miles away from her.
2007-02-11 10:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need rehab. You need someone postitive in your life and she is not working out. She wants to go back to prostitution? What the hell!!! If you ever dream of having a family or having a wife that will be faithful and true to you then she is not going to be the one that is going to make that happen. If it is really love and not just sex then both of you get help but you don't want to go through the rest of your life being addicts together because you will die young or feel really bad when you are old with all sorts of medical problems. Good luck!
2007-02-11 11:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. If you are going to plan the move around her, you want to have a stable relationship. One where she isn't abusing you. You seem to be taking responsibility for your addiction, and even though you say she tries to stop, she really needs more help. If she isn't already, get her in rehab. Your relationship will be 20 times better if she is herself all the time, and not high for a day and cool the next.
2007-02-11 11:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound cool, because you want to DO something with your life, and not most addicts are up to that. now, about your girlfriend.... be straight with her. tell her straight out, "if you keep doing this, you'll be on the streets for the rest of your life, and when you get old, you cant prositute like you use to." if you love her, you will help her out, and that means being real. not brutally real, and dont scare her away. just tell her straight out, and give her some time to think of what you said. and move without her if you can, because that shows she can't run you when shes using any more. Stay tough! Stay strong! Fight the addiction!
2007-02-11 11:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by bugsandtweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been in treatment programs then you know all too well that they emphasize over and over again that you are not ready for a relationship until you have a minimum of a year clean and the same goes for your partner. It sound to me like you are heading down a path of self destruction.
2007-02-11 11:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I looked at your previous questions. You, sir, are a mess. Hang on to the prostitute, shes the best thing you've got going.
2007-02-11 10:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you accept it every time she goes to prostitution, she will continue to do it. You have to stand up and tell her that you are NOT going to continue the relationship with her if she does this and mean it. If she doesn't stop, she probably never will.
2007-02-11 14:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by good_girl_no_more 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix your addiction problem first. She's either with you or she ain't.
If she isn't willing to give up her "job" and using, then she will continue to drag you down with her.
It seems cruel and selfish to put "me first", but in the end all you have to rely on is yourself.
2007-02-11 11:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by imjustsomeguy001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant help her if your busy trying to help yourself. I think you should make the move alone but try to keep the relationship going. Save yourself. You know it wont work taking her along. Sad but true.
2007-02-11 10:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, do you want to put your addiction behind or not.
If you do, move on without her. Otherwise she's coming with you.
When have you been tested for HIV?
2007-02-11 10:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋