This morning I was suppose to go to church but I woke up a little late. We have a hot water tank and I was afraid it was going to run out of water if I got in. So, I didn't go to church or take a shower. Now my mom's mad at me and won't leave me alone. I'm also grounded and can't go to the next or in the month's dance. She almost went and got the belt to spank me with. She won't leave me alone and is treating me like a criminal. Also, my brother started to cry and she thought I did something to him. She almost spanked me there too. I told her she's treating me like a criminal and she said I back talking her. My dad she thinks she overdoing it but she won't listen to him. Is all of this fair or not? How can I tell her if it's not because she won't listen to me either?
2007-02-11 09:41:50 · 16 answers · asked by Heather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I go to church every weekend on less I'm sick or the weather is real bad. She never gives me a chance to say my side I constantly feel like crap. I constantly think of killing myself and feel this way all the time when I'm around her. When ever I am not with her, I'm happy and want to keep living. Is this bad? i pray all the time and also go to the Sunday school.
2007-02-11 09:55:49 · update #1
No, it's definately not fair. Unfortuneately, if she's not going to let you speak. It isn't going to work out. Your mom is set in her ways and really there's no way to change it. It's stupid that she don't leave you alone either...what's it suppose to prove anyway? And now your brother is starting to cause grief for you.. I know one thing with your mom treating you like a criminal.......I don't think God would like that. She is suppose to set an example and we are all human and everyone makes mistakes...regardless. Grounding you and you not being able to go to the dances is quite stupid too. Your dad should really step in and do something. Otherwise, I think you're really going to have a more hard time in the future. I really do hope things will work out for you.
2007-02-11 09:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by ********* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your mom is upset because you didn't make it to church she has every right to be. There are other things that you could have done to ensure that you could make it to church. You could have taking your chances and took a shower, washed up in the sink or boil water on the stove.microwave. God says come as you are so there are no excuses. You should be real with yourself and Mom, you didn't go to church because you didn't want to go. Had it been the day of the dance you would have been creative and made a way to get there. Have that same passion for getting yourself to church. Try coming clean then, Mom may listen or at least have a greater respect for you.
2007-02-11 09:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Unsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there might be more to it. Maybe your mom is under stress of some sort. Give her some time to cool of and then try to talk to her about something else and maybe ease into asking her about the happenings today. No blaming, screaming or arguing that is not getting anywhere.
You will not understand her doings until you have children, believe me, I speak from experience.
I'm not a fan of spanking with belts or other things, this is something you need to talk to a counselor or teacher about. Or maybe another trustful person.
2007-02-11 09:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by baby_keks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your mum why she spanks you? I mean asked me nicely...not sarcastically?
Is your mum going through an emotional time?
She probably worried and is over paranoid about you losing "values" and "morals". I've not gone to church before because I slept through it. "Going to church is the least I could do" is what I tell myself because I am not most devout Christian and have far too many weaknesses.
She is being a little two strict, but is there a history behind all this?
2007-02-11 09:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maya P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a child, parents don't tend to listen to their children. It isn't fair but you're under their rule until you leave their house. Do everything they tell you and don't back talk, do what you have to do to make it out of their house with the blessings of God. Good luck sweetie if you ever need to talk I'm here. I find I have the same problem as my parents. Great thing I'm a senior.
2007-02-11 09:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all who would spank a girl that is old enogh to go to a prom/dance, 2ndly that is dumb. My mom would never!!!!!! And plus you had reasons 4 not coming or taking a shower. Make a list of reasons u should be able 2 go and show it to her and see if she changes her mind
2007-02-11 09:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by swallows_secrets_4_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother does not like what she is seeing in you. She is upset because she is afraid. Sit with her and ask her one-to-one in a gentle way, "Mom, what is it that I can do to make everything right between us?" She will tell you. Then you can choose to change and adapt to her ideals as a daughter...or choose to rebel and bear the consequences of your actions. The ball is now in your court.
2007-02-11 09:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its fair I mean missing church is wrong but whats done is sone try taling to her when shes calmed down some
2007-02-11 09:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fair or not, it's part of being a kid and living under your parents roof. your moms just in a bad mood. younger siblings get older siblings in trouble all the time. i don't know how many times i've gotten my brother in trouble... give this some time to blow over.
2007-02-11 09:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by stephieSD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. so you didnt go to church, thats not a cardinal sin. you are free to worship at home. parents will never listen when you feel you are being treating unfairly. parents being parents they will just assume that you are trying to get out of trouble. sounds like you are just screwed
2007-02-11 09:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by jinxygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋