This is so upsetting, I dont know what to do?

Question

So I went on a date saturday night with this guy I've been talking to. The date went really good till the end of the night when my family was flipping out cause I didnt answer my phone the whole time I was on the date with this guy. That was my fault for getting them upset and I apologized. My sister however took it too far and went as far as to sending my guy a message telling him that he was a bad influence and that he wasnt a man and all kinds of things when she hasnt even met him. That made me so mad cause its not her place to be doing that and she made the situation worse than what it really was. I'm so embarassed about the whole thing and what sucks is I really like this guy but how are we suppose to go back to making things smooth after my psycho sister? I asked him if he wanted to stop dating because of what happened to let me know now rather than later and he said that no he still wanted to talk. Since the whole situation happened though he hasnt really bothered to call.

I want to msg or call him but I dont want to be too much you know? So should I just give him some space and see if he comes around or what? This sucks!

What sucks is it was our second date and when I was talking to my sister she really pushed my buttons and I started yelling infront of him. Ha I apologized for getting that way infront of him but I explained to him how my sister was acting really pushed my buttons and I even apologized for my sister. What else can I do?

Oops I meant to say we went out friday night.

Answer 1

If anything I'd make my brother( i don't have a sister) go over and apologize. THEN go over and see if there's somethin to salvage

Answer 2

Your family is over protective because they love you very much. If the guy hasn't bothered to call give him some time, perhaps he was a little scared of the whole situation, so he needs time to think things through.

If he really likes you though, you will hear from him again. If not find another guy and this time at least introduce him to your whole family (if you feel comfortable) or at least call them while you are out on that date and let them know when you will be coming home so they won't repeat the "freakin' out" scenario all over again.

Feel lucky that you have a family that cares so much for you.

Answer 3

Well you sound young so I feel comfortable in telling you this. There will be way more embarrassing moments in your life. As far as your sister goes, if I were you, I would have a little one-on-one with her. First off, you have parents and she is not one of them. She had no right to do that to you. Now you've already talked to the guy and said sorry about everything, right? Well if he doesn't bring it up again then you shouldn't either. When you dwell on something over and over again, it makes the situation worse. Plus you don't want to look like an insecure little girl to this guy, right? We've all had that one embarrassing date in our lifetime and there will be plenty more. Cheer up, it'll be alright dear!

Answer 4

I'd keep in communication with him while you work out things at home. He will think they scared you off him if you don't reach out to him.

Something strange is happening at home tho. Your sister's reaction sounds like she doesn't want you dating this particular guy. What could be the reason for that? Does she like him? Has she been with him before? Maybe she knows or has heard some rumors about him and is trying to protect you without telling. Or maybe she's afraid to lose you as a close person b/c she knows you'll spend more time with this guy. You need to sit down and talk it out with her.

Check with your parents too. They might not like him for some reason.

Answer 5

So, what the heck is your family doing trying to call you while you're on a date anyway? That is so too intrusive and rude. They need to leave you alone when you're on dates, and ask you about it later. Your sister was completely out of line. In the future, tell them you're turning off your phone while your out, and if you need to talk to them, you'll call. Geez!

You can always apologize to him again. He might have been scared off, and that's a shame. After all, it's your family, and he has to deal with them, too, if he's going to date you.

Answer 6

yu didnt say how old yu are?? if yu are 18+ yur sister shouldnt be "mother-henning "yu? as for calling yur family or them calling yu? why? is the guy an ex-con, or a stalker?or a registered sex offender? This guy probably wont deal with being scrutinized and subjected to something he knew nothing about till yu told him about it? he was probably having a good and memorable time till all the crap hit the fan? my bet is he will not be calling? he has already moved on? Sis needs to take a chill pill or a jealousy capsule?

Answer 7

He's probably waiting for you to solve the problem with your family. No guy wants to get caught up in that situation. If you dont address the situation then he has no reason to come around again. Set some limits with yoiur family and let him know the situation has been resolved. Good luck.

Answer 8

Ugh, that's a sticky situation there. Unfortuanately, there's not a lot you can do without looking too pushy - perhaps call and apologize for your sister? Just be careful not to sound too mad at her - you'd scare off a guy if you talk too harsh about someone close to you!

Answer 9

It sounds like you may be overreacting a bit. you went out saturday and it is only sunday! What your sister did wasn't right but you probably should have answered the phone when your parents tried to call. They probably just wanted to know that you were okay, expecially since they hadn't even met your date.
He should understand that too.
good luck with your teenage dilemna and know that the world isn't over!

Answer 10

Don't text...so impersonal give him a call and say
..'hey, you mad at me for what happened?"

I wouldn't worry too much.
You should've seen the big scene my dad made when I first dated this guy who lived south of a street we were not allowed to go south of growing up. Big screaming scene out in the middle of our house. Kicking him out, etc.

Guess what...we got married. Didn't scare him off.

{divorced 4 years later though - guess Daddy was right....hahaha!!]

Answer 11

First off, you need to get you sister in check! Insulting you date's manhood is a little extreme. Secondly, I don't think it's too aggressive to call him ONCE. After that leave it on him. If he truly wants to pursue something with you he'll be happy you called. If not he has lost out on something wonderful.