Why do some people decide NOT to have children?

Question

I would like to know what are some reasons that many people are choosing NOT to have children....why? And what influenced your desicion. Thanks I am writing a paper about this...

Answer 1

Some people don't want to bothered with the burden. Children take up so much time and money. Some people just aren't going to sacrifice what they have for someone else. Then there are people that are scared to the point that they would be too anxious about " did I or did I not do this right" Then there are people like me that have a child that has a disability and may not want to bring another child into the world that would not have a good quality of life. And last but not least there are people that simply know they cannot afford to care for a child. I really appreciate these people because that's one less unwanted, uncared for child that will not be left up to stranger to take care of.

Answer 2

Well, first of all some people just don't because it never happened like they never had the right time to, maybe with a career or school or relationships not working out. As far as choosing not to..I think it's just a choice...can be determined by the amount of money it costs to raise a child and all the heartache that can come of it and emotional rollercoasters it can bring. Some people just don't see it as something that fits into their life...they have other goals I guess. I don't know I'd be interested in what you find because for me personally I can't wait to have children and the fact that I want to has already led to me picking a career that can work well with raising a family. I think there is alot that goes into the choice. Good luck with your paper.

Answer 3

A lot of people these days are looking at the world as a whole, how bad things are getting with the crime problem and all of these kids being abducted. I am a parent of a 22 and 17 year old and when they were little, I kept a tight rein on them and kept a good watch on them. It is a hard job to raise children - it was back then and I know it has to be harder now. Plus considering the cost of raising a child from birth to college - I think they estimated to be in the 100,000 or more range.

Answer 4

Because we have gotten used to having a certain "lifestyle" where we have the freedom to get up and go anytime we want, to sleep in every weekend, to have our lives revolve around ourselves and not someone else and we also like to be able to spend the money that we earn on ourselves and not be in the poorhouse for the rest of our lives.

I am not saying that it is bad to have kids, but I don't think that anyone can disagree that parents sacrifice a lot, if not everything for their kids. Good on them, if that's their choice. But I wonder how many parents end up resenting their kids, especially when some of these kids grow up to appreciate absolutely NOTHING that they've been provided with. Just that thought alone prevents me from wanting kids. Having a baby is very appealing, but it doesn't take long for the babies to grow up. And you just never know what you're going to end up with. I've seen a lot of parents haunted by kids with behavioural problems, anger problems, mental illness, drugs. And I live in a relatively "respectable / well - off" area.

I have no doubts that I would make a great parent if I chose to have kids, but I would rather just enjoy other people's kids and be able to give them back at the end of the day.

Answer 5

Some people arent meant to be parents, and some just don't want children. Sometimes it's the thought of pain of childbirth makes them hold off for so long sometimes its too late. Maybe they had a rough childhood and didn't grow up in a loving relationship with their parents and they think the same thing is going to happen. Everyone is different. Some people want a child some don't.

Answer 6

I dont have children mostly because I'm not married, but I have been dating the same girl for almost 2 years now and I am thinking about proposing to her. Reasons why other people wouldnt have kids. Probably they dont have the money or they dont want the responsibility of raising a childs life.

Answer 7

I chose not to have children because I knew I didn't want to give up my freedoms. Aka, I was selfish. Then I got pregnant. Apparently, what I had planed for my life and what a higher being had planed for my life were 2 different things. I now have a 7 yr old daughter and wouldn't change a thing.
My best friend has no children. She and her husband both own their own businesses and enjoy traveling. She has never had the urge to have children and doesn't hear a biological clock. Her husband doesn't care one way or the other.
My sister has no children because she and her husband travel the world and have spent 2 years living in Costa Rica, 2 years in India, 2 years in Thiland and are no going back to India. They have always felt it wasn't condusive to having children. (Although now they can't have any. My sister had to have a hysterectomy a few years ago)

Answer 8

what a lonely life to not have any children!!!
I have 2 children and love every minute of it!
I have a friend whos' a model and never wanted to do that to her body so she found a husband that felt the same way. They say they want to spend their life traveling. and that if they had children they wouldn't be able to travel.
In my opinion I think that when this couple retires they will have nothing to talk about. And it will be very lonely!!
My house has always been filled with kids and I can't wait for my kids (someday in the future) to have kids of their own. so that my house will be filled with grandkids.
A child is a blessing!!!

Answer 9

I have 6 children, but I do know someone that is childless by choice. Mainly she never wanted to be tied down and have that responsibility. She helped raise her siblings and was a second(if not only) mother to them and just didn't want to do that for the rest of her life to more children. She doesn't see herself as a mother. She values others children, and is more than willing to have a smile and kind word, but at the end of the day she likes to be just herself and not something for someone else. :)

Answer 10

I decided not to because of the way the world was. That was 20 some years ago. We did get pregnant once though & my wife was going to bleed to death if she had not had an abortion. Ironic huh? We would have had a child if not for that though. I always thought it was more fun to practice making a baby than to actually have one. My friends were always happy to let me watch their kids if I needed some kids around, LOL! The world situation gets worse every day. I hope that changes.