the real deal, I never thought it possible but here we are. The problem I have is that I initially started to talk to him online, i dont condemn those who do this but it is not smthing I ever thought I would do, if i am honest I always thought it was a little sad. But here I am in love with this guy, things are going great he has met my dad (first ever guy) & all my family i have met his, he even asked my dad for my hand (old fashoned I know) anyway we have been planning our future, but i recently found out he seems to have had a couple of relationships online in the past, and this bothers me I know we all have a past i know i do. but i made him promise to delete or block this one particular girl (coz I actually know her) and he hasnt im a bit hurt by it all and dont know what to do, do i trust him is he for real or how do i know. I as he is am very jealous and he has promised me that he only talks to me but I dont like the fact he chats on the net fall stop please help me :(
2007-02-11 10:31:36 · 10 answers · asked by Lanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lanny,I've gone through the same thing-I've been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 years,and recently found out he was chatting to women from a singles site. He resigned from the site and promised to tell the women he was chatting to the truth and stop talking to them-I have no proof,but I'm certain he hasn't. He claims to love me and want me in his life-and stupid me loves him. But I'm not taking this anymore. He either comes clean or I'll have to walk away. As far as I'm concerned,he's cheating on me.
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2007-02-11 22:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the early stages of relationships it's easy to bypass things because you don't want to be seen making a fuss over nothing, when really it is something. The fact that you are questioning it says something. quite often your senses are right. after all if that's where you met it's understandable that your concerned. If you have already asked him not to talk to her and he hasn't blocked her then that's not a good sign. If you mean anything to him then that's not a lot to ask. remember you've only been together for 9 months n although it seems like a long time, it's nothing compared to spending the rest of your life with someone you cant trust. don't rush into anything he maybe the first guy to meet your dad but he doesn't necessarily need to be the only. good luck babe x
2007-02-11 11:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by skinyfrog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This clearly upsets you so tell him that if he wants to continue with your relationship then he should remove his email contacts.
If he is true to you then he will see that you are hurt by it & he will stop.
If not find someone who you can be sure will be faithful.
Relationships will only work with 100% trust on both parties.
I hope that this works out for you both.
2007-02-11 12:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really stopped he will most likely spend more time with u! Maybe try chekin his history on the computer!
2007-02-11 10:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you both all the luck in the world..........wouldnt trust him as far as i could throw him.. he probably has 7 different identities on line ........ set at honey trap .. i would... pretent to be someone else and give him the come on then you will see for sure xx
2007-02-11 10:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by tikketiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must trust him --- im in the same situation --- more complicated with age and distance --- and i trust my lady completely --- she may have doubts about me so i just make sure i never betray her --- i would never cheat on her ---- and yes i have met ladies online before --- best wishes
2007-02-11 10:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If theres no trust in the relationship, it is doomed.
2007-02-11 10:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distrust, either based on fact or not, is trouble. And have you asekd him why he won't block her?
2007-02-11 10:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to bed as much as you can for 90 days and get back to us
2007-02-11 10:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadley it can become a habit. if he wont stop contacting these other friends i would call it a day
2007-02-11 10:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋