How to ask a guy out???

Question

I am so shy and my friends are trying to get him to ask me out but they have no time along to ask him? I like him so much and I even think about him 24/7. We talk sometime but not alot. Everyboby think we would make a good girlfriend and boyfriend!!!!!!! I need help NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Be in the right place. It's best to ask someone out in person, so you've got to make sure to be where the guy you have a crush on is.

This could be at the mall, the movies, or maybe at the baseball field if he's an athlete. You don't want to look like a stalker, but you do want to be able to talk to him.

Take the intiative. Unfortunately, many guys are too afraid to walk up to a girl and ask her out. Take matters into your own hands.

Walk up to him slowly and introduce yourself.

Try not to do this if he's extremely busy, but at the same time, don't let the opportunity to talk to him pass you by just because you're nervous. If he seems receptive when you introduce yourself, keep on talking to him.

Make small talk with him. Break the ice by commenting on something he's wearing or saying something about the place or event you're at. Just try to get him to feel comfortable around you.

Make eye contact with him. While the two of you are talking, make eye contact and try to hold it for just a little longer than you normally would--just two or three seconds. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you.

Make sure he's not looking at you because you're doing something extremely weird or because he is the cashier.

Commence flirting. This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you're interested.

Sometimes you can flirt from afar and entice him to come over to you.

Ask him non-intrusive questions about himself, such as what kinds of things he likes to do, what his favorite kind of food is, or if he likes to play sports.

By asking harmless little questions you can find out more about him to determine if you really want to ask him out, and you might find out if he has a girlfriend. You can also set the conversation up to ask him out.

Ask him out. Once you find something you both have in common, ask if he'd like to do it together sometime. If you don't succeed in finding something you have in common, you might not really find him that interesting, but if you want to take a chance, just let him know that you'd like to hang out with him again.

If he says no, or if he seems like he needs more time, don't get too upset; always say you can just be friends if that's what he wants.

Chances are, he'll change his mind. Guys do this a lot. Whatever you do, don't trash him to others; it makes you look bad.
If he says yes, then plan where and when you will go out, and don't forget to have fun. Since you asked, you should pay for the date, unless he insists.



Tips
On the day you plan to ask the guy out, make sure to wear an outfit that gives you confidence. This will make you much more comfortably and give you the courage to make your move.

Remember, you have nothing to be nervous about. Guys typically love being asked out, since they're the ones usually doing all the work in these situations.

If you have the opportunity to find out beforehand if he has a girlfriend, it might save you some time. You could talk to his friends or even just ask him. Don't ever be afraid to talk to your crush.

When you ask him about himself, act like you're genuinely interested, and pay attention to his answers, even if you're just leading up to asking him out. Don't ask him questions as though you're interrogating him. Have a conversation, not an interview.

Don't assume that he's not interested or that he's less of a man just because he didn't make the first move or because he doesn't hold your eye contact at first. He might be taken, or he might be shy or think you're "out of his league."

Always smile, it shows that you're confident.

Since you're being a non-traditional woman, you may want to consider a non-traditional date. Many if not most guys would appreciate a hiking trip, swim and sauna, sports event, or video game showdown as a first date. Sometimes competitive and/or physical activities get a man's blood flowing.

Applying a little lip gloss or even chapstick right before you go to introduce yourself can make your lips look more attractive and give you more confidence. After all, you're going to be talking face-to-face.

Warnings
Some girls try to get guys to ask them out by making them jealous or playing hard to get. This can backfire because the guy could give up or get annoyed by your tactics. The best approach is to be honest and straightforward about your feelings.

Don't be too aggressive. Assertiveness is attractive, but hostility is not.

Even if you have asked a guy out, it does not mean you are obligated to do anything you don't want to on the date. If you ever feel uncomfortable, get out of the situation right away.

If he's "famous" amongst your friends, don't brag about him getting your number. Bragging is a turn-off.

Some guys already have a girlfriend, so you're probably better off staying away. Others may just be getting over a breakup, so be understand that he may not be ready to go on a date or, conversely, he may just be looking for a rebound girl.

Don't just ask a guy out so that you can have a boyfriend. Find a guy you really, truly like.

Answer 2

Make it a point to be somewhere he is...and asked him a riddle.
Let me asked you a question, and I want to really think hard beore you anwered it. Do red, green and purple olives come from the same tree? If he says yes, reward him with your phone number as the prize and tell him that you want to take him for a hamburger because he is so smart. If he says no, you say let go to the library or to my house to look it up on my computer. (Watch your safety -- always make it a neutral place.

Results: A- Get him all to yourself
B- YOu are not too pushy or wasy
C- You do a good deed and have fun educating someone.

Answer 3

It's rare for a girl to ask a guy out, but I'm almost too sure that a guy would accept a date from a girl. Go for it, even if he does reject you, don't take it personally. You won't regret asking him out anymore than not asking him at at all. I think I would like it if a girl asked me out because it shows me she's bold.

Answer 4

go up to him, and drop your pants.

nah, just kiddin, unless of course it works, okay, well, what works best for me, is to do things when im "out of it", meaning, i only get about 3 hours of sleep the night before i do something nerveracking. that way, when the deed is done, you can go home and collapse in your bed and forget it ever happend- you see how this would work?

or you could do it the old fashioned way, go up, blush a lot, and ask him ; )

Answer 5

Have him give u his email address and then ask him online. You wont have to face him and if he turnd u down u could say that it was ur bratty little sister playing a prank on u and that u dont really like him like that! Email me to tell me how it went i want to kno every juciy detail!! [e-mail]

Answer 6

really, just do it. i would actually love for a girl to ask me out, i think it shows alot. most girls i know dont open up, so if a girl was to ask me out, i would be quite flattered. if you think its worth it in the long run, do it. the worse thing that could happen is that he would say no..and if he does, you just move on.

Answer 7

do your school work get straight A's.you might make a fool of yourself going to ask him out.Just have fun fantisizing about him.Go to college be a doctor or something worry about a boyfriend then.boyfriends are too stressfull.

Answer 8

if ur afraid to tell him how u feel, write him a note........the worst thing he could say is no. my fave way of asking is to give him a pencil inscripted with "will u go out with me?", but hey, valentines day is coming up.......

Answer 9

tell him that you like him if he likes you he will ask you out

Answer 10

teal him if he is a good boy you will treat real good!!