at this middle school dance this boy that i liked was there i had my friends to ask him to dance with me but he keep saying no so i kept trying but still no so i was mad and sad i wished someone could dance with me but no one did and when i left the building to get in the car i was sad and i started to cry because the boy that i liked wouldn't dance with me so..... how do i get him to notice me?
2007-02-11 09:49:31 · 11 answers · asked by sports_girl392 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on.
You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation--see the Warnings below.
Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. Any guy who does want a fake kind of girl is not a guy whose attention is worth having. Resist the temptation to put on a show or to do anything that just isn't you just to get his attention.
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye.
Smile and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.
Flirt. Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way.
Try to be around him often, such as sitting near him. Take interest in the activities he's interested in him, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons.
Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help.
Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, that you respect something about him, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
Be brave and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in.
Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.
Tips
Be sure to have gum, breath mints, Listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly, especially if you're hoping to start a conversation.
It's always a good idea to keep yourself well-groomed. While there are guys who get uncomfortable and intimidated if you're all dolled up, it never hurts to stick to a few hygiene basics: shower daily, brush your teeth regularly, use deodorant, keep your hair decent (not perfect, but decent), and take care of your skin.
Better yet, stay healthy!
Speak your mind. You're not a drone, and any guy worth having will love it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise, don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances). Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem.
If you cannot relate to any of his interests, or even make a genuine effort to get into it, there will never be ground for a lasting relationship anyway. Dump your intentions now.
Being too straightforward might mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.
Warnings
Be careful whose attention you're getting, and what kind of attention you're earning.
Being noticed by a sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can avoid by being wary.
You can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. You are a normal, complete person all on your own, and you don't need a guy's attention to be happy.
Being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.
2007-02-11 09:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, middle school boys are shy, so he didn't want his friends to make fun of him dancing. You shouldn't push or pressure him.....I don't think that will get him to like you. Give him some space. Say hello, but don't go any further. If he likes you, he will make a move.
2007-02-19 06:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound cruel, but it sounds like he has noticed you and has given you his answer. He said "no" numerous times to the request for a dance. I would say that he does not seem interested. Sorry.
2007-02-18 09:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't like u
u cant force him just be hi friend and he will see your attitude if he likes it or not then maybe he will ask u out
and did u see those helpful hints on nick they will help u j/k
just take my advice it will work trust me try it
2007-02-11 09:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by hollabacgurl136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant make him like you. try becoming friends with him then you can try to go up a step. i hope you solve your problem
2007-02-19 04:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by brazilian angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that your sorry that your friends bugged him. He will understand that happend to me finally i got time to talk to him and asked him to talk to me and he listend.
2007-02-18 09:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by angel#23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flash ur **** jk well ask him questions uknow talk to him im a boy and i like it when girls do that to me touch him i like tat too lol well yeah just talk to him
2007-02-11 09:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be simple enough and wait for the guy to make the first move not you doing it...
2007-02-17 20:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by crixa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him yourself
2007-02-11 09:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried saying hi ?
2007-02-19 09:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Maka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋