Sex with an employee?

Question

I'm married, she is married. she doesn't know i like her. I think she likes me but she thinks I'm happyly married. (i'm not) I wouldn't have a problem if it was just sex. She is my employee... What should I do? Everyday we get to be alone at the office and the temptation is always there..... What should I do..???

If everybody says "don't do it" how come I hear about people doing it all the time???

Answer 1

Be a man with values, morals, integrity, and self respect. If your marriage isn't happy then fix it or end it. Cheating isn't the answer and someone who would cheat on their partner to be with you (whether you were single or not) isn't anyone of high moral or ethical fiber either. Is that really the kind of person you want to be or want to associate with? Is it worth an orgasm to compromise everything inside of you that is good, and to build up some UGLY karma that'll come back around to ya eventually?

Think about it...what goes around comes around...you'd never have the right to be upset or complain if anyone ever cheated on you again...by doing it, you would be okaying anyone to do it (even to you). Not so groovy, huh?

Answer 2

So wrong! Even if you were both single it would be very stupid to have sex with an employee. Start thinking with the head above your waist, and if nothing else do what is best for your business.
On another note, cheating on a spouse is a low and horrible. If you don't want to be married then don't be. But don't sneak around. Have some honor and class.

Answer 3

Before I begin my fierce rounds of attack and denunciation, I would like you to remember that I am merely answering your question in my perspective, so don't take much of this in offense.
One should NEVER have sex with his employee. It is wrong and in violation of certain laws. If you don't have a good marriage, try to straighten it out and don't cheat on your wife. It is a horrible and despicable thing to do. Moreover, she's married.
Resist your temptation and know that you should not be so shallow ("i wouldn't have a problem if it was just sex"), so concerned witht the phsyical satiability.
Aside from violating not only vague but universal moral codes, you also run the risk of burdening yourself with a "scandal" and guilt.
Go home now, and talk to your wife (of course, in general, not about your intention) about your marriage. Tell your employee (if she really likes you) that you have a family/marriage and that she should giving cues. Finally, tell yourself about your moral obligations, your legal consequences, and your marital vows before ever think about sex again.
Fix you marriage, fix your mind, and fix yourself.
Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Well if i were you i would try and to keep my distance it would be diffrent if she wasnt married but she is so now you have you and 3 other ppl to think about so just ask her for lunch as a friend DONT LET ANY SEXUAL CONTACT HAPPEN you never know she might be able to give you some married advice personally and then thats your chance to find out how she feels about herself and her marriage then you explain to her how yours is going and then you both can be supportive towards each other and you can know where to go from there with or without each other as friends or lovers BUT DO NOT HAVE SEX YET BECAUSE THIS CAN CONFUSE THINGS ON BOTH ENDS

Answer 5

Don't do it work and sex don't mix. If you are not happily married than you need to be talking to your spouse and find out why you are not happy any longer because at one time you loved each other enough to marry what happened and as for your employee she of he won't be your employee very long if you cross that line and have sex. Too much drama watch Jerry Springer and get over this lust stuff.

Answer 6

If it were serious, you would first have to tell your wife and get a divorce from your wife. Then, she would have to get a divorce too. Then even if it did work out, you still have to work togeather and see eachother everyday. If it doesn't work out, you still have to work togeather and see eachother every day. You just want what you cannot have and if you get with someone to begin with starting out with lies and cheating, you should expect more of that to come when you are togeather. Quit being a jerk and realize that the person who really loves you is at home washing your clothes while you don't appreciate it now. I'm sure the person your thinking about cheating with would never do half of the things your wife does for you now. Liars and cheaters belong togeather.

Answer 7

Dont do it...nothing good will every come of this. First of all, even if your not happily married shes might be attracted to you and could even enjoy the sex but she's never gonna leave her man for you....it doesnt happen that way very often. Secondly, your married and she's married...your spouses will surely find out and that's not good either....her big husband will come after you and undoubtly your wife will go after her...Not Good!! And....another point to make----she's your employee....she could get you for sexual harressment or something. So...all in all.....Don't Do It!!!

Answer 8

Do NOT do pursue this one! Nothing good can come from this even if it is just sex. Trust me. you both could lose your jobs to say the least. she could sue the company. I'm just giving you a couple of things that could happen here. If you only have sex, what happens when it's done? Women don't like to have sex then blown off. she will be pissed even though you may not think so. And why would you do this to your wife anyways? Don't take this path. Like i said, nothing good will come out of it. sex is not worth what will happen in the end.

Answer 9

Don't do it. Understand that of all the things you just said, she is in fact your employee. Making a sexual advance towards her undermines not only your business ethic, but places you and your business in a position of liability if she were to make a sexual harassment claim. You also mention that it would be OK if it were "just sex". To women, it's never just sex. At some point she will make an emotional attachment to the sex act (That's what human females do) and I suspect that once that happens, your life and your business will suffer needlessly

Answer 10

Go home and sleep with your wife, your marriage is what you make of it. Happy or not that's the one you're stuck with for the rest of your life. Don't commit adultery. There's no such thing as it just being sex. Not to mention that she's married and how do you know that she wants to sleep with you? Just because you're in an unhappy marriage doesn't mean she is. So don't try to bring her down with you. So basically you already committed adultery in your heart and the only thing that's stopping you is the opportunity. So you need to leave your wife. You're only making it worse for the both of you, sleeping with that woman will be the worst mistake of your life.