Im a 20 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Im a real good kid as far as my parents know. My parents were meant to go away for a night so i invited my BF over and we were messing around a bit. Then after that i walked out of my room naked cos "i was home alone" and i walked into my dad. He just carried on walking and ignored me for a bit. Then after wards i found out they had a fight and came home and he then called me outside and kinda asked what was goin on and told me if i was sexually active i must use protection. I said i was not having sex. I just said we were changin to go for a swim which is the truth i just left out the stuff in between and he got up and walked out and has not said a thing about it since but i can see he is either angry or diappointed. My mom says he is upset at me and im just scared he will HATE my Boyfriend now and things wont ever be the same?? will thay hate him for my mistake and how should we act towards my dad... Please help...
2007-02-11 10:04:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, this may sound mean, but why are you 20 years old and still living at your parents house? You are old enough to get your own apartment and then you wouldn't have to worry about what your parents think about your boyfriend until you decide whether to marry him or not.
2007-02-11 10:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by laangel464 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"....And the truth will set you and your BF free". If I was you, based on my dad character, after letting some times go by, after he cool off a little bit, I would confront him at the right time and right place again and lead the conversation. Tell him how you feel about what happened. Let him know that you will always be his little girl no matter what, and with an very humble heart tell him you want to have his love and respect back because they mean a lot to you and your relationship with your BF. I would also watch out for that not happen again knowing what kind of person my dad is.
2007-02-11 10:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jodan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u r 20 but u are still under their roof. Big mistake endulging in your little romp under their roof....lol Yea, it sucks but its the truth. Have enough respect for them not to do it in their house if your gonna go against their wishes and raising.
However, you are 20 and have been dating him for 4 years. They know you guys arent innocent. May not know if you have actually had sex, but they were once young too.
I wouldnt sweat it. Its human nature and if they want to talk to u about it, they will. Just tell them if they ask that you are safe and will continue to be. There is no point in lieing about anything. Like i said, they know already. He didnt believe u when u told him about the swim. He is just disappointed because u r still considered "his little girl" and parents dont wanna look at their children as adults. He just had to look at u in a different light.
He will be fine. Be an adult when they ask, if they do, and tell them the truth. Try to respect their wishes when it comes to their house though.
Act normal like always. Everything will be fine.
2007-02-11 10:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if u r 20 why are u calling yourself a kid?? second of all why the hell would he ask you if u was sexually active and all that its none of his buss ur 20 years old and u have dated him for 4 years! must mean u love him rit?!! i think u just need to stop worrying about what ur parents think i am 16 now and if i want to have sex i will only if its the right person but damn ur 20! haha
2007-02-11 10:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down first of all. 2nd, be honest with your dad. just tell him that you guys were messing around and that you do know to use protection. i'm sure your dad knows that after 4 years that something would be going on. he's just being dad, protecting his daughter. but the main thing is to be honest with him or things really will go bad between you guys. and as far as him not liking your bf, don't you know that half the times, dads never like their daughters' bf's? they never think guys are good enough for us. just talk to him and trust me that eventually everythign will return to normal.
2007-02-11 10:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your dad is going to hate you or your bf. It's hard for a man to think of his PLG (precious little girl) doin the nasty. I'll bet it's not really a surprise to him tho. I mean, you are 20. You are old enough to make your own decisions about what to do with your body. It may take him a little time to adjust to the idea, so he may be out of sorts for awhile.
2007-02-11 11:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest there are other problems as well as disappointment that you did not tell the truth --- they were the same as you and know what was happening ---- they are just concerned that you are being careful --- i know when our daughter and son started being sexually active we made sure they were being safe --- maybe go and talk to them --- let them know you are being careful
they were probably upset because of the fight as well
2007-02-11 10:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you are a big girl now, move out. If you and your boyfriend are this serious you should consider getting a place of your own to make situatuons like this dissapear.
2007-02-11 10:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hates your boyfriend, oh well. Your dad will have to learn to tolerate him and understand it. Just act like you always do. And besides your dad was young too...
2007-02-11 10:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by MoreDucks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are advoiding your dad yourself.....try talking to him...tell him how you feel and that you don't want him being upset with you or hating your boyfriend.
2007-02-11 10:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kickin' Back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋