so my best friend is scaring me!
theres this guy that she really liked he was deciding between her and this other girl... he chose the other girl and now she thinks shes fat and ugly..when shes really not. i was glad he didnt chose her because all he wanted from her was sex but now shes a mess..shes drinking thinking it will solve her problems.. talking about getting surgery when she turns legal age and lypo but there really isnt any fat to take away! she going to take diet pills and im afraid shes gonna kill herself without knowing it.. cause pills and alcohol dont mix good. what should i do??????
i have already tried to talk her out of it..told her how stupid she was being and no one else really knows..
2007-02-11 10:16:38 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ha ha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her Mom......let her know whats going on....it's not ratting when it's something involving her well being....that's what a true good friend would do!!!!
2007-02-11 10:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue being a friend to her and reassuring her that she is fine and dont need it. But, in the meantime.....make her get out with u. Take her places where she can mingle with other singles and possibly meet another guy. Once she becomes interested in someone else and he in her, she will be automatically cured.
Dont let her sit at home and sulk over him. Demand she goes with u. I had to do it with a friend of mine. She was so depressed but as soon as she seen that other guys found her attractive, she turned back into the old Diane.
So, be a friend, and get her out. She will thank u for it in the longrun.
You are a good friend. Hats off to u. Good luck.
2007-02-11 18:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you will NEVER be able to control other people. So, it's up to her to change her life and thoughts. You can however, introduce her to REAL men who love her for who she is. A rebound is the best way to get over an old flame.
There are millions of guys for her to choose from. She has to LOVE herself, to show others how she wants to be loved. It's much deeper than this guy, she must accept herself for who she is and be thankful that she can still walk, see, and talk. Some people don't have those luxuries.
2007-02-11 18:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by ReplicantZer0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call alanon they help you deal with friends with this kind of drinking problem, they can help you with that. You could also get infomation on drinking and taking pills and give it to her. You should try to build up her confidence. Also get infomation on anorexia and find out the symptoms it sounds like you should try to get your friend to go to couselling and tell her you will go with her. Tell her she is a good person and that guy was just an a***hole and not to worry there are a lot of men out there that thinks she is pretty. Take care Heather
2007-02-11 18:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her to move the heck on their is more fishes in the sea. Tell her it was only one guy and he wasn't worth 2 cents. Let her know that he only wanted sex. Tell her she is very pretty and has a great body and that she will find another guy that she will like and he will like her.
2007-02-11 18:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by HatersEnvyMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your her friend and this may sound cheesy but it really is the best thing to do if reaching out to her isn't working then you should really talk to an authority like her parents. she may get mad but it sounds like a really dyer situation. just think if she hurts herself and you knew the whole time and didn't tell anybody. you'd feel horrible.
2007-02-11 18:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by DancerKP27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find some things to distract her. Take her places she can possibly meet a new guy. Her pain will ease with time.
2007-02-11 18:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling her she is stupid does not help im afraid --- she needs to build her confidence up and love herself (if she cant love herself who else will??) ---- other people need to know so they can show her she is a beautiful person and deserves much more than this guy could offer ---- best wishes to her and you
2007-02-11 18:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres nothing you really can do if she wont try and doesnt want to because you can only get her out of it if SHE wants to
i mean yea you cant talk to her and stuff and try to take it away from her but she can still get it some way
2007-02-11 18:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urge her to talk to her doc, a school counselor, or a preacher. Assure her that her stuff will remain confidential and that no one will judge her.
2007-02-11 18:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋