My son is 23mths and going through terrible 2's early. screams when doesnt get his own way.?

Question

Because hes teething i feel sorry for him & give in. Any advise on how not to give in? I'm at my wits end!!!!!!!

Answer 1

When I was that age, I got spanked. Which made me stop.

Answer 2

Is he screaming because of not having his own way, or is he screaming because he is in terrible pain?
Teething with those back teeth is a nightmare for a little one and he will need a bit of extra loving for a few days. Don't feel bad about giving in while he is poorly, my daughter was like this a literally two/three weeks ago- she's 21 months old. Go for the quiet life whilst he has those teeth hurting him, and delay being firm until he is better and you are stronger and more able to cope.
I'm probably going to be given some bad ratings for this, but I think that using this method helped me alot, and now that my daughter is not in so much pain, it's easier for me not to give in and teach that patience works! I really don't think there's any point in launching yourself into a battle you know you won't win, so whilst he's poorly and in pain, indulge him, and dose him up on Medised and Baby ibuprofen.
Wait until he is better and you are more in control of your confidence and emotions.

Answer 3

He's 23 months old so he's right on schedule! You didn't expect he'd turn exactly 24 months before he began to assert himself did you?
This is a matter of perspective. I LOVE that age. It is my favorite age for a child. Think about it. He can walk now. He has some words. He is interested in so many things and is beginning to potty train. I think of this age as TERIFFIC TWO!
As the others have already written, redirect your baby. He is still a baby, so be patient with him. Pick him up and tell him, "OH, I'm soooo angry right now!" He needs comfort when he gets frustrated. His favorite word is probably, "no" which I find so cute. However, he probably just can't stand to hear you use it! Try not to say no, but offer another choice instead. "No, sweetie, you can't touch that, but here you can play with this." When he screams just be sympathatic as I described above.
Try to keep a good schedule of meals and naps. Make sure YOU are well rested and eat well too! It takes a lot of patience to keep up with a toddler. Your level of tolerance will depend a great deal on how fit you are, so adding a B complex vitamin to your diet too might help. Begin engaging him in social situations such as play groups or daycare a few days a week; especially if he doesn't have siblings.
Consistency is important for him now. Enjoy this little person who is asserting himself, rage and all. Give him lots of hugs and kisses and enjoy how funny he is right now. Before you know it 20 years will have passed by and this cuddly person will be a man. His temperment will depend on how well you handle this and the coming stages of development.

Answer 4

You have to stop giving in. If you continue you will make a habbit of it and he will think al i have to do is scream to get what i want. I know a child thats two and screams at every oppotunity he gets. You have to be firm with him at his early age so he knows can't always get what he wants. Give hm a time out, sit him down somewhere and ignor his crying. That same child i just told you about is very atention seeking. He throws himslef on the floor just to get noticed. So don't worty about him. Besides if you keep giving in what will you do when their 3, 4 or 5.
Best of Luck

Answer 5

Hi i know it is hard but try and cut off from the screaming and ignore him that always works for me even if he is teething he should not get his own way as you are only saying its OK mummy will give in so he will try it on more just be firm and he is getting older enough to use time out like the bottom step 1 minute for each year if he will not sit there hold him there give it time and he will sit on the step on his own but just ignore him don't even look at him this works best for my 3 year old son his nursery told me to do this as it works for some of the children watch 911 you will get alot of input watching it.
Good luck

Answer 6

It is very easy to say be firm. My best advice is to only say no when you really mean it, you probably won't be able to give in then. Try distraction techniques too, if you act before he really goes into one it will work. Also don't beat yourself up if you give in try to keep control of the situation and explain why you are cross while cuddling to signify everything is O.K. Sometimes kids get themselves stuck in a situation of screaming and being naughty and don't know how to stop. He will grow out of it, it helps if you stay in control. I can remember the time my daughter threw herself screaming on the ground in the middle of a busy shopping are. I stood and watched until she stopped. The old ladies thought I was horrid but she never did it again. I gave her a hug when she stopped. Good Luck

Answer 7

Don't worry, your not on your own, my daughter is 24 months and wow can she create!!!

She throws herself on the floor, screams, cries and shouts if she can't get her own way.

What i try and do is ignore her, i make sure that she is safe but i turn my back on her saying something like " Now thats silly isn't it" or " I don't want to hear all of that noise". Alternatively I have tried taking her mind off what she is creating about like asking her if she wants to read a book or watch her favorite TV programme.

One or the other seems to settle her down. Have a go.

good luck by the way!!

Answer 8

this isn't early for the tears and tantrums to begin !. You need to be tough with him or he will very quickly learn that he can get his own way and that you give in to him. Remember you are the adult and what is the worst that is going to happen if he doesn't get his own way? my guess would be a major tantrum. tantrums are embarrasing but most parents have been there so my advice would be to ignore this behaviour (or pretend to) Tell him you will speak to him once he has stopped crying and go about your business! once he has settled down then give him attention. Are there any particular triggers that cause the tantrums ?

Answer 9

I have survived four cases of the terrible two's. The most helpful way to get them to settle down and realize that you're not going to give in is just to simply walk away and pick up a book or newspaper to read and IGNORE the screaming. Eventually, they will come around.

Answer 10

Terrible 2's usually start around 18 months. Don't give in because their learning that all they have to do is crying and you will give them what they want.Talk to them as calmly as you can but if you have to raise your voice a little bit. Start giving them a time out or let them know that behavior like that is not acceptable. Like taking away TV or games or no candy. Take away something that shows that bad behavior gets things taken away. Maybe you should just let them cry that is what I did.

Answer 11

I found that if I walked away from little girl when she was having a hissy fit and not getting her way she soon stopped ....all kids are the same at this age, he'll grow out of this eventually but then something else comes along to drive ya up the wall !