I WUS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. @ 1ST I THOUGHT HE LOVED ME, BUT THEN HE BEGAN HITTIN ME. IT KEPT ON GETTIN WORSE. IM SO GLAD DAT I ENDED WIT HIM WHEN I DID, CAUSE I CULD HAVE BEEN DEAD NOW!!!!!!!!!!WUZ I SMART IN ENDING IT. I MEAN HE LOVED ME SO MUCH. HE WUZ MAKIN WEDDING ARRANGEMENTS!!!!!!!!!!! WUT DO YALL THINK??
2007-02-11 09:36:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no-body deserves to be in a abusive relationship , Guys that beat up on their wife / girlfriend / spouse don't deserve to live , it disgusts me to the highest level. They are only proving to themselves that they are @ssholes.
If I see anybody doing that in front of me , I intervene and take matters into my own hands , it may make me seem like a vigilante , but I have seen results of what can happen.
No matter what , who ever you are , if you are in a relationship like that , leave immediately.......it never subsides and will only get worse if you stay.
2007-02-11 09:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if anyone hits you or takes their anger out on you doesnt love you. Because when people love you they make sure no harm is done towards you. So if he was the one doing the harm then he didnt even care. Besides I believe every girl should be treating like their boyfriend or husbands quenn. And you never here about Queen Elizabeth getting abused do you?
2007-02-11 09:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were right to end it with him, because any guy who hits on women, doesnt deserve to b with that person..... i used to have a friend who is dating this abusive guy and she loved him and he said he loved her but he would throw her and yell at her and sometimes hit her. i tried my best to convince her to get away from him, because even if he has been nice to her more times than he has been abusive (also they were thinking about getting married but ne way), she doesnt deserve to be beaten on by anyone, not to mention she came from an abusive home, which she ran away from because she didnt have any other option, but i have no idea if she is alive or dead, because i havent talked to her in months, i hope she is ok, and i also hope she has come to her senses and left him........ but i kind of doubt that she has, because sometimes i think people dont want to realize that they need to get away from the person who is making their life worse and they dont want to leave that person because either they think they cant do ne better or they think that person will change for the better, which prolly wont happen, because some people just dont change.
2007-02-11 09:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by unstoppableflow17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of ended it the first time. I think that if a guy hits a girl that means hes a pussy and cant take a real fight. Im not saying that girls cant defend themselfs ,but still its wrong. My girlfriends mom is still in an abusive relationship and i think shes stupid. You ex was a pussy and you can tell him i said that!
2007-02-11 09:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was also in an abusive relationship for three years with my sons father. everytime he hit me it got a little bit worse(he fractured my nose on mothers day 2004). i know alot of people say that if he hits you, he does not love you but i don't think that is true. i know in my case he never admitted it but i think his father abused his mother and/or him when he was a child. it does not excuse the behavior but it does explain it sometimes. when people like this get in relationships they can't handle being "normal" , with no drama surrounding them. most times too (especially in my case) they are EXTREMELY jealous. i think they have the ability to love just not handle their emotions. my ex still loves me and i know it, and i will care about him until the day i die. when you have children caught up in the mix, you need to figure out what is most important. although he never touched my children, i could not just sit around and wait for it to happen. he was arrested for what he did to me but got out on bail and skipped his court date. they just recently found him and he is currently incarcerated. in the end you appreciate the love you have, but you are smart enough to leave when you know you need to. good luck and don't look back!
2007-02-11 09:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by mexicanatlanta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i think you did the right thing dumping him. Any guy that hits you isn't good enough for you, and isn't worth your time. If he really loved you he'd protect you, not harm you. And think, if he was making wedding plans that means he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you. Would you have liked to have been beat up for the rest of your life? i hope you have an awesome rest of the day!
2007-02-11 09:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. You didn't lose anything in there. Now, you can go out there and find yourself a gentleman that treats you with respect. Good Luck!
2007-02-11 09:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the smartest thing you did was end it. Love don;t beat you up. Do you understand that? When someone says they love you then they want to protect you and take care of you not kill you.
2007-02-11 09:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by bobblehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that even if he did love you, there is absolutely no justification whatsoever to hit a woman (unless in defense) but i feel you did the smart thing to save yourself aginy and pain...physically,mentally and emotionally you chose the right path
2007-02-11 09:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you did exactly the right thing, i mean, especially if you guys were going to get married, that wouldve been horrible, and i dont know why your asking this, because why would you want to be with a guy that beats you!?!? i say you did the right thing, and never go back to him, NEVER
2007-02-11 09:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by 88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋