My mom said she would never ever touch another drop of alchohol in her life. She was doin pretty darn good for awhile but then one day when my friend was over she bought a big old bottle of vodka and gulped it down in 2 days. I warned her I would run away if she didnt stop drinking. Then guess what? she bought another big old bottle of Vodka. When she does this I feel like i need to beat the crap out of her. I tried everything i could think of. She goes to AA meetings but those just tempt her to drink more. She has 2 DUI's already but those didnt change anything. She get so freakin mean when shes drunk and im really worried about her sometimes when this happens to her. I need to do something to help but I can think of nothing that will stop. OK i mean beer once and a while I can stop that becuz its not so bad. But Vodka? VODKA!!!!! I need to stop it. I mean NEEEEED!!! Can anyone that ever helped their mom to stop a problem in drinking or helped stop any kind of problem?Can you help me?
2007-02-11 10:09:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
Try sitting down and having a daughter/mother talk with her.
Tell her exactly what your feelings are concerning her drinking.
What you previously threatened about running away was a big minus for you.
Threats usually end up being empty.
Being honest and upfront usually brings the better results.
2007-02-11 10:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your biggest challenge is not to fall into the same trap. I'm sure you feel like the parent, and feel as though she is the child. That is a lot of pressure for you. Stay away from her when she becomes mean. All the advice about Ala/Teen is excellent. Go for it. It may not help your Mom, but it will definitely help you.
I'm sure you've thought of this on your own, but you must think of yourself first, in this situation. Your mom is probably beyond help at this point. If you can get out of the situation, it will be better for you. It's obvious you love her, but she's too wrapped up in her need for alcohol to even realize she has other responsibilities.
You'll notice that everyone here is very concerned about you. You need to find someone in your area you can trust and go to with your problem. How old are you? Email me or IM me.
2007-02-12 05:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say your mum needs to get to this point for herself. It's the nature of an addiction, people usually have to get to the lowest of the low to finally admit they have a problem and need help to recover. Another answer has suggested writing a letter to your mum and I think this is a very good idea. My main concern is for you, you need some support, it's very hard to cope on a daily basis with an alcoholic. Try to confide in a adult you trust, maybe a school teacher and this may also serve to be the wake up call your mum needs to stop drinking. all the very best.
2016-03-29 02:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Chinese have a saying that the best cure for drunkenness is to observe a drunken person when you are sober. If you could show your mom some people who are pickled - or film her when she's one-over-eight - perhaps seeing the kind of behavior drunkenness brings on will help her see the light, and at least get her on the road out of lushdom.
My great-grandmother was a terrible drunkard. My paternal grandfather loved booze, but thinking about what it did to his mother kept him from becoming a boozehound.
2007-02-11 12:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Killertiel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has a disease called Alcoholism. Unfortunately, no matter how much you plead, beg, or threaten, it won't stop her from continuuing to drink. Alcoholism is a disease of the soul and also creates a physical addiction. Children that grow up in alcoholic families are often neglected, beaten and/or sexually abused. They become depressed, anxious, and frightened. They can become preoccupied with trying to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, but to no avail. You didn't say how old you are, but there are 12 Step meetings for kids who are struggling with what you are too. They're called Ala-Teen. Please find a trusted adult to talk about this with. If you are 12 or over you can find your own therapist without your parent's permission. You can also call Child Protective Services if your mother is neglecting or hurting you physically. Please let someone know what's going on! And please know that you aren't alone.
2007-02-11 10:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you go to Alateen, you will work the program, the 12 steps and begin to realize it is NOT YOU that will get your mom to stop drinking.
Please give it some time, and do some reading, an AA therapist might be of help also.
good luck
2007-02-11 10:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are I would go to Child Youth And Family and report her neglect of you and for herself, perhaps when the authorities step in and take you off her she may turn herself around but unfortunately people that drink alot won't do much until they hit rock bottom.
Do you have Grandparents or other relatives you can stay with?
2007-02-11 10:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by thunderbird 2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you need talk to her about your opinion and say her need change her behaviors because the alcohol is no good for her and say her you don t like which she drink alcohol and show her you are in trouble for her
2007-02-11 10:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way is for her to want to stop
2007-02-11 14:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Hector 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she most likely has an AA Sponsor.
could you call the sponsor?
2007-02-11 10:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by deco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋